Become a cyber friend

@zandi458 (27948)
Malaysia
April 24, 2009 3:04am CST
Life is becoming too hectic these days that we have no time to find new friends in the real world and too busy to spend quality time with our old friends or maybe they have no time for us either. Wonder how or when you will find other people with similar interests to have a cup of tea and just sit back and share with? Although it may seem strange, that you can really connect with someone without ever having met them in person, in fact, you can forge friendships online that will serve you well. And you don't even have to dress up or comb your hair,but just connect and help preserve your sanity. Mylot has been a great place to foster such kind of comraderie and friends here are nothing short of our real physical friends. They are real people on the other end of the line. Have you met and find real friends here in mylot? I hope you have. I do have friends here that I normally chat with and I do normally fill the chat box to get all or share ideas with. Appreciate that you are reaching out to others, as well as being available to them as a source of support, encouragement, and creative ideas for dealing with what is on their mind and yours.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
26 Apr 09
Life begins like this... - Life
Hello zandi,Life is paralyzed and souls are contaminated. Nothing pleasant comes out from the putrid Time. The real friends with flesh and blood just in front of you are not like ones on the NET. They are all good and cultured lots. Something in the hand to munch while the chat is on. Seems like a big ship sailing through the furrowed ice and life has stopped for a moment and when there is a knock on the door you collect yourself and come down to the real world putting the virtual one on hold. Months follow months and years does years and we are still there. Did I sleep last night? well as long as i don't feel drowsy let that part remain untold. But there is a satisfaction and that is what we had been looking for the centuries.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
Hi Rajib, why suddenly become poetic? But I appreciate your thoughts. As long as you don't disturb the hornets nest, why worry whats happening in the virtual world? It is all but a game of fun. Remain friends wherever and whatever condition we are in. It doesn't dilute anything, does it?
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
27 Apr 09
No, not at all. Did I write this? Yes I did and a poet I am. Believe me. No worry I will send you some of me composed poems. Thanks for the compliment. What a miserly time has arrived!!! people are too mirely even to write few words of appreciation.lol
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 09
You're must welcomed. It is something different for a change. Just send it whenever you feel comfortable.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
26 Apr 09
And you don't even have to dress up or comb your hair,but just connect and help preserve your sanity Don't forget to disconnect your webcam before chatting LOL! Well, I don't have many cyber friends but no matter what the number is, I am happy with them. I mean friends are earned, you earn it by your behavior and your good works towards him/her. The trust isn't that cheap either, isn't it? So, my friends are my treasure. I have many friends in real life too but I can only talk with them via phone as many of them live in different city and the one who is living in this city, is busy with his job and family!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
lucky I don't have a webcam so my friends will never see the ugliest side of me.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
27 Apr 09
Even if I am your real friend, I would have no interest in your ugliest part but I will always look for the good part and that is your heart. because I know you are possessing absolutely clean heart!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 09
ha..ha..ha.., you're real cute!
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@amoyube1980 (2233)
• Somalia
24 Apr 09
I haven't really met anyone at mylot yet whom i've chatted with or conversed with outside of this comment backs. Maybe it's a fault in my part. Apologies to all who have added me as friend. But I do appreciate being added. It made me fell welcomed. However I did find friends in other sites like livemocha where i'm trying to practice my spanish. And there are two people whom I've never met and probably will never meet but been chatting to more than 6 years now. I guess it's eisier to maintain these kinds of friendships as they don't require much.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 09
Hi amoyube, chatting online can be thrilling. Yes, there is no pressure to online friendships as it is purely on a platonic friendship. Maybe I have been here for quite sometime and have found comfort on some of my friends.
• Somalia
24 Apr 09
It's good to know that i've landed myself in a good site. It seems people here are for keeps and not merely passers by trying to take whatever they can. Maybe I should try being more open to people here and not limit myself to this boxes. lol!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 09
Yes, don't confine yourself to the four walls of the screen. Be more adventurous, upgrade yourself,there are more then what mylot can offer.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I do agree with you that it is possible to have meaningful friendships online. I have many friends here that I do feel as if I know. Still, I really think it is important to make time regardless of how busy we are to have at least one or two close friendships in our real world. Just this morning an old friend from highschool knocked on my door. Back in the day, we were best of friends and I ended up marrying his cousin at age 18....a marriage that only lasted 5 yrs. Since the divorce nearly 30 years ago, I have run into this guy only a handful of times. A few weeks ago, I ran into him in the parking lot of my apt. complex. his granddaughter lives here. We talked a few mins. and hugged and parted, promising to get together for coffee. Of course, I never expected that to happen. He knocked on my door about 11am and wanted me to go up to the playground and have our coffees and chat while he watched his granddaughter. I had to go to work in a few hours and had a ton of stuff to do and really did not feel like socializing. Still, I couldn't say no. I'm glad I didn't. We had a great time remembering old times and just hanging out. I have another friend whom I've been friends with for over 40 years. We make time each week to hook up and share a coffee with. If we are too busy, we make sure we take a moment to e-mail. Before computers, we wrote letters. Real friends are important too.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
27 Apr 09
oops...I meant real-life friends. I know the friendships on line are real too.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 09
Hi sid, I don't mean to totally shun away from my real world friends but since the emergence of internet, life has changed dramatically for some of us and we are more to fostering friendships through the net and less of the physical friends but I do still have my childhood friends and old classmates around but meeting has been kept to a minimum due to hectic lifestyle and so much absorbed in the net. We need to keep a balance between the real and virtual world friends.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I know just what you mean. I work some crazy hours and sometimes here on the net is the only way even my real-life friends can communicate with me. Also I have real life friends that don't live anywhere near me and the net is a great way to keep in touch.
