Is long distance relationship works??

Philippines
April 20, 2009 9:50pm CST
Im just curious if long distance relationship will work. My new girlfriend will leave to work abroad. i have my ex-girlfriend before, we ended up into break up beacuse of this. i dont want to happen this again. Any tips you can share to maintain this relationship?
14 responses
@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Apr 09
Personally, I think that long distance relationships can work. They're not easy, but they can certainly work. Don't give up faith in your relationship. I'm sure that it will work out.
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
I agree that faith and trust are the keys to sustain long distance relationship!
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Somehow it will work, but its not easy then. I came from broken relatioship 6 months ago because of distance and I can say it clearly that it is hard.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
so I salute those who survived!
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Long distance relationship is hard to maintain, you will have to spend more time and money to keep the communication lines constant. It depends on how committed the two of you are in keeping the relationship. You will be worlds apart, many times you will not be able to relate to what is happening to her or vice versa. I don't recommend that you be separated for a long period of time, one of you has to adjust so that you can be together. I know of a friend who went to work abroad then she looked for a job to petition her BF to go there too. They are happily married now because they exerted effort to be together.
• India
21 Apr 09
If you are commited then it works. Otherwise there is nothing to work. You must be faithful towards your partner in long distance relationship.
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Hi rsanders I have this kind of relationship right now. I make sure that I text her every day, call her or even send her emails. There is a lot of ways we can talk. The important thing in a relationship is communication and I use to it. It depends on how deep is your relationship with that person to make a long distance relationship work. We can never say that being far away from each other to be a reason for breaking up because all people sometimes need to be away from their love ones because of carrer and other important matters in life.
• China
22 Apr 09
It is really hard to say if long distance relationship would last long enough until both sides met together again.I think there are many factors that could have an effect upon the result.In my opinion,maintaining such a relationship should meet two requirements at least,one is the truelove between yourself,the other is that you are able to endure the loneness and keep an good communication between you both.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Some survive in long distance relationship. All you need is trust and open communication. Try to have time to talk even once a day so each one of you would know that you both still there for each other. Update her what you did this day and your plans so even if she's away she knows what you are doing.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
well it depends on the people... i know some people how had a long distance relationship but they survived it... even if your away or the other one is, one thing is very important in a relationship is loyalty and understanding. loyalty that even if you are apart you will always keep in mind that you have someone somewhere in the world that is waiting and hoping for your coming. understanding that though you have a relationship with that person but now that you are apart you have limitations. like you can't see each other often and there will be so communication gaps. what if the place that boyfriend or girlfriend will be staying has no internet network (himalayas or sarangti plains)you can't expect them to have a live chat with you. the thing is there will be adjustments and you just have to deal with that when both of you will cross the bridge. and if both your love with each other is true, i'm sure that it will stand what ever odds in your way.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Yes, it will work but it's really difficult to maintain a long distance relationships. Everything must be put into place like the modes of communication. As many ways as you can to communicate, much better. Trust is really important because it will keep you together. One thing i advice you though, leave something for yourself just in case the relationship failed. Don't worry, even relationships with someone near also fails. That's just the same.
@ada547612 (203)
• China
21 Apr 09
I think if two people's feelings so strong, the distance is not a problem. This way, they will test you may be among the more solid feeling in the end. I have a boyfriend and I separated for up to 2 years. Feelings between us are getting better and better. I believe that as long as each is convinced that the other party the choice of their life, nothing can be changed.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
i dont think it will work out! i used to have a bf and after a year of long distance relationship, we barely know each other anymore we end up fighting always.. until we decided to just call it quits! i cried a lot but in the end its also a relief! we are now good friends.. his still single while im with a new guy now! we still chat and call each other! its better this way!
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
21 Apr 09
Yes they can work.. but there needs to be a great, open line of communication, honesty, and trust. If the couple is close enough, nothing will keep them apart in the end.
• United States
21 Apr 09
One thing I can tell you about long distance relationship is you need to realize that during those months she will be gone a whole different dynamic is going to emerge. I started a relationship as long distance and then we ended up being together at college and because of it we couldn't stand each other. And so that would be the one thing I would keep in mind if you decide that you want to stay with her. Things are going to change and its not going to be the same. You won't be able to talk to each other as much and seeing each other is going to be a difficult thing. And then when she gets back, you are going to have adjusted to having a ton of free time so therefore its another process to go through. But the thing is - if either or you finds someone new you can't get mad about the situation. In most cases it is going to happen so instead of getting upset you just have to realize it might be a consequence.
@marguicha (216459)
• Chile
21 Apr 09
It´s very difficult (almost imposible, I would say) to mantain a long distance realtionship. It can work for a few weeks, maybe for a few months. But the girl need to make a nest for herself in her new country. Tha means other friends, other life. If you are not there, sharing it, how can you be part of it? Can´t you go after her? Can´t she stay? Take care