why we cant avoid being envious?

South Korea
April 16, 2009 8:34pm CST
my sister is doing good working as a cosmetic counselor..she earn good, as a matter of fact she has a lot of customers, but suddenly she encountered some problems regarding her status..and there is one friend that she knows tell some different story about her..now she wants to give up her job because of this issue..thats why im also scared that my small networking business will be affected since envious is everywhere if they think you are doing good..cuz i have some friends also that doing some networking..have you ever experience to have an envious friend?
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
17 Apr 09
I never had an envious friend. And not all of us are envious. Envious means that sabotaging someone but not willing to work to gain or go over the same level. There are people like that, lazy bums who will wreck what the other person does and say bad things, but when it comes with doing the actual work that she did, they are unwilling to do it. I should persuade your sister to keep her job. The boss will certainly find out who is telling the truth.
• South Korea
17 Apr 09
i agree with you..thanks
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
17 Apr 09
Can't let a meanie drive her from her job. And thanks for the best response.
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Hi marketing, Personally, I have no experience about that. I tried to avoid people like that and don't mingle them... I hope your sister will be able to handle the trials in her life especially in her career this time. I always believe though, people with bad intentions will never succeed! Tell her to just stay away from those people and I am sure her customers really know your sister and that they are there always!
• South Korea
20 Apr 09
hi.che..itd good to know that you havent encounter that kind of problems...thanks for sharing
@parthu28 (498)
• India
17 Apr 09
i have encountered with this problem once in my life.........i had a friend who was of the envious kind.it can really cause a lot of trouble if that friend of yours get into serious envy...it better that you stat away from such people
• South Korea
18 Apr 09
yes..i think its everywhere..thanks
@cream97 (29152)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Hi, marketing07! I have many people that have been envious of me. Even strangers. This is how some people are. When they see you doing good they want to see you fall down to the ground. They don't want to see you flourish at all! Your sister should not have to give up her job if she has an jealous female that wishes her bad. It is very sad that people are not happy with themselves. Don't let what your sister is going through stop you from networking. Ignore people like them. They just have a low self-esteem.
• South Korea
18 Apr 09
i agree with you..thanks
@ulqu1orra (307)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Yeah many times already, and I just ignore them for being envy of me because I'm much better person than them. Its nature to human to get envy to others but to think that they are envy of you because you are greater them, why don't they just look at their self at the mirror and see what traits and qualities they lack for being envy of me...
• South Korea
18 Apr 09
thanks..have a nice day
@aileen18 (170)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
it's because there are some people who wants to be on top always. they don't want others to be on top of them or become more lucky. it's called crab mentality. it always happens to my family. some people get envious on us without any reasons, why can't they just mind their own lives. sometimes it hurts because people whom you thought you can rely and trust is the one who gets envious with you, especially friends and relatives.
• South Korea
17 Apr 09
oh..yes we cant avoid people with that kind of mentality.thanks
@scheng1 (24690)
• Singapore
17 Apr 09
If her boss appreciates her, she will not let your sister resign. Anyway, jealousy is a common human feelings, no way to get rid of it. It is impossible for anyone to have perfectly everything in the world. People who have a loving family may not have money. People who are rich and have a loving spouse may not have children. And our tendency is to look at what we lack and envy others for having exactly the thing that we lack. Hope your sister can come to her sense, not worth quitting a job that she likes just because someone jealous of her and speaks bad of her. Anyway she has to learn to deal with it, she will face a lot more jealousy in the future.
• South Korea
17 Apr 09
yes..that true..thanks
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Maybe some people are not just happy with themselves they like people to experience the same fate as they have, It is really unavoidable when you are working, there are really workmates with evil intentions.
• South Korea
17 Apr 09
yes..thanks have a nice day
• United States
17 Apr 09
Envy is always difficult to deal with. There have been many discussions on this as of late on Mylot alone asking questions as how does one feel about someone posting more, adding ideas, etc. It seems that it is one of those little facets of life and human nature that we all need to work on in our personality. We need to learn that helping another become succesful only helps us to become more succesful. Keep doing what you enjoy doing, and do it well. If your sister wishes to quit, that must be her decision. Perhaps she can find a new place to work in which she won't have to deal with an envious friend working beside her. I wish you both well. Namaste-Anora
• South Korea
17 Apr 09
yes,youre right..thanks
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
18 Apr 09
Unfortunately there are people in this world who just can't be happy for others. I will never understand why this is. They become jealous of other peoples success. I believe a true friend would be truly happy for you instead of jealous. There are people that will just tell you the negative of things not the positive at all. These type of people I just try to stay away from. I don't like negative people its just a big downer.
17 Apr 09
They say man is insatiable by nature, so if we follow this, I guess getting envious sometimes is inevitable. How you express and respond to this emotion however, is entirely according to your own volition. And yes, I could say that I've known a few people who were actually a bit destructive when they are jealous or envious.
@HelloMickey (1656)
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 09
I would not make friends with people who are envious of other's success. So lucky me, I don't have this kind of experience. One thing that might help a bit is don't tell too many success of yours to others. You may hurt someone's feeling if you tell them how easily you can earn money but they can't. ^.^