How to keep a freindship?

China
April 25, 2009 1:36am CST
It quite difficult to keep a freindship with year goes by, different experience, jobs, families... less and less topic, good friends become stranger!
5 responses
@kunizzul (1066)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
hye..it doesn't mean we will lost our friendship if we do not meet them for a few years..
• China
27 Apr 09
Yes, we are still freinds although long time no communicate, but there will be less and less topics we can talk about together, right? so what is the different between freind an stranger? I think freinds should know each other clearly, have same hobbies, like same topics, and have similar experience... Only keep in touch can know your friends well, so need contact freinds often to maitain the friendship!
@nujoomva (111)
• India
25 Apr 09
its really a big job to keep a friendship forever.i need a lot of quality s like trust ,love,helping etc.then only you can keep your friendship forever
• China
25 Apr 09
really a big job to keep the relationship, a difficult topic need to learn lifetime, right? Pay more attention to the freindship maintanece now, trust, love and help, i am not stingy to envince these at all, btw,thanks for the suggestions!
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
i don't follow a manual or guide in maintaining my relationship with my friends but i think it helps a lot when you show them that you care for them and that you are always there for them because they will learn to value you as a friend. make them happy when they're sad. always try to cheer them up when they're down. i guess that's how it usually goes. i think it's important to be yourself to and neer hide the real you from them.
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
to maintain the relationship is to keep the trust that your friends gives you..being faithful and honest one another are just what friendship means..a friend who always set a good example a friend who avoid to hurt his her friends in fine manner, who gets angry in wrong doing who don't keep record of wrong is a way that friendship could be keepin'
@babshish (1387)
• India
25 Apr 09
Hey welcome to myLot. No I don't agree with you on these. Yes you are right that because of other responsiblities you may not be in frequent touch with your friends compared to your college life. But all depends on you. To keep up the friendship, you don't need to talk with your friends regularly, but you need to be in touch with them atleast once in couple of months. I think if someone is your best friend, you will anyhow take out the time to just call or mail them and check with them what is happening on their side. The same way you will surely share your things with them whom you think are your best friends. I personally have friends since my childhood, although not in touch with them on regular basis, but still once in a blue moon either they contact me or I do and we all are still frineds. My suggestion would be try to take out some time from your busy schedule and drop a line or two or call your friends and you will be more happy to talk with some of them after a long time.
• China
25 Apr 09
yes, maybe you are right. I should pay more time to contact with friends for relationship keeping; need to do it once in couple of months, quite right, if long time no talking, it comes to less and less topics == Keep in touch often, the friendship will be maintained for a lifetime! Appreciate the suggestion, thanks all.