Is it good to hide some truth's

@adz333 (176)
India
April 17, 2009 8:24am CST
Yesterday my best friend's father died.She was kept unknown about all these by her family,thinking she wouldn't be able stand it.While all of her friends including me was aware of it.I couldn't speak to her properly when she called up to say she is leaving to her home as she was called urgently from home.She was really upset.Do you think I should have told her what's happening?Well I didn't anyways.There is this growing guilt building inside me .
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I think it is cruel to hide news like that. I'm sure that your friend can handle a lot more than her family thinks. I'm glad I don't have a family like that and it's up to you to decide whether to tell her but from what you've told me of her family, you would probably be the better one for her to hear the news from.
@adz333 (176)
• India
18 Apr 09
I thought that too.I know she can handle these situations but its their family matter ,thought I was not supposed to indulge in it.She used to say I am the only guy she has ever believed .She trusted me.But I couldn't muster up the courage to tell her this.She rang up this morning to say the news but I couldn't take the phone.Hope she'll forgive me.Thanks for responding.Happy mylotting.
• India
20 Apr 09
she would have needed your support during her down times and thats why she called u.. and when u dont pick up the phone that would make her lonley too. when she express her feelings to someone she would have felt relieved. pls call her back and do talk to her..allow her cry with an open mind. let her know that u friends are there for her.
@madhuvrn (81)
• India
19 Apr 09
The words you have used is awesome. Yes, It is good to hide some truth at some times. we are not supposed to lie. But we can hide the truth. Telling a lie is different from hiding the truth.
@adz333 (176)
• India
19 Apr 09
Oh,thanks.Ya,thanks you made me think in a new way,I am not telling any lie,I just hid the truth,for her only.Yesterday night I took all courage and called her.She was very calm.Some how managed pull through it,and was able to talk to her freely after a few minutes.That relived me very much.Thanks for commenting.Happy mylotting.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
17 Apr 09
if her family members had decided not to tell her, there must be some reason, she must be very sensitive or weak at heart, so they must not have told her directly, and as she had to travel, they would have thought that she may get ill in the way etc,so they may be right in their ways, and you dont need to feel guilty in any way, it was their family matter. they will tell her slowly after sometime, so they are also not wrong, i think.
@adz333 (176)
• India
18 Apr 09
ya,they thought she wont even reach her home if she told that.Do you know,she called me yesterday noon ,I thought by this time she would have known everything,she had called to say that her father had just a block in his heart that's why he is in hospital,she sounded so relived at that time.She came to know the truth only at night 10.She called today morning to say about it,I couldn't talk about so that i didn't attend the call.Don't know what sha is going through.May God be with.Thanks for responding.Happy mylotting.