Do you think you're too old to find a new love?

@laydee (12811)
Philippines
April 27, 2009 10:16am CST
I'm feeling I'm too old to get to know someone. Too old to be a single who has no prospects. I don't know. Perhaps it's because I'm recently through a terrible break-up that's why my optimism isn't that great. But what do you think? Do you think you're too old to find a new love? I don't know about others, but I just feel that it's tiring to get to know people once again. I thought I was already off that game, but here I am and I know I need to sooner or later. Else, I'd just be some old fart who has lots of cats. hehe.. What do you think?
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15 responses
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
Hi laydee You are not too old to find the special someone for you. I was like you before, I had so many failed relationships and I almost got tired of falling in love again. You know that in our culture, if you are 30, they would be telling you that you are going to lose in the calendar. I am turning 31 years old this year, I was 30 when I met the love of my life. I was neer expecting anything from the guy, but I was surprised that he was almost getting crazy and can't help when he left the Philippines. He became my bf since I also like him, we are still in the relationship and we are planning for our future now. Things come in the right time when its about time.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
That's a really nice thought. I guess it's true that I'm just stuck at this feeling right now because of the failed relationship. But I do hope that when I do fall in love again, it would be the right time when it's about time. Thanks!
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
28 May 09
well, some people may thinkit that way. but in love there must be no boundaries and no lines to pass through. it must always be open to embrace such wonderful feeling of love and its effect of happiness in you. but yes, sometimes because of the things we have been thru. all the aches and pains and the dilemma of it all sometimes makes us so vulnerable that we always end up not wanting to love once again. and finding that special person whom to love would be such a difficult phase in once life. but still if love hits, i know then and there that it is the love! thanks friend.
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• Ireland
30 Apr 09
You are never too old to love, so why should you ever be too old to find love? We are all in the same boat, its not like people ever stop hoping and wishing to find a companion, at any age! I know plenty of people who lost their partners in the last few years and have moved on with new partners. In some cases these people had been friends for a long time but the friendship suddenly took on a new dimension . Someone else found a friend through the internet . They met, they liked each other, and now they live together. One thing has to be said though: In neither of these cases the people involved set actively out to find love. In fact, in most cases it came as a complete surprise. So perhaps the secret is in the ' not looking too hard, and not viewing every person as a potential ' hit'. be yourself, be happy by yourself and with friends, and you never know what surprises are in store for you!
@wg62914 (53)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I feel the same way. All my life i have been hurt by men. I love a man dearly but he is i jail, and at time think i should let him go. Im 37 and a single mom , i want to fond love but i also feel as if i to old.I mean who really wants a women with 3 boys now a days?
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
28 Apr 09
Hi Laydee, You know what. It's also a tiring thing that you get to know a new person then start all over again! That is just a exhaustion. But regards to your question, do i think i am too old to find a new love? My answer will be no. Because we never know who will come to life the next monent. Love happen just like that. So, there is a hope where is a will! Love exsit in every age till die. So, don't give up and cheer up!
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@med889 (5954)
28 Apr 09
Well laydee, age does not really matter in love but my boyfriend always tease me for being 12 days older than me.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I dont think anyone is ever too old to find a new love. I hate the idea of going out there again and trying to get to know someone over again to where I built a wall to see who cared enough to climb it. But I dont think anyone is ever too all, we all deserve to be loved.
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• Indonesia
28 Apr 09
Hmmm, interesting subject. If you found yourself think that you too old to find a new love, might be it just a "now feeling" of you due to what you've got recently. Being trapped in those kind of situation is just normal. In my point of view, everyone would never too old to find a new love. Love is a gift, love is not only for teenagers where usually found a first love. Love is for everyone despite how old he or she is. Don't under estimate ourselves for love cause there is always seasons for loving.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
27 Apr 09
May be or may be not! There are two things in life for which age hardly matter and they are: 1. Education & 2. Love. As we can see people getting educated in their 70s too so do they find love at that age where we think that we should get our grand grand daughter/son in our house. See me, I am 27+ and I am not loosing hope that I will find a girl in my life. Life plays game with you, you never know when is the moment which can surprise you!
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@jellymonty (2354)
27 Apr 09
Your never too old for love! in fact I think the older you get the more love gets interesting and sweeter. Young love nowadays is tainted and cold.. So I say don't give up hope yet.. That love you've been waiting for is around the corner...
@mimiang (3769)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Well, age doe not matter in love and love makes living happy and comfy
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
For love's sake, you're just 29! You're pretty smart and i'm sure there are lots of guys out there who dig smart chicks. Why the low self-esteem? Pump it up! It just take a little innovation, if you know what i mean. Ok, in case you don't know, lol! I mean try to make some changes. You know like if you've been sporting that long hair of yours, try to cut it short. I think people will get to notice you more. The hair is just an example, there are lots of things you can change. Tangible or not. Well i am 29 too and i've had my share of break ups too. Terrible break ups. You're not out of the game yet, it's just the beginning. Like i said, i'm 29 and still single. I know i'm a guy but i'm the type who takes relationship way too seriously that when i see any flaw which i think would derail a future married life, then i beg off. Still a lot of things ahead of me (...or should i say ladies? lol!) and that goes to you too!
@betsyhu (207)
• China
28 Apr 09
Maybe,you feel tired for the moment.Once the sun rise tomorrow,you will feel good. I always have same feeling as you, but waiting for one or two days,the bad emotion will disappear. So wish you happy and to find a new love.
@rj1578 (27)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
Cheer up friend. You're never too old to find new love. I've been through a bad break-up myself and I thought I could never find love again but I did. Getting to know someone new is not as tiring as you think if both of you have similar interest. Give it a try, don't give up.
• China
28 Apr 09
First,I am very happy to see the discussion. so ,I know something about American"s thinking about love. I do not know your age ,in fact I am a freshman, and I am from china. In china , have a very famous sentence:????? It means that everything goes with fate. the last word,fate is not the meaning of ?. Beacause none can translate it. It say that we don't have something necessary.If it is yours ,it will be yours . If it is not yours , you can't change the fate. so , don't force something .the only thing we can do is wait. And, age is not the limit, if your lover and you have ?,nothing will check you .