He wants me back

Malaysia
April 25, 2009 3:05am CST
Hi everybody I have a small problem here. I got in touch back with my ex a few months ago and was speaking to him like a friend. However, we would usually share the memories that we had when we were together. I met him online and was in relationship with him for 3 years. He was a christian guy and I am an indian girl. When I told my family members regarding this, they opposed my love but then I convinced them to accept it. However our relationship came to an end when he told me he cants go on with me because we were from different religion. The actual reason is, we were both studying and depended on our family financially. Thats was why he left me because he felt I felt I was a burden. I got to knopw the reason few months back when I got in touch with him. Now he says he loves me still because I am his first love. No doubt I still love him too because he is my first love too. However I just cant accept him because my family have lost confidence in him after what he have done. The truth is I love him alot. What am I suppose to do? Should I accept hima nd go against my family? Should I say no to him and go against my feelings?
1 response
@raynejasper (2324)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
..Well, the situation is tough for you.. But first, you have to talk to your family and explain to them that you understand your boyfriend why he did that thing in the past.. then ask them to forgive him and give him a second chance.. after all, we all deserve second chances.. sometimes, we commit mistakes because of our good intentions.. you cannot blame your exboyfriend for doing that because you have many things to consider.. If you think and you feel that both of you can work out your relationship well if you are going to build it again, then go for it.. If you really love him that much, then think carefully before you make your final decision.. It's not easy to fall in love and be hurt again for the same reason.. your past experience will serve as a lesson for you now.. Your family will not decide for you.. That is your life.. If you think you could be happy with him, then go for it.. But it will be nice that you talk with your family first as I've said earlier.. After all, family is family..
• Malaysia
25 Apr 09
Thank you very much for the advice. You are right. sometimes I feel that I should not consider him even if I madly love him because how sure can I be that he would not do the same thing again. If I am married to him and he faces financial crisis will he leave me and go again then come back after a while. I am really confused. I want a wise decison. I am afraid that not accepting him will mean missing a person who truely love me as true love is difficult to find nowadays. Thanusha
• Malaysia
25 Apr 09
Thank you very much for the advice. You are right. sometimes I feel that I should not consider him even if I madly love him because how sure can I be that he would not do the same thing again. If I am married to him and he faces financial crisis will he leave me and go again then come back after a while. I am really confused. I want a wise decison. I am afraid that not accepting him will mean missing a person who truely love me as true love is difficult to find nowadays. Thanusha