my son

United States
April 25, 2009 4:27pm CST
I am a mother of 5 children from the ages of 14-4. I have 2 girls ages 7 and 4 and three boys ages 14, 11, and 5. My 5 yr old boy can honestly be a brat. I think his father spoils him way to much he always goes to the store and comes home with some kind of toy for our son when he is with him. My ex and I have three children together the two girls and the youngest boy. Now our kids go between both my house and his house. How they are allowed to act at my house and how they are allowed to act at his house are completly different. I don't spoil my kids unless I can spoil all of them. Which I can not afford to do all the time, but it does happen sometimes. So when my son comes to my house he trys to act up and being a smart mouth and I corret him and then he starts syaing he is going to tell his dad on me lol like that is my worry. I have talked to his dad about this before I just can't get through to him about the way our son acts sometimes and that it is not okay. What do you think I should tell him or what other way should I approach this issue with him since what I have tried does not work.
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
25 Apr 09
I think it is amazing that you have 5 kids and only one is like this, I think it is probably just an agr thing and a personality thing that he will grow out of, all kids go through brat stages but i do realize sometimes it is things that encourage their behaviour, but he will out grow it i think and years down the track you will be laughing about it and picking on him about it...I think you are amazing looking after 5 kids..you must be a saint.....
• United States
26 Apr 09
well thank you very much you r so sweet. It is so stressfull sometimes with 5 kids. But It is not just him my 4 yr old daught can be like that to. I dont know just do not want my kids to be the ones you see in the store....lookin at somtimes saying wtf is that kid doing in here lol it's a brat. And thanks to the amazin part to that was a nice thing to say. And Saint???? Naw I don tink so just a mom who loves and wants the best for my kids
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
I think you just have to remember life is full of different stages in all our lives, someone once said to me especially in boys ...brat has to come out sometime in their lives, they said usually the brat kids usuallend up being the nice sentive young men and sometime the real good kids grow up to be a little of the opposite...all you can do is try your best to instill goo within him and hopefully his sense of right will eventually come through...good luck to you and yes you are a saint....
• United States
28 Apr 09
Thank you so very much (Blushes)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I had the same problem with my oldest son when he was about that age. I started out trying to discuss it with his father and it never did any good. When my son used to say he was going to tell his dad on me, I would respond in a very calm tone, "do you see your dad here right now?" and when he would say no, I would tell him "that's right, he doesn't live here and I make the rules, what you do and how you act at dad's house is up to dad. If you want to spend all your time at home in time out keep it up". He probably spent a good three days after each visit in and out of time out in his room but it didn't take too long before he started realizing that the rules were different each place and his acting that way was hurting him more than it was hurting me.
• United States
28 Apr 09
that is tru ususaly when he tells me he is going to tell his dad I tell him thats ok tell him casue when daddy ask why you got into trouble, you are going to have to tell him what you did to get into trouble and he says mommy i don't want to tell my dad on you no more lol it all works out.