is friendship possible after a relationship?

@Ritchelle (3795)
Philippines
April 23, 2009 6:43am CST
what's your view on this? had you had an experience wherein an ex really became a friend after your breakup? is it really prevalent that many couples cannot have a friendship after a relationship? why do you think so?
16 responses
@longgee (137)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I think, they can be friends except that when the reason of the break up is third party!! Third party really makes a good relationship to vanish. You have invested a lot in a relationship but still the 3rd party destorys it!
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
i think if a third party is concerned then your other half and the third party destroyed the relationship. there wouldn't even be a "party" if the other half of the relationship did not allow it. potential third parties are everywhere but without the other's consent then there wouldn't be, like i said, a third party
@foisgras (205)
• Sweden
23 Apr 09
Yes, it is possible. This of course depends on how you broke-up. There are friends of mine that has been divorced twice and spend Christmas together with all their children from the previous and latest marriage. Some don't even talk to each other after a break-up. As I said the situations are pretty different from case to case basis.
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@foisgras (205)
• Sweden
23 Apr 09
Sorry about that chap ..... The cause why they can't talk is pride and egoism.
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@assunta (25)
• Philippines
4 May 09
i believe, yes - for as long as the break-up has been mutual.
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• Philippines
24 Apr 09
If you were in a relationship and it ended in a bad way and you try to be friends but one of you won't allow it,maybe there are things that you need to close first between the two of you to be really friends.But a lot of people don't want to be friends with their ex,even my ex don't want to be my friend which I think is very amusing because he is the one who have lots of issues.
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@ana31798 (41)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I think it is possible to be friends with an ex. i think if there are no left over romantic feelings it is totally possible. I have been best friends with one of my ex boyfriends for like 15 years. I am still friends with my sons dad also. Sometimes you can be the best as friends but not good as a couple.
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
For some it really works after a break up they became friends with their ex'es. In my case after we broke up we became friends as if nothing happened. though we've been together as a couple for 6 years. Maybe because its easy for us to became friends, cause we started as friends and we really treasure those times. And the most important thing is accept reality though it hurts. who knows if you are really meant to be love will always find its way back.
@2btrueinu (703)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Hi! ritchel it depends if you end up in good terms then there could be a friendship after but if you end up hurting each other badly well I think there will not be friendship after. But as a matured person we should part ways in good manner and at peace.
@jcbelle (152)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
For me, friendship is possible after relationship but with limitations. Of course it is no longer the same friendship as compared before. It will really depend on the partners. But I believe that when your ex or a friend used to have conflicts for a long time will definetly be settled in the right time. I used to have a long time boyfriend, whom I did not talk to for many years due to personal conflicts which really made me mad at him for many years. But after those years of being mad, we are now in good terms. We forgave each other and moved on with our lives. I feel so happy about it because everything is settled.
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@berrys (864)
• Singapore
23 Apr 09
i have had quite a number of boyfriends and of all my ex's only two of them are no longer friends with me. In no way did i hurt them intentionally but they always think i did and the more i tried to explain the worst it got. so in the end i just decided to leave it alone and in time maybe they will learn to be friends with me again. i am sad to say that till today i am not friends with them. for one of them it has been a whole year and the other one is coming in on six and a half months. the most progress i've had with the six and a half months guy was a nod or a smile, but the other one of my ex that i havent been friends with in a year doesnt even dares to look at me, if we're standing next to each other we shuffle away hastily. i do not even mention his name but i know he still cares for me cause in an indirect way he tells his friends to remind me about my activities or if i had left something behind. then again all my other ex's and me are still as close as ever we talk about people we have dated or want to date or dating presently and exchange all sorts of date ideas and plan fun activities to do together so i really think it depends on the maturity of the guy/girl. hope this helps. cheers love.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Though its not for everyone..I personally remained friends with almost all of my ex's..BUT I'm the type of person who sees it as this...we were friends BEFORE dating so just because an intimate relationship didnt work out doesnt mean we can't still be friends....the only time I haven't or wouldnt remain friends with an ex is if they were abusive or if the relationship ended roughly...then I have no time for htem
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@gracie04 (4554)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Well, I guess it all depends two both of them.. some people are okay with it but for me? I don't think it's possible. it's my choice not to be friends my exes anymore.. past is past and there is no need to bring back the old times. I love my present relationship. i couldn't afford to lose it.. never!
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@kuan01 (135)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Yes, my ex and I were still friends but it is rare to do that actually. Even I don't expect that we will come to this. But, before we've come to this, we talked about it and try to understand what has happened to out previous day in relationship.
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@med889 (5953)
23 Apr 09
Yes it is possible dera friend. I am going out with my friend and we are very good friend too. And a brilliant lover.
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@bumba1988 (1222)
• India
23 Apr 09
Hi Ritchelle,it is dependent entirely on the two individuals and their mentalities.It is indeed hard to stay in touch after a break up,then being friends is even tougher.But,sometimes for professional purposes we have to meet each other and even talk,we cannot help it then.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 09
i think it is as long as everything ended up well and the decision of one was respected by the other. it's nice to be friends with someone you once had a relationship with because both of you have shared a lot together and it's good to stay close to each other despite the fact that you parted ways.
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Yes I think its possible, I have a couple of exes that are friends now, and strictly friends!