Can you tolerate if your friend goes with your ex

That was really cruddy of her. It would have been one thing if she had brought up to you that she had feelings for him and asked you how you would feel if she went out with him, but she didn't. I have a strict code of ethics when it comes to my friends and its that you don't date a friends ex because it ruins the friendship. Yeah, you aren't together anymore and he should be able to date who he wants but your friend shouldn't have gone there. If she was there helping you out through the breakup, then she should have been thinking of you before she started dating him. I would call them out on this too. Let them know how completely not cool this and how it has screwed things up on both sides.

Well I guess it's time that you two should have a heart to heart talk with each other. It seems that she is just concerned maybe of hurting you double when your BF has broken off with you. I think this time she should explain this thing to you and I guess its worth breaking the friendship too if you confirmed that she is behind the breakup of your BF. I really think that its time to move on if they are happy about each other let them be but it is your right to be happy too so move one with it and if you can let the pain pass also it would be for your own good.

That was wrong. She should have told you about it. Or asked if it would bother you. I went through the same thing. My sister actually started pursuing my ex a day after he dumped me. It ended up not working out between the two of them, but i was terribly upset that my sister was doing this. For what you should do, i'm not entirely sure, since your friend doesn't know you saw text. But you should talk to her about it soon, tell her how you feel about the whole situation. Hopefully your friendship will be stronger than your friend's attraction to your ex.

I think you need to talk with your friend.She must to take into account your feeling,that's why she hide their relationship.If they really love each other,why not bless them.Though it's difficult to accept this deed.

I would find it extremely insulting. Anyone with a brain would have to realize that this would damage the relationship between you and the "friend". Just better not to do it.

I completely understand what you feels when he dated with your friend.It really hard for you.But since he is aready an ex,he can do anything he like,to love anyone he loves.

She didn't tell you because she knew you would be heartbroken :( But you know, he doesn't belong to you anymore. Maybe this is meant to help you heal and move on with your own life, and become happy. If she had told you beforehand, what would you say? Would you be angry? Would you tell her to stay away? Sometimes life isn't exactly how we want things. But your friend is important, please don't let a boy get in the way of friendship.

hahahahaaha what a discussion! it fits me. LOL because a friend of mine is dating or they are together with my ex. though shes hiding it, and its okay with me... they deserves each others a** LOL and im happy either.

i can tolerate it because he is already my ex...he is a free guy now...as for my friend..well ..it's p to her..but it would have been nicer if she informed me first that she is going out with my ex out of decency or courtesy... it's just fine with me since we have our own choices to make anyway...

Hi, I could understand how you feel. I would feel betrayed especially if more has happened between them. I think she may feel she has a right to be more since you and your b/f have been broken up but I would question my friendship with a friend who did that to me. Hope it all works out for you.

This is a tough one. If you are over him then you would think that it doesn't matter. However there is the golden rule that good friends do not date you ex's. At least not an ex that meant so much to you. She is hiding the relationship as to not hurt you but she should have discussed it with you first. Honesty is always the best policy it keeps the worst from coming otu later. If she really had strong feelings for this man she should have talked to you about it first. It doesn't seem that she is that great of a freind if she didn't come clean first. Good luck with that!

I would be hurt also. Actually i was. I had this happen to me. I wasnt super close with the girl, but she was my friend. I mean we hung out and stuff. And me & my boyfriend borke up & she dated him. I mean in the end she lost, because me & him are together now. he only dated her to get me back, but she had other intentions. She broke friend code & so did your friend. I would be crushed & not ver forgiving. I still havent forgiven the girl who did that to me. I am married to they guy she did this too so i mean maybe it hurt me so bad because we were so serious, but reguardless friends dont do that to friends ever. She is not really your friend. She is probably hiding it from you because in her mind she is protecting you, but really she just doesnt want it to be public that she is a bad friend.

that's nice... help me so much

Honestly I would feel offended if she does. She's my friend so she should know the line as I wouldn't do the same to her. But in time I will learn accept it and bless their relationship. Even I accept them, I just can hang out with them. I will feel awkward. I mean, he use to be with me, now he's all over her.

Trust is one of the foundation of friendship. It is not easy to give nor easy to earn. When you've trusted someone and they destroy that trust especially if she's your friend is a hard thing to deal with. The two of you should have a talk since she owe you an explanation. It's not like you own your ex-boyfriend but considering your friendship could be in danger, she should have said a word to you. On the other hand, maybe she's just waiting for the right time to tell. If both of you value your friendship that much, then at least try to rebuild that trust again.