The guest of honor may be AWOL...

Since this has been set for months to happen his father was not right to have another thing planned for the same time. Your son should come to the party it was his first obligation if you want to see it as that. His father was being insensitive to your feelings. I'd go ahead and tell everyone the party is on but the guest of honor may not be there, if this is what you wish to do. After all of the planning and work you have done for the party it not right for you to cancel the whole thing. You deserve to have it. Unless you wish to cancel it, but then you may feel slighted more than you do now by his possibly not being there. I'm sorry that your husband has messed with your plans. I do know that games and when and where they happen is not something that can be controlled. I'm sure that your son would love to go to a game. It's hard for him to chose between the two. His father got the tickets. You planned the party which has been known about for months. Your son is caught in the middle so to speak. He wants to satisfy father and mother. I'm sure he will do what he can to be at the party. I'd go ahead with it and let the hubby know that it's been planned for months and lots of people are coming to see your son. That he needs to make an effort to come home for the party. I hope it all works out.

I feel so sorry for you kids are a pain.My cousin arranged an 18th birthday party for my third cousin and he just did not turn up at all with no notice.He went into the local town with his mate instead leaving my poor cousin.With an expensive cake and all the trimmings in the local hall,neibours ,friends ,family ect.I could not make the party as I was working at the time. My poor cousin rose put so much effort into it.She never bothered with doing a party for her son anymore.I don't think kids this age think about things like we do.At least he told you he was not going to make it,still have a good though.see people for a while.old friends again.I feel your pain.xxxxx

Hi reiny! Oh wow! I can imagine how pissed off you are! I guess there was no way that he would tell his father he wasn't able to go is there? That is so messed up! You had this planned for so long! But, obviously his father had no idea so I guess there isn't a whole lot you can do since he is your son's father and making him choose, especially on his birthday wouldn't be fair either. I guess those are some of the perils of divorce! I'm sure that your son feels pulled in both directions, but since his time here is so limited it isn't right to put on him either.