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@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Apr 09
Therefore I say I love u and ur thoughts,, Here's I Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig Hug and a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng kiss for u,, I do wish to have a few good friends online ,just like u,,I do chat with a verry few as yet,,it's true that in real life there are a few verrry good friends ( for all of us,no doubt ,, and also a fact that more than half are busy somewhere),it's so nice to meet people like u ,,to spend time with,, online till we (if ever) meet face to face,, U say life is hectic,, it's true,, say thank God,,because some have absolutely NOTHING NICE TO DO OR TALK ABOUT,,enjoy ur day dear Zandi
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 09
ha...ha..ha......are you seeing the stars now???? or you had some whiskey just now?
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Apr 09
the purpose is to see u LAUGHING,, whiskey does not have those powers u know that, we have fun without whiskey,,without friends no charm
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 09
Thanks it brought smiles and yes whiskey does a lot of fun and craziness.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
24 Apr 09
mylot has been a godsend to me. my health is not real good & i don't get out a whole lot so i can come to mylot & i feel as if i have come home. my friends that i have made on here are so enjoyable & so easy to talk to ithelps me alot. i never thought about findind a site like this. when i bought my first computer is was for buisness & i used it alot because i sold on ebay from my antique store. i have to stay busy do something & since i had to quit work mylot fills in alot of empty time that i have. i enjoy it thourougly. glad to have u for a friend, lady. enjoy all the friends i have made on here.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 09
I enjoyed being in your company too lady. I am happy mylot really fits in your schedule and am glad to find a friend in you. long live this friendship lady.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
24 Apr 09
it is very nice to have you for a friend to. i think u are one smart lady. your discussions are great.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
Thanks for your appreciation.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I agree with you I have many friends I found here on mylot that I feel very connected too. and alot I get to talk to on the phone too. and even not really meeting in person we do have a deep connection.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
how nice to be able to talk over the phone to mylot friends and sure you are more advance in this case. I am only able to interact in writings with mylot friends. I have only a handful of them that I regularly chat live.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I have one friend that I still chat with on phone that I met in a bingo room years ago. She has no internet now. So can only talk to her on the phone adn 2 I IM alot of the time!
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@kaleem_jr (106)
• Pakistan
28 Apr 09
May be we've made our live hectic by getting envloved in many thing were uncessary basically like electronic gadgets all around us letting us no time for leisure and enjoyment, like meeting old folk in neibhours, relatives, friends etc.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
I agree with you. It can be part of the reasons.
@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
I have met good people around and I really value it. Despite the trolls around, there are still and actually many good folks here at mylot. Well, I'm sad I could not be as frequent here as I used to due to hectic schedule however, I am happy that my good friends are still here and I do make it a point to get in touch with them through responding to their posts. It is through the posts that we chat and share ideas. I hope we could find time to chat too like you do with your friends.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
Really it is nice to be constantly in touch with friends here and why not we can chat too.
@csrobins (1124)
• United States
27 Apr 09
It’s been proven that online friendships are very beneficial to a person much like regular friendships are. There are some things that can’t be replaced by the internet though, there’s just something that remains mysterious and unknown about online friendships. It’s very separated from the rest of their life. Too much is lost when you lose nonverbal. Nonverbal communication makes up 85% of all communication that takes place.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
The only missing link between internet and real friends maybe only the physical contact otherwise they are almost parallel in nature. Now with the webcam and skype we are able to communicate with our online friends almost instant.
@kaleem_jr (106)
• Pakistan
27 Apr 09
Friendship is a word of great worth. What do you think about it regarding cyber relations? It has almost lost its spirit?
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 09
lost its spirit? Not that I know of.
