Lied to...I really hate it
April 24, 2009 9:48pm CST
Have you have felt like you have been lied to that it starts to feel like being betrayed or not even trustworthy enough, that your love one can not even tell you certain things? Call it my woman's intution or 6th sense, but when I get a gut feeling like something is wrong in my relationship with my boyfriend, 9 out of 10 times, I am right. I am the first person to tell you that I am a very jealous woman. But I have my reasons, and I will not go into detail on them. But I have just cried my eyes out due to the fact that I know that the love of my life has lied to me. I will not confront him on it, but within time, I will bring it up. I am afraid that if I bring it up, it'll just start a fight and cause him to drive away. It hurts me, knowing that I can not be told the truth. I hate lying. I hardly lie cause I am very bad at it. But why could he not tell me what I found out? Was he trying to protect me? I know that I would have still have gotten hurt by the truth, but it's worse that I had to hear it from someone else. So, now, I will just go about it like if I never knew about it. Which is not healthy at all. I keep it all inside of me, dwelling on it in my heart and letting it take a piece of my happiness. The sad part is that, I have to live with it because I chose to.
• United States
25 Apr 09
I am sorry to hear that you have been lied to by someone you love. That always hurts the most. But I am afraid that this situation may not have anything to do with truth. I think it is what he lied to you about. If I had to guess, I would say that you are suspecting that your loved one is cheating and this is a loyalty issue. I do sympathize with your situation, but girl, you go gotta love you!! If he's not being right don't just turn your cheek, or-in a sense-you are enabling his actions. If he knows he can have his cake and eat it too.... He will!
• United States
25 Apr 09
No, it's not necessarily that he's cheating on me. It's that he lied about talking to a "friend" that he swears that he's never had any kind of relationship with, just friendship. I believe that nothing ever happened. I just thought that he did not talk to her anymore. Well, not necessarily talk but text message. But he hasnt communicated with her in over 2 weeks. Which is good. Like I said, I am the first to admit that I am a very jealous person. But, I know where he is at 99% of time. So, hopefully, I think now he understands that it hurts my feelings. I know he won't talk to her again. And if he does, he'll tell me.