How is it like to be a plain housewife?

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Philippines
April 24, 2009 1:03am CST
i've been to work since before i got married so i didn't experience being really just a plain housewife. during weekends, i personally do the household chores and sometimes i complained about it. well, no one had asked me to do that. it's just voluntary. i can't imagine being a plain housewife all my wife. i know it's a nobel work but sometimes one tends to forget about herself because of the never-ending chores at home. how is it like to be really at home 24/7?
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@060157 (1060)
• Pakistan
24 Apr 09
i'll want my wife to be just a housewife. she would not have to work and i would be responsible for bringing in the money. i want to keep her at ease and relax at home. do the house chores and then do whatever you want. of course i would also be lending a hand even with the house chores, and i don't think that house chores are never-ending :P it just takes proper management, but then again not every person is the same. in my culture, men like to keep their women at ease from financial stress.
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• China
24 Apr 09
So I have been trying to say is: a woman is great! I often vacation time from work or trying to help his wife to do some housebold chores,such as with children or cooking,it is clear I am not good at these,I will often mess!Therefore,I can appreciate the hard work of my wife,and she has been doing so for so many years! In fact,to do all these things than a lot of hard work,so we should be allowed more time to help those who are family and hard work of the housewives!
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• Philippines
2 May 09
well, husbands should also help. fixing the bed before and after bedtime is really a huge help.
@idarita (18)
• Singapore
24 Apr 09
household chores....not only i complain, but i nagged at my hubby all the times,lol! its a never-ending thing, and i always get bored and tired of all those, but what can i do? my hubby do help out sometimes, but i can't just depend on him.
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• United States
25 Apr 09
I like beeing a house wife but I also miss the feeling of having my own money and I hate chores
@jalucia (1433)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Well, I don't know how many women can really afford to be just a plain housewife these days. I am a stay at home mom, in a sense. But, I do what I can to bring in extra money. I can't afford not to. At the same time, I can't work a 9-5 or a 1-4 or a 3-8 (you get my drift), because I have three young children. But, being the one who is at home most is rough because like you said it's never ending. Between the kids, the messes that they make, your husbands needs, the kids needs and your own ... you're never done. At least when a person goes to work they have a damn good excuse why they can't take care of household responsibilities. No ones really too interested in hearing about the woes of a housewife. On the other hand I notice that my husband seems to really like it when I am stuck in the house and he leaves me and the kids at home. When he come home on those days his face just lights up. Go figure!
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@jalucia (1433)
• United States
5 May 09
thanks for the BR (glad you liked :) )
@jammyt (2822)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
My mom is a housewife. she has all the chores to do -- though my dad helps her. We have no maid. I remember she went to the market, cooked food, managed the money, paid for the bills , etc. the downside is, she 's just at home. Now that I am a mom myself but working, she takes it against me that I work and leave my daughter under the care of a nanny with her. Insecurities are seen most of the times. I'm not generalizing though, so I guess, it's really all about your outlook in life and how you manage your time.
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• China
24 Apr 09
Your mother is a great mother,I think you will also become a good mother!
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@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Well its really hard to be a full time housewife. it is also right that the chores at home are have no ending, which sometimes comes to the conclusion to experience to be a office worker because managing babies until they grow and doing the responsibility to the family are what a hard work.
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
24 Apr 09
I am working woman. I am still not married. I think it will be problematic for me to be housewife. it is not acceptable for me. My mother is a housewife. She is habituated in that. I think women should have own identity in society as well.
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I'd been working after graduation from highschool and finish college by being a working student. Still I was working when I got married and till I have my children. I only stayed at home when I took care of my aging mom. After she passed away, my children who were now grown ups ask me to stay at home. After so many years I experienced to become a plain hosewife too late for my late husband to experience a true care and service from a full time wife. Being a plain house wife is wonderful as long as you have everything at home including money for expenses. I enjoy serving the children and bonding with them, but I get bored as well sometimes so I have to go back working part time.
