is it possible to love more than one person
@swaggalicious (111)
United States
April 18, 2009 9:03pm CST
I'm the type that always had an answer for everything, until recently. About three months ago. I started socializing with an old friend. This friend was a high school, but to top it off We had started dating and then I decided to let go, because of some things people said. I basically wanted to keep my reputation. Well he started going through some things and started being there for him. We began to get close and chemistry started booming. We finally realized we still have love for each other. This is very ackward. I have been with the same man for eights years married to him for almost four and have three beautiful kids by him. I do not want to leave my husband because I love him and we have established alot even though he has deceived me in the past. But my love for this friend has sparked back up. YES he knows I'm married.
With that said is it possible to love two people at once? How do you know if its lust...think about him day and night. when he hurts i hurt
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6 responses
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
23 Apr 09
That would be hard for me to answer. I have been married for several years my oldest graduates this year. My youngest one is in first grade and her teacher happens to be one of my ex mother. I see him from time to time and still like him. I know though that my husband is the only one I could ever love. I think if you can see the rest of your life with out him maybe it isn't love but lust.
@swaggalicious (111)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I understand I just wanted to hear other people responses. Old feelings just started sparking back up, but I never trade this in for my marriage. I love him and we have grown stronger and this is one thing that I refuse to let come between us. Thank you for your response:)
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Yes it is. I will always love my ex, he will always have a special place in my life, we have been divorced for over ten years, both remarried and both now have children. I love my husband and am so happy with him. I still love my ex, he was in my life for 14 years, even divorce can not stop that. It was one of those cases that love just was not enough.
@swaggalicious (111)
• United States
23 Apr 09
thank you.... I really am seeing things more clearly. People really think its impossible to love more than one person, but its cliche. People need to realize there are different levels of love, but thank you for your response.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 Aug 09
Let's see.
In 2005, I was in love with a cyber girl as well as I had a very good friend from US who was doing her project in our company. I used to talk to her every day in my office and I thought that she fell in love with me because when she left, she had tears in her eyes but.....
I was in love with that cyber girl and I thought that I should not flirt with another girl this time. Later on, I come to know that the girl I was in love with was a fake girl and it was a guy who was having fun with me.
But then it was too late for me to go for that US girl, who left our country a week ago!
Ah, whatever it is, dont' fall in love with a cyber girl every!
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 May 09
I don't think one can love two person at a time. I think when we are with the same person for more than 6-7 years then our mind looks for something new for a time being and when we find our old crush, the problems starts.
I won't say if it is lust because at this age people look only for mental pleasure not physical pleasure. I think if I would spend one night with my old crush, I will understand it that if it is not that I need that person!
The thoughts I have presented are only true to me!
@bastitoots (15)
• Philippines
19 Apr 09
I don't think that is love. I think you are just bored with your marriage. You might will only know what your feeling right now is love if you can give up everything and feel no regrets
@swaggalicious (111)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I appreciate your response but that's one thing I am not... is bored with my marriage. I really wouldn't expect anyone to understand unless they have personally been in my position. My marriage means more to me than anyone will ever know. I had previously discussed this with my husband. I just would like to know what other people thought about the situation :)
