Am i doing the right thing?

United States
April 14, 2009 7:01pm CST
So, me and this guy had a thing going for a long time. its been on and off. the first time we were together we were amazing. everythign was great..but then he told me that since he was older it wouldnt work out. i coudlnt believe it! i was heart broken for the longest time! then we talked about 4 mnths after that and it went just liek the last time, it was perfect and then he didtn have the balls to tell me he had gotten a girlfriend.aha i had to find out from his freinds! i really need help becuase i love him. and we are liek together again. do i talk to him? do i not falll for him again? help would be wonderfull1
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12 responses
@tails88 (135)
• United States
15 Apr 09
don't let this guy do this to you! Either tell him straight up to be better to you and not f@*& w/u, or just leave. You'll be better in the long run, even if it hurts now.
• India
15 Apr 09
i hurts u now itself....
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Kick this one to the curb. This sounds just like a relationship a friend of mine is going through and he has yo-yo her around for 5 years. She is not happy and he keeps her from being happy with someone else. Don't fall into his trap, he is using you as a backup girlfriend because he knows you are smitten and knows you will stay. He hasn't been honest with you, you may care for him but its apparent he doesn't care for you. There are plenty of decent guys out there, get rid of this loser and go find you a good one.
• India
15 Apr 09
every thig is good as posible one...
• United States
15 Apr 09
I wouldn't. He has already broke it off twice and once you knew for sure it was for another girl. I would find something better. It is out their trust me. But you are not going to find it wasting your time on him. Let sleeping dogs lie. He is the past. He should stay there!
• United States
15 Apr 09
First things first, you must do what's right for you. It seems like this guy is hurting you over and over again. How does it feel for you to keep going back through that pain? When is it going to be enough stress for you to decide that someone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Leave this guy behind. There will always be someone else to come along and sweep you off your feet if you give yourself the chance to get over the situation. Become positive with yourself and your life and do you. Get rid of all the negativity and move on with yourself. You will hurt for awhile, but all it takes is time and hopefully you can look back at this and laugh at how silly you were being.
• United States
15 Apr 09
If I were you I would move on. it was evident he wasn't ready for a real relationship then.. so whats the change of heart now. He used the age thing as an excuse.. trust me love a man knows what he wants... and when he finds something worth holding on to he wont let it go. in this case I beleive he is a player... he found another girl and didn't know how to man up and tell you he wasn't interested... don't waste your time have fun date and get to know different people, their are to many good guys to waste your time on a bad one good luck :o)
@mira91 (986)
• Singapore
15 Apr 09
You just said he had a girlfriend. Which part of that doesn't alert that girl instinct in ya to back off because the fact that he hid that from you meant that he is a jackazz, i'm sorry for saying this, and sorry if it offends you, but it's true...If he was sincere about his feelings for anyone, he wouldn't have gone off with another girl and still go flirting with another one and what more, he failed to mention his gf..Doesn't that tells you that he is sooo fickle that he can't even make up his mind about his woman? You should step back....Turn around....and walk off....I just don't want to see you hurt, hunn...Everything is said with concern...Good luck.. love, mira.
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Just move on, girl. He lied to you about his new girlfriend. Don't waste your time with this guy. Open your doors to other guys out there. The more deserving guy.
• India
15 Apr 09
i so glad to u.. right think is help to get the right person...
• United States
15 Apr 09
That boy will continue to play you as long as you let him. You need to cut ties with him. He will continuosly hurt you over and over again because he knows he can. Don't be his door mat. You can do better than that for yourself.
• United States
15 Apr 09
The first thing that stands out in your writing is that you used the phrase "it's been on and off". That tells me it wasn't truly committed because the two of you weren't committed to one another. It could be poor word choice, but that is how I interpret that phrase. The second thing that stands out, though it's difficult to hear, is why would you want to be with a guy that dumped you, got a new girlfriend (obviously moving on) who doesn't want you? I wouldn't want to be with a guy like that. I'd want to be with one that had the same feelings for me. You're young. I know, it's not what you probably want to hear, but it's the truth. You're going to meet a lot of gentleman in the years to come, especially when you go to college. You'll be surprised at how many guys will be there, and it will be a lot of on and off dating why you find the right man for you, that one special one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don't fall for the old thing of "I married my first sweetheart". That's rare. Most people date a lot of different people before the find the right one. And that's a great thing too because you'll find out just what you want in a mate by finding out what you don't want. Be well. Namaste-Anora
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
I'm sorry for your experience. I can feel you baby. Anyways, for me, I don't really think that age will matter to a relationship. Cause in my case, my girlfriend is younger than me and we had been a long distance relationship, but our relationship still works. We just have a constant communication which is think is the key to all relationship not just for the long-distance relations. Even if you guys are halfway around the globe far, but you have a communication everyday, through email or chat or whatever method, then i guess distance will not matter in your relationship. Especially if both of you TRUST each other. Then anything doesn't matter anymore, much more for distance... Good luck to all the lovers out there. Enjoy each others company.
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Run, do not walk, away from this guy. He used a lame excuse to dump you and then wasn't honest with you a second time when you started talking again. This is NOT someone you can trust or someone you can depend on. There are plenty of other guys out there who you can have a great relationship with so don't settle for someone like this guy. He will end up hurting you again. If you do stick with him make sure you use birth control so you don't bring an innocent baby into the picture to be hurt and disappointed, too.