When do you say enough is enough and give up on your family?

April 21, 2009 9:54am CST
I used to be part of a big asian family with all these cousins and nephews. I do sometimes miss all of them but then i think of what they put me through. I mean my sister stole my car from me as my dad gave her the keys, she has stolen a few hundred pounds out of a bank account. My dad ran up a massive £1,000 phone bill in my name which i am now having to pay! Along with that when ever i was at my cousin or family members house i was ignored and made to fell like a outsider. The final straw came when i was staying at a aunts house and she was giving me food which i was allergiced to and i was in bed for about a week i told her i couldnt eat cheese and she made some pasta with a cheese sauce. Now the only family i even talk to is my mum. in your opinion am i right to have turned my back on the family or not? oh and i aint told you all of wat happened just the main points. What would you have done if you were me?
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
22 Apr 09
It is unfortunate that we don't get to choose our family and although it is quite natural to love them it is not obligatory to like them. My parents were emotionally abusive to my sister and I and we still wonder why we even talk to them to this day! I care for my parents but I cannot honestly say that I like them as people. Your family has put you through a great deal and do not give the impression to care or consider your feelings. It seems as though you have made the decision and you have had enough and I don't blame you; just because they are family it doesn't give them the right to treat you so badly. You probably wouldn't put up with that from anyone else would you? I would keep my distance; maybe one day you may feel you want to talk, until then I would stick with more considerate folks. Good luck to you!
25 Apr 09
thank you for your response, it helped
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
25 Apr 09
You're welcome. Hope things work out for you.
• United States
21 Apr 09
well i told my family that i had enough of them years ago. they did so many horriable things. it had got to the point that my husband was ready to leave over it. now i talk to them 2 times a year on the phone see my mom once a year. we meet a place. i dont let them have my address or come to my house. i can understand what you are going thorugh i went though it with them and it was to much. they are family and you only have one family but you can put limits to it. if they cant understand why you put limits to the relationship then that is there problem. dont turn your back just put rules. i mean i love my parents but i had to think of me, my husband and my kids first and well like i said we talk on the phone but they couldnt come over no matter what. i keep them on a leash so to speak
25 Apr 09
Thank you for your advice i haven't tlked to my dad or any of my family for over a year now i dont miss them its just every now and then. I decided before that the only family i need is my mum.