What do I do when a warning is ignored, and I am still harassed?

@Toofancy (548)
United States
April 21, 2009 9:02am CST
I am just curious to see what others would do in this situation. My stepson has a "friend" who is not a very good person. When they are together, they always get in trouble, and they are smoking marijuana, etc. Just a week or so ago, they were riding around in my stepson's truck, got pulled over by the police, and the "friend" was arrested because he had marijuana in his pocket. Luckily, they only impounded my stepson's truck, but did not arrest him. Anyway, I have blocked the "friend's" phone number so that he cannot call my house. That is because he calls, hangs up, and calls right back - over and over - until my stepson answers (which he doesn't usually do). Needless to say, the phone is driving me nuts - so I blocked his number. He keeps calling from different phones doing the same thing. Everytime he finds a new phone to call from, I block that number too. I have 4 numbers blocked that he calls from. When he cannot get through on the phone he comes to my house and knocks at my stepson's bedroom window. So get this - Yesterday we were gone to the movies. The boy came over to my house (because he thought my stepson was home in his room asleep), threw his cell phone through my stepson's bedroom window, and then called his cell phone 28 times from his girlfriend's cell phone. He thought my stepson was in his room asleep, and he was trying to wake him. Is that nuts, or what???? I know he called 28 times, because the phone had 28 missed calls from the other cell phone. My stepson told him he needs to quit calling and coming over, and that when he (my stepson) wants to hang out, he will come to his (the friend's) house. But we just cannot keep this boy away. Honestly, would you continue to call a house that has blocked you from calling? And it burns me up that he has the nerve to come on my property. He is so pushy and so aggressive! My stepson is 20 years old, and I cannot restrict him from being friends with this person. But I DO NOT have to allow his friend to have access to my home. What do I do to keep this teenager away from my home? I am my wits end.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I see others kind of gave you the same advice and that is to talk to the police about this troublesome boy...sounds like he has a weird obsession or something. Can you talk to HIS parents? About the police though, maybe theirs some kind of restraining order that can be done? As for the grounds to cite for...how about trespassing?
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@Toofancy (548)
• United States
22 Apr 09
He lives with his girlfriend's family. My husband did go up there and speak to the girlfriend's mother about it. (The girlfriend is in on all of it, so she is of no help). Though the mother listened to what my husband had to say, my stepson says she won't do anything about it. So, I will be relying on the police if this continues. We do not have NO Trespassing signs up on our property - but we are going to put some up. And I will check to see if I can get some kind of restraining order, too, if he keeps this up. Thanks for responding!
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I would call the police and talk with them. They may be able to tell you what action you can take.
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@Toofancy (548)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I think you are absolutely right, and that is what I will do next. Thanks for responding! I had to blow off some steam.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Aug 09
this socalled friend of your stepson is pushing the law and'harassing you to the point of stalking.I would call 'the police,explain what is going on and ask what they could do to get through to this boy that he is treading on thin ice. You have a right to decide who is welcome in your own home and I am sure the police can help you.if they think it borders on stalking they can get you a warrant to stop him from being close to your house. good luck God bless