Extra Marital Affairs

India
April 13, 2009 11:36pm CST
In these days we can observe that lots of people get involved in extra marital affairs. It is very normal case in these days. Everybody knows that these types of affairs not good for anybody. Even these are against moral value as well. But even after that people get involved in these types of affairs. If anybody here know what are the difference factors due to which people involve in these types of relationship. Share here your opinion about this issue. Why and how people get involved in these type of affairs. Is relly these people are unsatisfied from there partners or they are involve only for fun.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 09
Men are angry because they resent being blamed for everything that has gone wrong since Adam ate that apple. If you consider marriage a lifelong romance, you are certain to be disillusioned. The shallowest of complaints is that marriage destroy romance. Of course it does. Marriage is designed to allow two people to fall out of love and into reality. Men are prone to change partners whenever passion, excitement, and intensity fade. If you don't react fiercely when your husband has an affair, he will think wisely and come back to his old self. Extra marital affairs are normal to all men who are always hunting for varieties.
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• United States
15 Apr 09
The same holds with women as well. It's not just men that have affairs. I do agree that if you think romance is going to be a constant thing in a marriage, you are bound to be disappointed. Life often gets in the way of romance, but that doesn't mean couples can't continue to discover it from time to time throughout their relationship.
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
THere are a lot of factors involving extra marital affairs. but i can tell you a few because mine wasn't that secretive to my hubby. first, bored, when the two of you are tired of doing the same old thing, and you wanna do something different then affairs is actually nice for both to be exploring themselves. second, lost of interest, just like getting bored but not doing anything to spice up the relationship, results into fighting. the rest are almost the same.so, try to make new things for both of your partner to avoid cheating.
• India
14 Apr 09
Is you think that if you start new affair then you can do anything new there which you have'nt do here. Overall affair is same. It does,nt matter that it is with your hubby or with some other person.
@smartjack (521)
• India
14 Apr 09
i am against extra marital, it not only spoils the relation between the couples but spoils the relationship of 3 people, spouses and the lover. people just have extra marital affairs and spoil their entire life by doing such idiotic stuffs. one should be loyal towards their spouses and keep a pure relationship with others.
• India
14 Apr 09
I support your opinion as well. But questionis why this things become more popular even when everybody know this.
@rsa101 (22711)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Well there are many factors that are involve. Basically, the first thing is miscommunication, infrequent communication between the partners would dampen the relationship therefore kicking in for one or both parties to look for others they can talk or relate to. Another factor for me is financial, upon settling down this is the less talk about scenario most marriages ignore. Often they just find themselves in heavy debt and usually love flies out of the window when money goes out which may also trigger the partners looking for a better financial and emotional provider. Another factor I find is losing interest with one another, although quite related to the first paragraph. Sometimes when a married couple has lost the passion in the partnership, there is a tendency to look for something more exciting and challenging from outside the marriage.
• India
14 Apr 09
You can loose interest in your new partner as well. Financial position cannot be secured for lifetime. Main thing is you need to believe on your partner.
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@vzihan (145)
• China
15 Apr 09
It is a normal case now,however,more people are loyal to their family and their lovers.I still believe that the true and enduring value stay in family.I think that the extra marital affairs and other kinds of betraying are from the unhappy of disappointed marriage,and sometimes from the lust to a fresh one.Sometimes another woman is even less beautiful than a guy's wife,but this guy still betray his wife,it is incredible.Maybe he get something out of marriage that his wife cannot give her.We also see that some husbands and wifes love each other from start to end and some very old couples still walk hand in hand.How do you think about that?No matter how the world changes,there is still lasting love.
• Portugal
14 Apr 09
there's a lot of factors involved, too many for anyone to make a complete list. sometimes they are serious problems and other times not so much. for example, some couples have an 'open relationship' what is to say they mutually agree that they are allowed to have extra marital affairs, providing they are purely fisical, there are no feelings involved. but this option is only viable to people that are able to separate fisical an emotional needs very easily. i don't think i'd be able to do that. other times they lose interest in they're partner, they love him or her, but are not in love, meaning they're fisical needs aren't being met, either it is because they have lost interest in their partners body or because they feel the urge to go further sexually. there is also the case when the couple is mad at each other, or going through a fase, having issues, that they create these superficial relationship as an oputlet of the frustration they are feeling. and, of course, those who just don't care and need to have their way with everyone that comes their way...
@mira91 (986)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
I guess most of the factors are due to certain kinds of unsatisfaction from their partners. I guess sometimes they just sort of fall out of love with each other...? or some just get married because of money..But still, i'd suggest these couples to try to work things out and not just go around having affairs just cz things aren't going so well at home..They should have that basic sense of responsibility for what their marriage was once worth...Well, that just how i feel..
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Lots of reason why people find someone outside their relationship. The biggest factor of separations nowadays are, sexually incompatible, money, and internet. Sexually incompatible is number one and even in recent statistics, this is the first reason of separations. Most men when they are satisfied they tend to look for someone who is good in bed, and then with this reason, they think that they are in love with number 2. Money, if you don't have food, house of you own or not a good provider, your partner is lazy and you are the one who is providing for the family, do you think you can still go on with the relationship. Even if you love your partner so much, you will still fight over this matter. And you can hear lot of stories, that the family are fighting with your spouse because of money. Internet lots of temptation in the internet, i have my own experience about this. Pretending to be single, but in reality very much attached.
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
well.....for starters there are really some single women who love to go for married men! As per my friends doing so (extra marital affairs) gives them self satisfaction that they still have that charm even if they are already married. Sometimes men are longing for something which their wives lack or because after being married for so long things have changed for example being affectionate to one another fades....Just a thought
@srganesh (6345)
• India
14 Apr 09
I think,it is just that kick in having an extra marital affair,leads people to that.Having extra money,space and time will also be known factors.In other words,those people don't have respect for their family members or the society.They are self centered peoples.Well,do you blame or envy them?
• India
14 Apr 09
I think its mostly to do with our lifestyle these days. Both men and women are qualified enough to have ambitions and they are in the rat race to improve their career and earn more money and have more fun so naturally they are less and less willing to compromise on any issue. First and foremost thing to keep in mind is that marriage is a relation of compromise for both the spouses. As long as both are willing to forego a little for the other, true love prevails and families can tide off the worst. But in most cases, people are only too selfish…they do not want to sacrifice their personal space and money and career…its more of ‘what’s mine’ and not ‘what’s ours’. And then people are going out more and coming across so many influences that they start comparing their spouses and come up with excuses for no longer wanting to stay stuck in one marriage…it’s a case of the grass being greener on the other side, you know. Keeping faith, both in self and in spouse, is indeed becoming more and more difficult.