How do I control my daughters temper tantrums?

You have probably heard this before but a lot of children that throw tantrums are actually looking for attention. You want to make sure your husband is on the same page as you also. If he is not then you are in for a long ride. If the child thinks you are the bad guy and they can run to daddy, that doesn't work. It can cause problems in your relationship as well. If your kido isn't on a schedual you should put her on one. It sounds crazy but I am living proof that it works. I didn't figure that out untill my second kid was born. My first was spoiled and did whatever he wanted. When he threw fits I just thought it was something kids did but when he got on a routine, I couldn't believe the difference it made in him and our life.

Hi temper tantrums can be horrible I have a 19 month old that also throws them. What I do with him is ignore them. When I put his coat on to go out he screams at me. He hates wearing his coat. I just put it on him and zip it up. When we are in the mall my daughter throws horrible tantrums. Well she used to. What I did with her was when she would scream and kick and yell in the mall I just said ok me and jayden her brother are leaving if she wanted to come along then come on if not she can stay there. She would say sorry mommy and fallow me. When my daughter was younger she threw such bad temper tantrums she would kick and scream all the time. I would take her out of the living room and onto the stairs and say to her now you were put here because you were and tell her what she did wrong. Then i say you have to sit here for 1 minute and set the timer on the stove. every time she got up I would sit her back on the stairs and not speak to her. and reset the timer. She would scream and I just ignored her. finaly she would sit there until the timer went off and come over and say sorry i was naughty mommy. She is 3 now and sometimes still acts out and I stick to the same method!

It's really very difficult to control a child's tantrum but you can do something to minimize it. Give her food most often so her stomach will always be full, be with her most of the time and talk to her often, cuddle, embrace and say how much you love her often. Do not shout at her, although I am not saying you are doing this.

Be firm with her. Dont give in to her tantrums. Insist with what you have to do to her. Make her realize that you are the one in charge not her. Speak to her in a low but firm voice. Make her realize that you mean business and she needs to follow.

I think first you need to communicate with his Daddy. After that may be his daddy teach right lesson to him.

I am reading a good book about this right now. It's all about rewards. I know, you're thinking, but I don't reward her, but in her mind you are. When she is throwing her fits, you try to help her, i.e. you're responding, i.e. her reward. If there is no one there to see her throw the fit, it loses all significance. (usually). so like a previous poster said, if you walk off, ignore her, take her to another room ect. so that she knows, hey I can throw this fit, but I'm gonna be throwing it by myself, it will lose all it's appeal. I went through this many times with my 3 year old before I read this book, now I'm just like "Mommy is cooking dinner (or whatever), if you can put your coat on, get your shoes, whatever, and come back in here then I'll listen to you." More often then not, I get a yes mommy. just whatever you do, be consistent. If they see you being consistent some of the time and not some of the time, you will lose authority. Hope this helps. Good Luck!!