Handling Frustrating Moments

United States
April 23, 2009 3:19pm CST
Since I've quit smoking, things stress me out a lot easier than they used to. I have been calling my husband at work at least once an hour because I'm feeling overwhelmed by something. Things never used to stress me out as easily, but now once they do, I don't feel like I can ever calm back down. Aside from deep breathing and taking time outs, what are some other ways of handling temporary stress?
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I am horrible at handling stress. I normally have to just walk away from whatever is stressing me out. That is not always possible with 2 kids though, so that makes it even harder. I hope you stop stressing out so much soon. The stress is not any better for you than the smoking was.
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• United States
23 Apr 09
So far I've only been overly stressed when my older 3 kids are home. They just keep going and going... especially the oldest one. I'm having a really rough night tonight too!
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
23 Apr 09
My older child is usually the one who gets my younger one going. You would think that they would know better being the older ones. Breathe! Is it nice outside? Make them go outside for a little bit.
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• United States
24 Apr 09
We don't normally have time to play outside on school nights. They have dinner, homework, and baths, and last night we had a school function. And I try to get them to bed early because they're up at 6am.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
24 Apr 09
i know its not as easy to do as saying it is, but try doing less stressful things? and use logic to think past the frustration .. what type of things are you doing to stress you out ? money stresses me out, so now i have taken control over the income and now that its in my own hands instead of just trusting my husband will take care of it, its a lot less stressful, would something like that work ? trying different ways of doing things so they become less stressful to begin with ?
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• United States
24 Apr 09
My kids are what stresses me out, and I can't exactly avoid them.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
24 Apr 09
ahh. my kids do that too.. but they are young so the fun hasn't even begun with the stress yet.. sorry i dunno what to suggest there. babysitting once in a while and get out on a little mommy day ? i say that but i know its MUCH easy to say then do. i haven't had a day to myself since my first was born..
@ada547612 (203)
• China
24 Apr 09
I think the pressure to deal with the interim is the best way to take a deep breath, and can increase the metabolic cycle of health benefits. And other methods should be based on your interest, if you like to listen to music, you can choose your favorite songs to listen to. If you like talking, you can find your friends to chat or talk. In short, that is, as far as possible the transfer of their attention.
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@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Hey kats! It is really hard to handle stress when you know where it's coming from and why. The only thing that you can do is try to keep yourself busy. I mean keep your hands and mind busy as much as possible! Try not have too many idle moments. I know that when I get upset and stressed if I start doing something in the house then I sometimes will forget about why I was upset, even if it is only temporary!
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@ds6413 (2074)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I took up walking even just a short distance for me to clear mind after I quit smoking. Then I started exercising for 30 minutes. But the walking short distances really helped while I was getting back in shape.
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@dodo19 (40152)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Apr 09
It's never easy to deal with stressful moments. One thing that I do, which helps me a lot, is doing some meditation, relaxation and breathing exercises. These things help me quite a bit, in those very stressful moments. I've heard that yoga can also help. Maybe you could consider trying these things.
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@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
24 Apr 09
katsmeow1213, It is very important to remember that problems are there not to overwhelm and defeat you but are stepping stones for you to be a better prepared and experienced person. So, besides all the deep breathing exercises and taking time outs, you will need to know what actually is the root and cause of the problem(s). You will then need to recognize that you will have to physically get involved with the solving of the problem. You may want to exercise some judgment as to whether you yourself or some friends or love ones could solve the problem(s). Then, you will need to plan, so that you can go about your ways in trying to get the problem(s) solved. Sometimes, these problems need nothing than evolving yourself so that habits and usual ways can be changed from within you to produce solution(s). Most of the time, if you will notice much of these problems today are actually self inflicted and self aggravated. The next important thing for you to do will be to be aware of who you associate with during your times of stress and unresolved problem(s). Please do not take me as discriminating them, even if they might happen to be your close friends. But, sometimes we need to be realistic and a little selfish here, for some known and prudent reasons. Let's face it, do you think they could be of help when they are already overwhelmed themselves. Also, your problems could be further aggravated when others have nothing but pour their grievances of theirs to you. At the end of the day, not only is your problem(s) not resolved, you end up more depressed with them. Last but not least, turning to God. Since the majority have done it with success, I just do not see why it will not work out for you. Divinity is always a known and inexplicable fact where people are saved and problems solved, so sometimes your solutions' source may be one from God. I hope that this 2 cents worth of mine will be of help to you here and that you will be able to arrive at the light of the end of the tunnel. Take care and have a good day.
@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 09
Kat, you have to go to the doctor and get something to calm you for a month or so. You have done so well but we all need some help. You haven't had patches and quit cold turkey and not many people succeed this way. go talk to him and get some mild trnaquilizers tha twill help you to cope with the everday stresses and strains of life.
• United States
25 Apr 09
I am not the type of person who likes to take medicine for any reason. I'm more the type of person who stops taking prescriptions once I feel better. I'll only take pills when I'm in too much pain to handle it. I was diagnosed with depression years ago and I'd rather read books about it than take pills for it. I won't even take aspirin for a headache.. I'd go to bed before taking an aspirin. I can't even take a birth control pill. I just don't like medicine.
@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Oh, how I wish you wouldn't of said that! I'm trying to quit smoking and I'm already at my wits end (see my latest post). I don't know what to do about anything and I'm to the point now that I just try to avoid it all. But like you said on a different response...Its the kids driving you crazy and you can't exactly avoid them! That's how I feel!!! I spend 90% of my day in my room, preferrably alone. Of course, I NEVER am. They all just come in here. Noone understands and everyone just looks at me like I've lost it cause I don't know how to function anymore. I'm just about to the point where I just don't care... I know I'm losing it and I feel like they are just pushing me right over the edge. My old man complains about my smoking but he sure can't do anything to reduce the stress. We have 10 kids between us that are here ALOT!!! He helps sometimes, but you know how men are, if they pick up a sock, they've done 8 loads of laundry...WHATEVER! I hope you get some good advice. When you do, please email me or something cause I'm at my wits end! Good Luck!
• United States
24 Apr 09
How long have you been smoke free for? It does get easier, I just posted this at a bad moment. Plus it's that time of month which isn't helping things. It is worse when my older 3 kids are home, but honestly they drove me berzerk long before I dreamed of quitting smoking.
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@besthope44 (12141)
• India
3 Oct 10
Most time, its my work..with ontime deliveries and work loads. I try to divert mind on music and i feel better. We need to manage stress, as it is part of life in busy world. But if we concentrate, we can manage it. I does it through my yoga, listening music and going out on vacation.
@GreenMoo (11837)
2 May 09
Eating chocolate works well for me, but I can't imagine it would do your diet any good! A change of scene might work if you get really stressed. How about bundling the kids into coats and going for a walk around the block?