• India
24 Apr 09
i think being a house wife will have only House responsibilities but some times it will be a boredom when we don't have any work....i prefer for ladies being a house wife is good in the society rather that if they go work and also work in the House gives lot of pressure no freedom at work and house .....makes health spoil
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@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
2 May 09
JUST A PLAIN HOUSEWIFE?! I don't really understand this entire sentence. When you are the one who chooses to take care of your family instead of working outside your home, not only is that not 'just' but there's nothing 'plain' about it. It is actually a very fulfilling thing to do with your life unless you have career aspirations lol. If you've heard the term 'must love dogs' or 'must love cats', this job description would include 'must love kids' and 'must have patience' and 'must be willing to endure many challenges'. Yes, not everybody is cut out for this. Rather than save household chores for any specific day or just weekends, it is easier to try and just keep things maintained, then cleanups are quick, like 10-20 minutes. Believe me, although it does seem like nothing is ever done, you can split it up into manageable chunks if you don't get behind on anything. What is it like being home 24/7? I would have absolutely no idea. Once in awhile I am home all day but I don't see how anybody could exist that way. When my daughter was small, I had to take older kids to the bus stop. There were errands, other things. When she got older, we did mommy and me classes, shopping, errands, and the other kids' activities. Now one of the kids is grown and moved out, the other is in high school. The little one has preschool and ballet and other social functions and I have friends as well as shopping, errands, gym, etc. There is no way I would ever be sitting at home day in/day out lol. No way, no how. Do people REALLY do that? In this day and age?
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
2 May 09
Hi mommyboo, I took "just plain housewife" to mean a woman that stays home and her sole purpose is to care for her husband & the house. If kids are involved....it never ever gets dull does it?
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
2 May 09
Well I was being facetious and kind of sarcastic when I said 'I don't understand this entire sentence'. I don't see how there's any 'just' or 'plain' about having the main goal or occupation of taking care of your spouse, children, home, etc. That is a 24/7, 365 day a year job, with no monetary salary, no vacation, no lunch break, no other break, and you don't get to clock out and put the job on somebody else lol. I was just so in shock to see someone refer to a job of this importance that way...lol. In terms of compensation, any person who decides to be a full time caretaker of their family without having another employer should make more than the CEO of NASA, the president, or the head of one of those idiot banks that sucked up taxpayer money to throw parties for their higher-ups. We are raising the future of America, which is no small favor...
@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
2 May 09
i've been once a plain housewife when my eldest son was still one year old. it's been so tiring and boring, you only get happy being close with your son always.one thing is that you have no outlet, and the intellectual matter will not grow. you also have to deal with lots of people and have another outlet to burst out your feelings.
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
2 May 09
Well, it is important to make sure that you still have hobbies, interests, and outlets. Even after you become a wife and a mother, it doesn't mean that you are no longer YOU. You still need friends, interests, hobbies, outlets. It's more important than ever to continue doing those things and meeting people. I hear a lot of people with kids talk about how isolated and bored they are. It does NOT have to be that way, and I cannot imagine living like that.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
2 May 09
I can't imagine being a housewife. I did drop out of the workforce when my kids were small but I did a zillion odd jobs that I did around the kids and husbands schedule. Some of the work I did was from home. I also did the usual...clean, cook, laundry etc.
• United States
25 Apr 09
Wow. I've never considered myself "a plain house wife". In fact, I consider myself a pretty eccentric one at that. Sure, there are things I don't like doing, like cleaning toliets and taking out trash so I ask my husband to help with those. I am enjoying the time I've been given to stay at home with our children and watch them grow during their early years. I enjoy baking, cooking, and the like. I don't always like the nights when my feet meet with well placed obstacles, but that is part of the joy of having children. I take a great deal of joy in my home, and work well to reflect it. However, there are times when things go their way because I take time off and just let the housework go so I can spend even more time with my children and husband. I can't say I forget too much about myself because I make time for myself. I think that there is definately a balance that is needed, but one can find it if they truly want to. For now, I'm the "witch", and even have my ringtone set to Bewitched. Namatse-Anora
• United States
25 Apr 09
well lets see..id like to take the ole'feed bag off on the plain housewife..im a mother,grandmother,daughter,sister..ive never been called a ( plain housewife ) i dont think they are around anymore..those are now outdated and no replacement parts are available..not even at sears..speaking from the housewife view point..in the 50's an 60's it was ozzie & harriett land..and black/white tv..now added color you open up the pink appliances ..thats where the housewife begain..in todays world to be a 2009 housewife..the rules are ..cellphone stuck to your ear and holding one baby while nursing the other..and still cant keep the laundry done..and the biggest battle of the modern plain housewife ..needs a babysitter on standby ..you know just incase you break a nail..i would love to see harriett in 2009..and mrs clever...come on hunny ..plain housewife dyed 30 years ago..
