My friend's hubby is an chating Romeo,what should she do ?

China
April 20, 2009 6:10am CST
Hi dear mylotters ,there's a question need your help ,My friend married two years ago ,now ,she found her hubby likes chating with all kinds of females on the internet,and the words are very close and he even arranged a date with a girl that when she vist their city ,he will meet her .she stoped him that time ,but about a week later ,she found he plan to meet anyother one !That made her very sad though her hubby said he only love her. what's your opinion to treat the hubby?can you help ?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
There's nothing she can do but make him more interested in her. Perhaps she should talk to him about it and if he doesn't stop, then let her change her ways. Make him curious what she's up to. Like let her go out at night all beautiful and all. Or perhaps try to make him jealous by acting as if she has a new 'friend' who's been calling her or something like that. Many cheaters usually start online because they think it's 'safe'.
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• China
20 Apr 09
That's a good way ,but I can't understand because my friend is a very beautiful woman,he said he love her every time she show unhappy to him .but the internet cheat give her much sorrow
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Boys will be boys. I don't want to be mean, but they'll always find gratification at some girl having 'interest' in them. She can't do anything about that actually. Just tell her not to be sorrowful because it would only cause her to have wrinkles.
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@lingzi (567)
• China
21 Apr 09
how could he do that??maybe he feels a litter boring with your friend.maybe he likes doing something crazy.your may suggest her think out some good method to improve the relationship with her hubby.
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• China
22 Apr 09
Yes ,but If I were her,I will tell the hubby I knew everything,and ask him make a choose: stop or depart.
• India
20 Apr 09
yes the above comment is correctly responded . i too think the same way , well but there is one thing that may be one problem in their relation. Yours friends husband is not getting for what he married to your friend , if u find that thing then maybe they can save their marriage. i think that your friends husband wants to become romantic with your friend but she might not be that romantic. if this is the case then your friend should try to be romantic ,also they should talk about this problem together so that they can solve this problem. or the last thing is that if they don't coordinate then they should go on different directions.
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• China
22 Apr 09
Yes ,I thinks so.
@chulasa (69)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
In a relationship, both opinion and feelings are important. I see a problem with their relationship. I don't see what is his reason for him to go and meet another girl. Even if he continues on pledging his undying love for his wife... what is the need for another female in his life. Especially if I think his wife don't agree with such doings. I think she should be honest with his feelings and let his husband knows her thoughts.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
20 Apr 09
if it was just chat on the internet and not arranging to meet that would be ok.but it is not ok if he is actually going to meet them.id tell her to arrange to meet up with abloke but not to go and to make sure her husband knows that shes going to meet up with a bloke.see how he feels i bet he wont be happy with that.then he may never do it again.that or tell him no more or she will leave him.thats what i would do.
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• Philippines
20 Apr 09
hi, yes i agree cheating is a cheating.Many relationship broken by chatting on internet.Give your girlfriend a good advice and i think she need to talk to her husband once and for all.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Cheating is cheating, whether it's in person or on the internet. Your friend is headed for more heartbreak if she allows this to continue because her husband has crossed the line and, the longer he continues to insist on doing so, the farther he will go. Your friend also has a big disadvantage because your husband doesn't deal with the day to day stresses of life with them...they are always fun and a false feeling of closeness can develop because he has someone he feels he can turn to. I know a woman whose husband had a similar online relationship many years ago and he actually left her for this other woman. He referred to the other woman as his "soul mate" because they understood each other so well. She, on the other hand, knew that he was married and had children and didn't care. Their relationship didn't last long...reality is a b*tch...but there was a divorce over this and two children were hurt by the whole thing. Your friend needs to stop her husband's cheating one way or another. If he can't understand that he is married and not free to flirt or plan to meet strange women from the internet then she needs to give him a hard choice...stop or get out. She doesn't need to waste her time trying to win the faithfulness of someone who has already taken vows of fidelity.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
that is cheating my friend, intimate CHATTING is CHEATING, see it rhymes, right? or I would call it virtual cheating. it's like this, the husband goes to a chat room, flirt/chat with a girl, gets intimate with the girl, the girl becomes now his online girlfriend, then they agreed to meet on earth and have a date. That's cheating. cheers! :)
@lawana_f (326)
• United States
20 Apr 09
My opinion as to how to treat her husband is that He broke the scared vows of marriage and there is nothing his wife can do to change him. It is in her best interest to leave. If he is a cheater he will continue to be a cheater. The only hope for him is being saved; which is not something he is interested in right now. So she can either sit and pray and hope he does not kill her with some desease he brings home or she can divorce him now and continue to pray for his soul as she finds the man on this earth that she is meant to be with and one that will not cheat on her. Internet cheating is still cheating.
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@foisgras (205)
• Sweden
20 Apr 09
Dear happy2009, Give your girlfriend a good piece of advice. Ask her to get a pair of scissors and ask her to cut throw this computer. He is a married man, he should know better than what he is up to with the computer. I am astound with this sort of people!
• China
22 Apr 09
Hahahha...That's great!so cool!lol I will tell it to my friend,thank you !