What do you do when you don't like the person anymore?

@laydee (12811)
Philippines
April 24, 2009 8:43am CST
I'm opening this topic for both men and women. Let's just say you are in a relationship with someone, and over the years you feel that you don't like the person anymore. What do you do? Do you just leave or show the person that you want out? or do you talk to the person about it? I don't want the question to be about me, but one sample would be my relationship which has gotten rocky. He just stopped talking to me, refused to answer calls etc. and when asked if he doesn't love me anymore, he says he still does but he's fed up about all the nagging. Is it safe to say he's not coming back? or does he just need time?
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12 responses
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
if i hate that person i dont like seeing his/her face, that irritates me a lot.i dont talk to that person,ill just snob him/her just passing by its like i did not see him/her at all!ill avoid this person it just makes my day horroble!lol..
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
Wow, you're a tough cookie.
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
heheheh!it just depends if this person really insulted me..or done something worst to me...im good you know...lol!take care friend.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
25 Apr 09
I will do what my heart would be asking me to do. I mean it is difficult forgetting that person but if my heart says that the person would come back to me, I will be hopeful and wait otherwise, will forget her. Although it is tough but you don't have choices, do you?
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
Yeah, I don't have any choice but to just let things be and wait.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
26 Apr 09
I think it has been 2 months or so, isn't it?
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@sharksfin (1095)
• Philippines
28 May 09
What I would do is just tell him I don't like him anymore. It's easier said, I know. But, I rather hurt him with the truth that with a lie. And, then, hurt myself in the process. Question is, I don't "like" his trait that's why I think I don't like him or I have fallen out of live because I don't like his trait anymore? Those are two different situations. I mean, I may not like a trait of my partner but that does not change my love for him if the love is even true. We don't fall out of love because we find that the other person has some traits we don't like. We choose to not love them anymore. I am not sure about your situation, girl. Can you tell yourself that he truly loved you, at all? I mean, how come he can't put up with whatever he doesn't like about you or at least talk you through changing it? It appears to be so petty that he'd let go of you because of something he doesn't like about you. Am not sure, but for me, love conquers all.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Well, he does try to tell me, but I have the bad attitude of not really listening and not wanting to listen. hehehe.. Well, I guess we all have faults.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
17 May 09
if situations were really that shaky for you guys to continue your relationship then i don't think it's fair to just let the flow keep going... if your problems can no longer be resolved through conversations, then certain actions should be made... if you love him you won't really give up that easily, but if you feel like he's no longer helping your relationship then let go
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
18 May 09
That's true, and indeed loving isn't something you just throw away the window and I still love him deeply. Anyhow, we'll be meeting up the end of this week and I hope we could settle our differences and from there I'd see if the relationship is still going to work. Thanks for your response.
• Canada
24 Apr 09
I don't think anyone can safely speculate about something like this. After all, he is the only one who knows the answer and it really depends on the whole relationship dynamic. Sometimes we can tell people that we are fed up with them and their attitudes but if we feel strongly about them, we remain in the relationship and work towards resolving our differences, our conflicts. He might need time to ask himself how he feels at the moment and whether or not he can work this out with you. Perhaps the best thing to do would be to take a step back from him and give both of you some time to look at the whole relationship from a more objective way instead of acting on emotions. You can always wait a few days and ask to have a conversation with him. I hope everything works out for you :)
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
I guess so, but that's just the big problem there, I'm not really the type who is patient enough, I want things to be resolved on the spot. But I guess that tactic doesn't work this time. Whew.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
28 May 09
in every realtionship, its really nice to talkthings over. in talking you could either see the wrong in your relationships or you could talk over some differences. sometimes you could talk it all out by telling the truth on how you both will feel and really feel. i know its so easy to give advices than to really make them happen. but there is n harm in trying right?! just try talking and maybe you could see the idea of it all. but if nothing would really happen and still ended you up both apart then just accept the consequences. thanks friend.
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@mimuche (163)
• Canada
18 May 09
I think the most important thing is to think over and over before giving the relationship the kick. No two people are the same so there will always be some sort of conflict but I really do believe that being honest is better. Sometimes a small talk can resolve everything. I think it is also important that even if you decide to end it, to it gracefully. These are things that we probably will not have a second chance with so a little more time and rational thinking won't cost anyone anything.
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• China
17 May 09
I don't think it's a mature way for a person to respond to a situation by 'just stopped talking''refused answering calls', walking away, etc. It's not fair to let your partner wondering what's happening. It wears your partner out, it's pain and suffering. I'd been in a position like this and eventually I have to demand for a meet up to talk things over. I prepared my heart, prepared list of open questions, not close question that only leads to answer like 'yes' or 'no'. It's not offensive questions, but questions that help to explore the heart's issue until I understand. Seek to understand and then to be understood. Everyone deserved an explanation.
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@Dasari100 (3803)
• Anantapur, India
26 Apr 09
If i don't like any person so then i don't do either heat and love just i leave that person because we can find many of them in the society so some of them like us and some of them don't like us, we need to select good one.
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@mira91 (986)
• Singapore
26 Apr 09
Then you should have asked him one more question.."Are we still in this together?" If he says yes, then that would mean he still loves you and he still wants to be with you. So what's left would be to give him time to sort out his "issues". Men have some emotional periods like us too, well that's what i'd like to believe. Sometimes they say things or so things that we just don't understand when their words mean another thing. So here i was thinking women were the only ones doing that...haha..But if i were in a relationship where i have fallen out of love with my partner, i think it's a cruel thing to stay on. Even though it's going to hurt to leave him who still loves me, i don't believe in staying when the pieces don't fit anymore. =] That's just what i think..
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@net_ankit (643)
• India
24 Apr 09
If the question was that I know one person & I don't like that person then what will you do? Then my answer was that I won't give any attention towards him, & ignore him. but your question is I am in realtionship with someone & over the years I know that person but now I don't like the person? then my answer is IT is complicated when you know someone from many years, It is not easy to ignore them, & live without them. So I behave like them When He say hi, I will say hi.
@balasri (26549)
• India
12 May 09
I would not allow this relationship t go on for years to find out that I don't like the person in the first place.I will decide within a few days whether to stick or quit.The quitting I will do in decent way without hurting the feelings of the person concerned.I will always reason it out with the person.