Does anyone ever feel that they are under appreciated?

United States
April 14, 2009 11:39pm CST
I am a stay at home mom & I do all the house hold chores by myself. My husband works, but when he is home, he never lifts a finger to help me or even offer. Sometimes I am just so frustrated about it. My husband used to be so helpful and now he does nothing to help. Should I be this frustrated about this?
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@ktosea (2025)
• China
15 Apr 09
common problems between couples,you could ask him is he is undergoing with something in his work or have some burden recently,chich may make him feel tired and then unwilling to help you to do the chores recently.if he just don't want to share the burden with you,you could talk to him about
@srganesh (6344)
• India
15 Apr 09
Well,this is a common problem for house wives.As you have told,your husband was helpful before and not now.It seems that he is undergoing some pressures in his job and he needs the home to be a best place for rest alone.So,better you don't disturb him and for you,ask him an outing every weekend and enjoy the outside world.Words of appreciation is not always necessary in a long running relationship.Cheers!
@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
15 Apr 09
Hi erica, I am sorry to hear that. When my mom was still alive, she didn't do the chores. My dad did. The function of my parents were a bit different from a usual family. My mom handled the finances she had many concerns and obligations that my dad didn't know about. When she had a lot of debts, my father always got mad at her. I knew how much she looked after those details and it wasn't easy. So I think in that manner, she had a lot of frustrations too. Maybe all you had to do is ask your husband to help you with a few tasks. Some guys expect their woman to let them rest after work. Sometimes, they do not know when they are needed. Insensitive. Sometimes, you really had to ask. You are not Cinderella, and you deserve all the assistance you can get but don't forget to consider also that he could be exhausted from work.