Would you still deserve a second chance?

@amaine (2037)
Philippines
April 20, 2009 9:11pm CST
Alright, think of it as if you were in the situation. If you caught your husband/wife cheating (that includes all kinds of cheating) , how would you respond to it? What would you do? Do you think that you will still be able to give that person another chance?
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@dpk262006 (56764)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Though I am very sure that this is not going to happen with me, yet on a hypothetical note, I would say that if this happens at all that my partner cheats me, I would like to give her a second chance. I would definitely like to know the reasons for cheating me and would like her to spell out the shortcomings in me which led her to take this kind of step. It would be better to know my shortcomings so that I could correct myself, to the extent possible.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
So, meaning, you would take this opportunity to make yourself and your relationship grow more. That's a different point of view, looking things at the brighter side. :)
@dpk262006 (56764)
• Delhi, India
22 Apr 09
I try to look at the things on the brighter side and I remain positive in my approach.
@ana31798 (41)
• United States
21 Apr 09
As much as i would like to forgive him if that happened to me I don't know if I would be able to do it. I guess it would depend on the circumstances. I just think it would always be in the back of my mind that he is capable of doing that.
@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Well, maybe some person can only decide if that ever happened to them. Right?
• India
21 Apr 09
I think nobody desrves second chance in this case. Because nothing new going to be happen even in second chance. Relationship is about commitment not about counting chance.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Yes, but what if, you really love that person? Won't you give another chance? You can let go of that easily?
@chiyosan (30196)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
of ocurse , i believe everyone deserves a second chance. we all have the right to make mistakes and to correct them and not to do it again
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
What if he/she does it the second time around? Will you still forgive?
• United States
21 Apr 09
Before my husband and i got married, we both we unfaithful to each other at one point in time, but we were very young and figuring things out. We both forgave each other and got over it. Now we are happily married with 2 daughters. I would definately not ever cheat on him like before and i know he would not do it to me either. I know that i would not be able to forgive if it did happen now that we are married and have children. There would be no forgiveness. I love him more than anything, but no way. It would be over.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
No mercy? Well, I respect your opinion. Thanks for sharing to us. :)
@ada547612 (203)
• China
21 Apr 09
I will first try to communicate with him to see whether he is the reason too, or else......, I will tell him that between husband and wife should be a relatively honest, what to communicate together to resolve issues. I will also consider whether the misconduct of their own led to some idea of her husband. But I will give each other a chance. Because, after all, is the intention to create a feeling of.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
It's the feeling that matters. I agree to that. Thanks for the response. :)
@keasling (723)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Yes. Without a doubt in my mind I would forgive him and he has forgiven me in return. The saying a cheater always a cheater is not true in every single case. My husband has been very understanding and has truly help me through things I needed to work through. He has helped me and though sometimes I know it still bothers him he does his best not to throw it in my face every chance he gets. I truly could not have gotten a better man. We have been married for ten going on eleven years and we have gotten through just about everything imaginable and went through it together. We never separated for any reason which i truly believe has made us stronger for it.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Wow, you have been together for so long, that's why I think I know why you would still forgive him. You both are lucky and blessed to have each other. Treasure every single moment that you are with him. It's nice to hear such a wonderful story from you.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
24 Apr 09
As I read the discussion I thought that you are asking me if I deserve a second chance after committing a cheating. In that case the anwer would have been that : My spoouse will decide it. BTW: Well, I can give one second chance and one more second chance but third time I will take action against her as I am no God, am I?
• Singapore
24 Apr 09
It's very tough to know that the person you trusted has betrayed you. But the first thing is to accept the fact that he has done it. The initial emotions may be sadness and disappointment, but after that you will slowly come to terms with the reality. The problem is that your spouse may still be cloud nine, refusing to let go of that girl. This is what's happening to me. But I'm trying to be patient and giving it a look-and-see period. I don't know how long this is going to last, but I will continue to have faith that God will show me the direction to the right path. If he comes back to me, I'm willing to forgive him and give him a second chance. I have forgiven him even though he has not left the girl, as yet. It's very painful for me to know this, but when the time comes, something will happen to make my hubby make a final decision about what he wants in life and who he wants to be with.