Who's your babysitter?

United States
April 17, 2009 7:04am CST
Do you have a local teenager who babysits for you? Maybe a family friend or a relative watches your kids when you want to go out? Who do you call on when you want a night out without the kids? I need a break from my kids, and was thinking perhaps hubby and I could get out this weekend for a date night. I'd love to see that movie "17 Again". But I haven't used a sitter in so long! The last time I used a sitter, it was my husband's parents, and obviously we aren't speaking to them anymore. So I wouldn't even know where to begin trying to find a sitter for a night.
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@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I am lucky because both my parents and my husbands parents live close to us so we have access to babysitters all the time. I am a nanny to a one year old so sometimes I do trade offs on the weekend or weeknights with the family I nanny for. they will watch our son and vice versa. We found eachother off of craigslist.org Look for a co-op group in your community. They are great to have. No money is exchanged and it is people you get to know. You could always start one too. Look for the book "Smart Mom's baby-sitting co-op" by Gary Myers.
• United States
17 Apr 09
I couldn't do that. I have 5 of my own kids and that's already too much for me. I would never take in someone else's child.
@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Looks like your only options then would be to hit the papers or web postings to find someone willing to watch your 5 children.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
17 Apr 09
We don't have a sitter. The only time we get a night out is if my parents keep them for us. They try to often but they do a lot of stuff together too. I have asked around to see if anyone could recommend a babysitter but no one uses one. Everyone just uses family members. I don't think girls baby sit like they used to. I know a girl who finds her babysitters on craigslist. I think that is crazy, you never know who you are going to get. I'm not super protective when it comes to my kids, but I a cautious who I leave them with. I would ask around your neighbor someone might have some recommendations.
• United States
17 Apr 09
I could see using Craigslist... I mean whether you use that or the paper, or just put a sign up at the grocery store... you still have to interview the person and get references and stuff.
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I have a friend watch my kids for me when I need to get stuff done during the daytime hours, but I don't ever ask her to watch them on the weekends. She would do it, but I don't really have anywhere I want to go anyway and on the weekends when Lily's dad has her Jeremy is jealous enough. I spend that time with him alone.
• United States
17 Apr 09
His dad isn't in the picture?
@laglen (19778)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I have been very fortunate, I have never had to hire a sitter. I have always utilized family. Grandparents, aunts uncles...... good luck! I hope you and your husband get some much needed alone time!
• United States
17 Apr 09
We have absolutely no family left. I stopped talking to my family years ago, and we recently stopped speaking to his... you know why. But I just had a brilliant idea! My brother's step daughter is 16. I don't know why I never thought of her before!
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@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I have sort of a unique situtation, I have shared parenting so every other week I only have one child at home. My family is always wanting him to come over and stay the night so it works out rather well for date night. I just have a hard time with a stranger watching my children so I have never used anyone but family. I hope you are able to find someone. Are there any families around you that you could return the favor for?
• United States
17 Apr 09
I really don't know a lot of people well enough to just come out and ask them to babysit. The ones I do know well enough, I don't know how best to contact them without just running into them somewhere.
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I wouldn't advise you to look for any babysitter just to have a weekend date with your husband. I agree that couples have to date from time to time as it helps the spark continously flow. It is also our time to atleast be free from taking care of the kids even for so short a time. But if you don't have relatives or trusted friends to babysit for you, never mind. For me, kids safety is still my number 1 priority.
• Germany
26 Apr 09
Hi, katsmeow. This discussion has been 1 week old. I hope you have already settled this problem. My babysitter probably would be my husband or family members. I do not trust the stranger to take care of my kids. Even my parents, i do not have so much trust on them due to different perspective of raising kids. Therefore, i only let them take care of my baby for some hours. It is quite difficult to have some time for myself since i have my baby boy. Most of the time i have dedicated to him and it is difficult to go out and have some fun. Anyway, i am quite lazy to go out too. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
@GreenMoo (11837)
24 Apr 09
I don't use a sitter at night. I either take the kids along wherever I'm going, or stay home. My eldest is responsible enough to stay home alone, but the youngest not. Very occassionally I'll leave the kids at home with one of our guests whilst I pop to the shop or I need to drop something down at the farm or something, but I'd only be gone for half an hour or so and I'd only leave both kids together as the younger would be more comfortable with that. Have you got a friend who uses a sitter who could recommend someone for you?
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I don't trust many people. My mom, my mother in law, my sister in laws, and my aunt are the ones who can watch my kids. The only man I will allow to watch my girls is their father.
• United States
19 Apr 09
We used to call on the inlaws to watch the kids. But both of them have come down with cancer and are weak from treatments to help out with the kids. I have an Aunt that adores my kids but she's extremely controlling and her hubby is abusive and I don't want my kids around her hubby nor do I want her to shoplift from my house for her payment either. So no baby sitter for us... sux cause I'm really in the dumps and just need some time with hubby to do a few things we used to do before kids & pets & a house ect.
@SViswan (12065)
• India
19 Apr 09
Babysitting isn't a very common thing in India...unless it is family. I stay in a different state fro my relatives and my parents live in a different continent. So, there's no one I can really fall back on. But I do have a neighbour (both her kids are the same age as mine)....and sometimes if it is really important, I do leave the kids at her place....and I also take care of her kids when she has something to do. She's a working woman and is very busy...so I need to ask her well in advance if I need that kind of help...and also my husband doesn't like anyone babysitting our kids just so that we get time to ourselves (oh, male Indian mentality!). So, it's only when I have some errands to run which doesn't take more than one hour - (I usually get things done faster when my little one is not with me), that I rely on my neighbour to babysit.
@happy2009 (330)
• China
18 Apr 09
I look after my baby every day nad night untill now,and my mother-in low stay with me and often help me. but she's old,and if I came someplace faraway ,i need take my baby along.
@lsjack (44)
• China
18 Apr 09
may be u can call u best friends to be a sitter,please remember that she or he should be a man who like children, i hope u can find a right man ,good luck.
@chastity7 (104)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I have lots of family, so there is usually someone willing to watch them for an hour, maybe two. Good luck, I know how hard it can be to find a good babysitter. :)
@cream97 (29152)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Hi, katesmeow1213! I am the babysitter! I don't have anyone to keep my kids that I let them go to. Last year about 7 to 8 months ago that is when all of my kids were babysitted. I don't let any teenagers keep my kids. I will only let grownups keep them. I don't even let my in-laws keep my kids. I don't trust them like that. Although, they are my kids grandparents, I keep my own kids myself. When I was wroking years ago, I had a lady from her daycare keep my son. This is the only person that I would trust to keep my kids.
@cher913 (25859)
• Canada
17 Apr 09
my kids are older now, 12 and 16 and my 16 year old watches her sister if i have to go to work or hubby and i go out for a bit at night, when they were younger, we had my parents or hubbys parents watch them most of the time if we had to go out.