How to console a friend who flunked the licensure exams?

@laydee (12809)
Philippines
April 19, 2009 9:45pm CST
Here's a scenario. You have a very good friend who just have taken a licensure exam (BAR or any type of professional exam) and you know she didn't pass. How do you go about it the first time you talk to each other? You don't want to remind her of the ordeal. Neither do you want to say anything that might upset her. How do you go about it then?
1 person likes this
4 responses
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I've had a friend like that too, she failed for the Nursing Licensure Exam and I was very skeptical to approach her. I really don't know firsthand what to do, because I expected her to be absent on our class on the day after the release of the results. Wow, I admire her bravery to ever walk in and face everyone. Anyway, I think that being a good listener would just do. What I did first was ignoring her, and acting like I didn't know, I know it's not good, but I prayed hard how. And well, we just acted cool about it, treat her just the same, not giving her cliche advices but just being there. Most of the time, people just need someone to listen to them in their grievous moments, and it worked, we just served as some friends to cheer her up, the decisions to get out of depression still depends on the person, so we're just there to stay being positive forces! ^^
2 people like this
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Wow, it's really brave of her to do so. I guess it's just really a test of bravery and skill. The exams won't really say you'd be a great nurse nor does it mean you'd never be successful anyways.
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Hi laydee, I will not touch the topic not unless she will open up to me. I had a close friend who failed twice in the licensure exam and that's what I did.... I will just encourage her and give her a lot of positive words once she will open up and talk about it!
1 person likes this
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Ohhh.. failing once is tough but twice would really be tougher for the person to get over with. Yeah, it's good too when you'll just keep quiet and let the person start the conversation or the topic.
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I scolded my cousin who did not pass the recent nursing licensure examination. . Of course, I did not. She is in another province so I just sent her a message telling her that things happen for a reason. We may not understand it right now but soon, God will show it to us. After a few days, my cousin said "thanks". Actually, it depends on your friends character. If one has a strong personality, there's no problem talking about it (mostly as a listener), pat them on back (or embrace them if you are that really close) then assure them that there is another chance to do better. You may tell them that they can approach you if ever they need your help (but make sure that you can really be of help when the time comes). To others who really felt bad about flunking, you really have to be more cautious. With such friends, you have to let them start the topic. When they do, listen carefully and let them know and feel that if you could, you would take their hurt and throw it away.
1 person likes this
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Hehe.. I thought you really scolded your cousin. Well, you're right, it actually matters that you know the personality of each person. Different strokes for different folks.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
20 Apr 09
Well, the best thing it would be to give her confidence that next time onwards she can pass the exam and maker her parents proud of her. Then after she becomes normal we can chat out normally!