@kunizzul (1067)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
hye..i think friendship can be build in many ways and this would be one of the way to get friends and learn something new from them.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
You are right and mylot has proven to be one of the best site to meet and create new friendships.
@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I smile as I read this from you.It wasn't so very long ago that you were ASKING the question that your statement here now answers. Can you find true, real people here on the net? Can you find them right here in MyLot? The answer of course is as you have stated here so perfectly... nothing less than I have become so accustomed to seeing from you. They ARE real people and they DO touch your heart in a very real way. I will use YOU as a perfect example. I have been writing here for some time and not really looking for anyone in particular to spend quality time with and have intelligient conversation with.Then I began following some of your writing. I could see by the way you wrote that you were not the average writer. You wrote with both conviction and sincerity. You put thought into your writing and your heart right a long with it. you addressed issues that were smart thinking and provoked me to think also. Your writes stimulated my brain which is what they should do. there was an attraction to your writing that caused me to reach out and try to know you better. I followed that feeling and it was well worth the time taken to get to know you better. In doing so, it has brought to me one of the sweetest, most caring hearts I have ever been blessed to share my life with. it has given to me a chance to not only share in wonderfully intelligent conversation, it has also given to me someone dear to my heart and someone that privately I can share my lifes thoughts with without fear of judgement and have your life shared with me. You have inspired many of my writings here as well as in my own blogsite. yes, there are very special people here and sometimes we are super-blessed to find someone that becomes life-long and truly mixes wonderfully with our own lives. That would be you... I hope everyone finds someone just like you here. They will then understand my words. HUGSSSSSSS to you. great discussion. Mwah dear sweet lady. thanks for sharing with me. Always, Darrel
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
I am lost for words of what to comment here now. This bragging makes me uneasy and couldn't believe what I see in your words. I am indeed honored to get all the good praises from you and as a fan of your blog, I have learned to appreciate the fine art of writings which directly improve my writings here. Thank you for being an influential person which motivates me to write better and think creatively. Your writings draw the gap of friendship closer as our interests meet in mylot sanctuary. Mylot is really a wonderful place for the unknown to meet the unknown and has an effective weapon to foster great friendships.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
Well I have quite a few friends on the net, but I never really chat with any of them. And I also have friends which I meet in person, this weekend a very good friend of mine came to visit and spent the whole weekend whith me, we had a lovely time talking and mostly remembering how it was like when we had our young kids playing and arguing over some minor thing, and how we manage to stay friends over 20 years, this is what I call real friendship!I do not have a lot of friends but the ones I have are there to stay they enrich my life in every way and I Am thankful for them.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
You are here in this social site and the opportunities are wide for you to make many friends worldwide.
@shibham (17019)
• India
26 Apr 09
hai zandi, you are right, mylot provides us the chances to create friendship. yah, i have find real friend in mylot just like you. i want to share all the problems of us with each other. be a friend forever for sharing all problems and feelings not only for chating.take care.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
Okay, let us share problems and it is a good way of relieving stress. Problems shared are problems halved.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
26 Apr 09
Good exchange of ideas , mutual discussions over problems, well wishing ----if all these go well into the making of cyber friendship, it would really be a welcome change in the modern way of life.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
Hi Suku, That is the beauty of the internet. We learned with the speed of time through internet.
@cassyisme (107)
• Canada
26 Apr 09
helllo. I think that having friends online are good to an extent. yes, its nice not to have to fix yourself up or anything. you never have to face them if something embarassing happens. there are alot less fights for sure. preserving sanity, yes. but there are also alot of downsides. hackers, liars, creeeepers. I have had quite a few bad experience with mainly liars. sometimes creepers. never hackers though, Ive been really careful about that. but just remember when youre making friends, don't get too close to them just incase there are lies tied in. because really, you never know. even if it seems like theyre so amazing or theyre just great REAL people, sometimes they arent at all. some people are opposites .. its pretty much crazy what can happpen on the internet. so make sure you don't do anything you may regret :) peace !
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
Thanks for your advice. We need common sense to make our final judgment.
@sasm2008 (37)
• Pakistan
25 Apr 09
I have yet to find a one....
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
Good luck to you
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
I agree with you. people here in mylot really tries their best to share what they have in terms of experiences and stories. That's the step in making friends.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
This is what mylot is all about. Connecting people from all corners of the world.
@cfmedrano (240)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
I agree with you. This is also one way of releasing life's stress. There are things happening in this world that we cannot explain ourselves as humans and expressing is one way of releasing the tensions and nerve wrecking feelings that we have deep inside. Mylot just addresses that idea of keeping people in this world sane by connecting us people with different cultures, ideas, traditions and opinions.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
You are right. Mylot has become the savior to many people who needs to be heard and to be in wider circle of friendships.