• United States
25 Apr 09
First of all...being a housewife isn't just plain :) There is a lot involved in being a stay at home mom...more than some people give credit for. I know that you aren't saying that but there are a lot of people that don't give housewives enough credit. I absolutely love being just a plain old housewife, it give me all that time i want with my family. I worked full time up until a few years ago due to health issues and at first it was hard because I felt like I had too much time on my hands but after a little while I found stuff that I could do that made time fly by, each day I am finding more and more stuff that I can do and now I am at the point where I feel like I never have enough time. You will always have chores no matter if you are a stay at home parent or a working parent, it is just a bit nice when you are a stay at home parent because you have more time to do it and can get it done while the kids are at school and that gives you more time in the evening to be with your kids and not worrying about chores while all they want you to do it play.
@eztuner (451)
• United States
24 Apr 09
It is great to be a housewife, it is the same as to be at work, you need to be organize in order to enjoy what ever you are doing, If you are a disciplined person you find your time to take care of yourself and your love ones. I feel for the women that have to work and do the housewife chores too. They have it rough!
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I did became a house-wife before. all i could say that it drains you mentally and physically and probably not being informed with the latest trends except if your friends visit you.i talked about with my hubby and he accepted it. we planned the choirs we need to do after worked. funny, were not even working in abroad and yet we do this stuff.
@mimiang (3769)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Yes a neverending 24 hour work but it is worth it if you your kids doing well
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I have become a full-time housewife for nine months now. I lost my job when I was still six months pregnant then my husband never let me apply again. I just stayed at home until I gave birth. Then after giving birth I continued being at home because no one will take care of our baby. I and the baby were the only people at home 24/7. I learned to adjust, I learned to accept things as they are. My husband is very loving and responsible. But now that my son is turning seven months old, we are lucky we already found a baby sitter. Before I was the one who does all the household chores. The good thing is that I was used to it ever since I was single. I am so industrious in the house and even when I was still working. I never want to give my work as an excuse not to personally do all the household chores. My husband was the cook when we were still both working. He wanted me to sleep and get more rest than he is. When I was stocked at home, I was the one who cook and serve him dinner and breakfast. Now we are planning for the next chapter of our life and that is me getting back to work because of the increasing expenses plus the fact that we now have a baby sitter that will be paid every month. My advice to plain housewives, always find things at home that you may enjoy doing. I myself is not used to being left at home 24/7 but my reason is that I did that for my son. I loved my husband and I served him well. Of course there may be times that you may feel bored but then in my case, my husband is a very funny person. We always laugh and share jokes and stories every time he arrives home. I told him that I never want to be a plain housewife my entire life. I wanted to work to help him and to realize my worth. I want a career. I do not believe that you can't do things at the same time. I know that I can be a mom, a wife and a career woman all at the same time. Just have faith and trust and everything will be done. God be with me. Have a great mylot day!
@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
i am a plain housewife, although in my early marriage i had worked for a year, after that, when i had given birth to my first child, i became a plain housewife. it is good to be one, you can take care of your child, your husband, give them your full attention. but really sometimes, it is too much to bear, because you do all the housework... although my husband helps once in a while. you still have a big responsibility of everything. now that my kids are a bit older, i teach them some household chores so i dont do everything, and at least they will learn to do things all by themselves. my daughter is incharge of cooking rice and washing dishes, and my son is in charge of filling the empty bottles with water and putting them in the refrigerator. little by little i teach my kids on house work, i just started teaching my daughter on how to wash clothes... =)