Are you relying on your parents or self independent.

Philippines
April 20, 2009 9:47am CST
My mother scolded me a this morning that I can't find a job for me to earn money to provide my own expenses like tuition and everyday fare going to school. If I had find a job for me to be self independent, I will leave my home as soon as possible and live alone to get rid of them. They are really annoying as time pass by and they did not care how difficult being a college student, maybe because they haven't turn to college and start to work after graduating on high school. How about you? Do you prefer to be self independent rather than relying on your family.
10 responses
@jd107nette (1456)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
whoa! that's quite a rare situation for Filipino like us... But I understand how you feel... I also want to be independent as soon as possible... I want to have a work and earn as much as I can so that I could be accountable to my own life. I do not wish to bother my parents anymore since they've already spent a lot for me. I'm sure you'd be able to have a good paying job in time. But I do hope that when you have it, you'd change your mind about your reason for leaving home... ^_^
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@larish (2193)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Hi. I also work when I was still in school (college). I was happy that I started working early because it teaches me how to be responsible and wise when it comes to handling my finances. It also provides an opportunity on how I can manage my time between school and work. Just be optimistic.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Maybe your parents cannot afford to give you any money for your tuition and everyday expenses... and that the only way you can continue your education is to help out... I know how difficult it can be to be a college student... but it can also be very difficult to be a parent...
@rita111 (48)
• China
20 Apr 09
well,as for me.i am totally independent now since i graduated from university. work just one year.i am a bread-maker now and enjoy the fruit planted by myself.that feeling is so good:)
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@Archie0 (4667)
21 Apr 09
well i feel real shame to even think of this, that i am still dependent on my parents to pay me my monthly expenses. i use to wokr some time before but due to my studies i could do it and so quit it,.but even now i cant wokr just due to over load of my studies i cant help myself. but still i struggle so that i earn for myself soon. happy myloting
@Dorrdavy (276)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 09
i am independent, i am working at a high school in my country, my parents never really had the money to help me out with school, so now i'm woring and going to school, during the time when i wasn't working they never pressure me at all,they know that jobs are very hard to find in this country, and even now that i am working am sure if they could, they would still give me money. maybe its hard on your parents too, but they probably need to cut you some slack. (not be so hard on you)
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
21 Apr 09
I haven't relied on my parents since I was 16 years old. I left, got a job and went to school on my own. I am now 32 and very independent. Though I used to wish I had the opportunity to have someone look after me while I advanced my life, I am glad that I was strong enough to do it on my own without the handouts others get. I have three children now and teach them that it is better to work hard yourself because you would appreciate it a lot more than if someone just gave it to you. Though I would like to help them while they are in college, I would expect them to work hard too, like I did. If not I would likely cut them off.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Getting rid of them will definitely hurt their feelings. I am sure that your mother wanted you to be confident at yourself. She's not always there for you supporting your finances but I'm sure she is praying for you to be successful in life. They might not been into college that's why they wanted you to have more comfortable life than your life right now. I think finding a job would make them at ease that you are standing by your own foot. I prefer to be self independent for I would do whatever I wanted to try and live by my own way of life but getting rid of my family is out of my vocabulary.
@online_jon (1478)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Hello ulqu1orra, good day to you. There are times that our parents got mad to us and scolded us for their own reason. One reason of their getting mad is the financial problem especially to their children who do not have their own job to provide their own expenses like tuition in school and for their everyday fare going to school. The feeling of our parents when getting mad is not means of they do not like us anymore but for us to understand their guidlines in life. Well, just like you ulqu1orra, their are times that parents scolded me but that is fine to me because they are my parents and I am still relying to them. I am still depent to my parents because i do not have my own job, for me to earn good amount of money to depent my self and to stand alone. But after finishing in college, I will go quickly start finding a job then i will still depend to them and i will be the one to earn money for my parents, in order for them to do not work anymore, the only thing that they will do is just relax and stay in our house. Then while i am working i also still save money and i will start planning for my own hous, then i will go start to stand for being self independent. When the time can that i am already a self independent, I will still support my parents for them to appreciate my thanks in giving me the right guidlines tn mbe good. By the way, i would like to thank here in mylot because while I am a college student i also still have the opportunity to earn money here in this site, even if it is not quite good amount! Well, that's all the end of my response ! Thank you! By the way I do believe that all people will go to being independent in their life.
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I wanted to be independent ever since but I don't want to be away from my family. I tell you, it's not that easy being away from your love ones. My mother is very understanding and she really works hard for me and my little brother. She also pushes me to be a working student upon entering college. But she said that it is alright if I can't manage to work while studying. I also want to help her for she is the only one who raised the two of us that's why as a sign of gratitude and appreciation for all her perseverance I will apply for a job as soon as I enter college. I will challenge myself no matter how difficult it may be.