Are you inclined to solve problems yourself or ask for help from others?

@ktosea (2025)
China
April 22, 2009 11:49pm CST
When you encounter with big challeges or something difficult,will you be inclined to figure out yourself or you first think of if someone else could lend you a hand. I usually like to think it over and try to resolve it myself unless I really need the others' helps to get the things done.I guess this reflect my personality or something.are you just like me or the opposite?
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21 responses
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
just like you, when problems come my way, i usually solve it on my own because it's my problem and i should not bother others. however, if i can't take it anymore, i turn to someone for help or advice. it's hard to take things on your own but i think it's the best thing to do. but i'm not saying that it's wrong to ask help. it's good to ask help to especially when someone is there ready and very willing to listen to you and help you get through the current situation.
@ktosea (2025)
• China
23 Apr 09
yeah,we ask someone for help only when we can not solve it on our own
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@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I'm a private person and I'd like to keep things for myself. Ever since I remember I don't open up or talked about to anyone my problems or concerns. I always solved it on my own. I just think that people around me also have problems and I don't want t bother them and I personally believed that in the end your the only one who an solve your own problem so why bother telling it. But that's when I'm in my teenage life, when I entered my tertiary education I became more open to my friends. I confide my problems though not really asking for help or advise I just want to share it.
@ktosea (2025)
• China
23 Apr 09
well,you could talk about your problems with you friends so you needn't to keep too many things in your mind and feel a little ease.
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@viga01 (28)
• United States
23 Apr 09
While I will ask for advice from people I barely know over the internet, asking for help, in person, from someone I know well is something I go to great lengths to avoid. I've been so ridiculous about it in the past that I would let a problem become so epic that EVERYONE was going to know about it if I didn't get help resolving it quickly. Basically, I just waited until I was nearly collapsed from the stress of it before admiting that it was something that I was unable to handle on my own. I still have a tendency to do that, but I'm more careful now to try to remember to step back from the problem and take a realistic view of whether or not I really need help, and then, if I do need help, I try to actuall ask for it.
@ktosea (2025)
• China
23 Apr 09
good for you now,we could also learn many things from internet
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@chigawaga (592)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
i would most likley try my best as resolving it myself,but if its somthing i still cant i would probubly give and ask for help,i hate asking for help though so i would probubly ask my husband for help before i asked any one else lol
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@ktosea (2025)
• China
23 Apr 09
yeah,I also hate to ask for help,it make me feel incapable of myself
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@happy2009 (330)
• China
23 Apr 09
I need someone's advise,but I never think of depend on the other's help . The things only can really solve by the one who's in it ,so even there's the other's help ,it only do in skin deep.
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@bobmnu (8160)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I will usually try to solve the problem myself. If I find it out of my ability or knowledge I will seek the help of others.
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@jammyt (2822)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
If I can solve it on my own, I try to do it so that I wont bother others. When I can't anymore, I tell my husband at once. He's the best person to give good advices on this (and he'll help me solve it too!)
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@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Ever since I always face all difficulties in life and never had anyone to talk it through not even my sisters or my parents and my friends are just the casual one but not the real on in which you could pour yourself into with this I learn to stand on my own and never ask for anyone's help. But ever since I have fallen to a very loving girl I can never lie to her and in with this I told her everything even my darkest past. We are open with each other. But I never let her solve the problems though just share it with her. Even in the matters of doing things I learned to be independent and never rely on others but sometimes we do need them but not all the time.
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@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
23 Apr 09
I have a bad habit of trying to do everything myself and not asking for help. I don't like to ask for help or to depend on anyone. I will try to resolve my problems myself and may ask for advice but that is about all. Its just the way I am.
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• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I don't want to be a lone problem solver but most of the time i intent to solve problems on my own. but there are times when a friend is in the mood to help i would take the opportunity to asked him or her for help. sometimes two or three minds are better than most specially if it's work related. it's nice to solve it on your own but it's better if you have others helping you. have a nice day..
@ktosea (2025)
• China
24 Apr 09
you are right,if someone else is ready to let you a hand and give you some advice,you could take it so the problems could be resolved earlier
• India
23 Apr 09
I first try to resolve any kind of problem all by myself, I see all the options I have to tackle the problem and solve it, If I am short of any idea or if I am no more able to tolerate and if the problems intensity is more then my capacity to solve the problem, then is when I look or ask for anyone's help. Until then, I have enough confidence in myself that I can solve my problem myself and so far, I have not given myself a chance in asking anyone help for my problem, because what I feel is everyone has problems, it is always best to help others and to solve our problems by ourselves. I don't like asking others help when I know that the other person also has problems, But yes, when it is really essential, when it is out of my hands, I seek for help.
@ktosea (2025)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi Gayathrigs,thanks for your concrete commets,you are a kind person
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I usually solve my own problems. But since I got married, I shared all my problems with my husband so we are both hand in hand in solving our problems. He does the same to me because we swore not to keep anything from each other. We want a lasting and healthy relationship so we are really trying to communicating everything to one another everyday. When I have few minimal problems I just solve them on my own and just inform him after that. But major problems are being solved by the two of us. We consider each other a "better half" so we always help each other. In case the problem is the partner of course communication will still pave the way for us to solve it.
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• United States
23 Apr 09
Well, it really depends on what the problem is. Some problems can't be solved by only one person. I usually try and solve all my problems by myself first.. And I ocassionally ask somebody for advice. I've never had to ask somebody to actually step in and help me with a problem. It varies from person to person. Personality has a big part to play, some people are too confident, some arrogant. These people think they can do everything for themselves. There are others that are helpless though, or think that they are, and constantly need others to get them out of everything. Just depends, really.
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• United States
23 Apr 09
First i always try to solve things my way I love to learn knew things in life. Now if I see my self on the same situation for a couple of hour then I call some one to help. I'm a fast learner to.
@nv_jenn (207)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
I have a real big issue of trying to do it myself. I will try and try until I am certain there is no possible way that I could do it before I ask for help. It also really annoys me when someone sees me trying to do something and assumes that I can't because I am having an issue, and they persist on doing it for me.
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@hxstar (510)
• China
23 Apr 09
Hi,ktosea I prefer to solveit all by myself,I am not good at co-operating with others.I feel better to stand on myself.In addition,it can help to improve my ability.However,people say it is important to co-operate with others nowadays and I will have a try. Have a nice day!
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• Ireland
23 Apr 09
depending on the nature of the problem. there are things that I will be needing consultation too. I avoid being one-sided so I appreciate hearing the opinions of other people but at the end of the day, I'll be the one who will technically solve it.
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@kath_b (116)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I am more inclined to solve problems by myself especially if they are too personal. I am an independent person and i like to take on challenges by myself although sometimes a little push from my family and friends are worth it. I get by with my life on my own almost...finishing school with little help from parents except for the financial aspect, getting a job with just doing it, applying for it by myself, giving justice and doing well on the job by means of my own skills and my own potentials. Maybe I was just raised to be independent. Anyway, if i do meet something harsh and difficult i solve it on my own, however i do like to share with some people im close to but sometimes its not family. i dnt know why...
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@arvvaz89 (85)
• Sweden
23 Apr 09
I usually try to do it by myself first and when i see that i can't figure it out i will go and ask for help. It also depends a little bit on who it is i have to ask for help. You don't want to ask someone for help that will jsut call you stupid because you do not understand.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I try to solve it on my own. I analyze it carefully because I know there is a mistake why I have a problem. By solving it myself I learned and I avoid to repeat such mistake. But if the problem is new and i find it difficult to comprehend with it I ask first the help of my parents, if it is at work , my supervisor. There are my second option when I can solve my problems.