How to you bring the 'SPARK" back again in your relationship?
By debshie
@debshie (392)
Philippines
April 14, 2009 5:13am CST
I am talking our marriage. I think this is normal or is it? I hear a lot of things about marriage growing cold or stuff like that but I didn't quite understand it until now. Ours is growing cold, we are just about to reach our 5th year together and yet I think the feeling is already lost or hidden somewhere. We already lost the romance, the feeling is not there anymore. We are trying to make this work, and we admit that we need to fix this but we are just at the point where the thought of breaking up is almost a relief. I know we gotta work on something, but we just dont know where to start and how to start. Any advise would be very very welcome.
2 responses
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
15 Apr 09
Are you absolutely positive that there's ABSOLUTELY nothing there anymore? Think about the days when you guys were still 'together'. What made you guys that way and what made you guys what you are now? Was it maybe because you haven't had some time alone together? Go on a trip, go on romantic dinners, have s3x as much as possible, rediscover those feelings you had when you guys just met....Because if none of these are working and if the thought of breaking up is just a big relief to the both of you then i'm sorry mate....
You both have fallen out of love with each other.
Because if being bored with each other doesn't really describe the situation either, then i guess it happens...that people fall out of love...however sad it may be..:( Good luck, regards, mira.
@larish (2263)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Communicating with each other means that both of you are aware of the problem. Cheer up! it simply means that half of the problem has been solved. Now the other half is the solution, I guess it is better if you can talk to a more experience couple (relationship is more than 5 years). I believe that talking with them and hearing them share their experiences will make you and your spouse a better perspective about your growing relationship. It is also important that you won't give up for each other.
