Why my boyfriend don't agree me to swimming?

@yoyozhou (356)
China
April 24, 2009 6:16pm CST
I always want to learn swimming.But my BF think I will wear a little and many people will see my body when I go to swimming. So I haven't gone to swimming until now.We often argue the case.I can't understand him at all.I think it is a little absurd of that thought.I don't know how to convince him.What do you think of it?
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@maezee (39821)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I think your boyfriends' a little too jealous. I don't think you should let him decide what you can and cannot do, it's up to you. If you want to go swimming, then by all means, go swimming! It's not like you're cheating on him or something, and it's not your fault that other people look at you (and maybe check you out) while you're in your swim suit. I think this is an example of your boyfriend acting TOO controlling.
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@nv_jenn (207)
• Canada
24 Apr 09
I completely agree. It's not his choice whether or not you choose to swim and what kind of bathing suit you wear. The only thing he should be thinking is how great you look in it and that you are his girlfriend. He shouldn't have anything to worry about. If he is this controlling now about a swimming suit then what will he be like in the future if you get married. Controlling only starts off with little things and it doesn't go away. You either need to talk to him about it or leave him. He has to accept the choice that you make.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
25 Apr 09
I think so.Thank you very much.You know, in China there are many boys who don't allow their girlfriend doing such things as swimming ,going to pub or wearing short skirts.I feel that is terrble. I need freedom and do what I want.Life is wonderful.
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Hmm.. I guess wearing something less for swimming is required on some public pools. You just have to tell him that there's no need to be insecure because it's all for your convenience when swimming and it's not to flirt. You can't be swimming with too much clothes on because it will make it harder for you to swim and you won't enjoy. By the way, you're cute! hehe..
@srganesh (6345)
• India
25 Apr 09
Your boyfriend is making a mountain out of a mole.You are not going to wear a swim suit in the public.Only you will be wearing it in the swimming pool and all those there will wear it too.So,you will not look odd or be a victim of pondering eyes.Try to explain this.He might understand.Cheers!
• United States
24 Apr 09
Hi yoyozhou, I agree with maezee, not only does he sound controlling, but also insecure. Wear a swimsuit that is modest and not too revealing, maybe this will help.
@Galena (9120)
24 Apr 09
it's not up to him. it's up to you if you feel happy being in public in a swimming costume, not whether he feels happy people seeing his girlfriend in a swimming costume. if he thinks this choice should be his and not yours, then he sees you as a posession of his, and you're best out of there. if you want to swim, then swim. people will see you in your swimming costume, and if he wants to stay with you he needs to learn that it doesn't matter if other people see you in your swimming costume. no one who loves you would try to stop you doing something so innocent as going swimming if that's what you want to do.