What do you do if someone always "forgets" to return your things?

I suppose it would depend on what it was they forgot to return. I don't really have friends that borrow things from me. When it comes to important things that are not easy to replace I am not comfortable lending them. Small things don't matter as much.

I can relate to your dilemma. I was once like that. In college, I have this friend who borrow my favorite jacket and never return it. It was really annoying at first, It came to a point that our friendship was put into test.I begun to distrust her. Since then, I promise myself not lend someone that has sentimental value. So that just it case it is not return properly, It won't really cause me so much stress. As for your case, it is a decision that you have to make. Should you continue asking for that book which is very stressful or just let it go which is painful. Its really your decision.

Oh, that is totally annoying! I get so peeved with people who borrow and forget to return! Whenever I borrow something, I make sure to return it, because I know that for as long as the thing is with me, I always feel that I possess something that doesn't belong to me. It bugs me all the time. So as soon as I'm done with it, I return it immediately. Being this way, I do expect others to do the same with me. I feel that people who do not return borrowed things don't have respect for the belongings of others. They don't deserve to be trusted with anything! So the moment someone does such a thing to me, I definitely keep that in mind, and when they borrow again, well I might not lend them again... or if ever I do lend them, I would pester them about it until the thing is returned to me!

Hello zzyw. I think that the best way is to have him or her write a note when something is borrowed from you in case it is forgotten. I have some students who came to me to borrow some money. I have them write a note with their names on it and write down the date when they will return to me. It works. But if they forget, I will remind them of it.

What I do is that when I'm sure we'll be seeing each other - like if we planned to meet with other friends, I remind her that I want my stuff back when we meet. I remind her the day before - then again the night before and I tell her "put it in your bag so you won't forget, then text me when you have done so" (of course I do this politely so she won't get mad at me :P). Then the next morning, before she goes to work/school, I remind her again. In that way, she wouldn't have any excuse that she forgot or that I didn't remind her. It works every time :D Thanks for the response on my discussion!

You said right , But fortunately i didn't have this type friend.I can imagine it is a very uncomfortable tings,You know he/she is your friend. When they asked for you ,you didn't have reason say no.Even you know he/she won't return them back.Seveal days ago I've read a book,it's said never lent you friends money.it means lend money will hurt friends relationship.I think so

it is simple... i will keep on asking and asking until the person return my stuffs to me and never lend him/her my stuffs ever anymore... i don't like people who do something like that... it is considered as stealing to me and i won't tolerate it... if i have to speak in harsh words to get my stuffs back, then i will... even to the point that it will embarrassed the person... that's why i hardly lend my stuffs to anybody to prevent this kind of thing from happening... take care and have a nice day...

I usually freak-out when my things isn't returned or is forgotten to be returned. Especially when I need it and it isn't at reach. I can't sleep when I know some of my things are lost.

I understand how it feels, especially when we ourselves are so particular about returning others' items promptly. Of late, when someone wants to borrow a book from me, I usually buy another copy of the same book and gift it to them, instead of giving my copy and sweating over its return. Somehow that makes me feel good and it gives them joy too. End of matter :))

well, what i did is i will get that thing of mine whatever may happend bec. i always take care of my things specially to the important things and i don't want someone getting my things they should give back after they borrowing.

darn i hate those kind of people!!!! i've had many so called friends like that, borrows stuff from me and dont return it... it would take months efore i get it back, i got it back because i ask it from them, went to their place and personally ask for it and waited that they give it back right then and there. i dont like borrowing things, that's why i tend to dislike people who always borrow things. and then there are those who borrow my things and break it and will never pay for it... so darn annoying. i try not to break my things and those people that borrows dont use it with care, because its not theirs... makes me boil. the next time that same person borrows from you, then dont let them, and say... the last time you borrowed something from me, you failed to return it, so why would i let you borrow again?

sometimes you dont get your stuff back

go and visit your friend, just as your leaving don't ask if they have finished reading the book, ask for the book, be honest would they let you keep there book if they wanted it back, be straight with them, i am sure they would appreciate the honesty, you want to read that you chose to buy, do you enjoy giving your hard earned away?.

The only way is to lend only things that are not too valuable. You always take the risk that you will never get the thing back. After you have got few things back, you can trust the person and lend more valuable things. But I see it as a crime if the person borrows and never returns (or doesn't return in time). I see nothing bad in calling a police just for a book you haven't got back if you have planned a return date, of course.

When I don't get things back in what I assume is a timely fashion I will mention it to them, like ask if they're done with it or not. I usually say that I need it back for either myself or someone else to use and that seems to work pretty well. Of course if it becomes a habit with a certain person not returning my stuff then I won't lend to them anymore. I make up an excuse not to give it to them, like someone else has it or I'm using it or something. I don't want to hurt their feelings but I also don't want to loose my things.

Insist them to give it back,if you think the thing is more important to you.You shall even step into their house and take it back yourselves.Some people are like that,if they have borrowed something,then they consider it theirs and ignore to return it.It is because they take things for granted.So,don't ever lend anything to anybody.Cheers!

I would like pesture them about it. Tell them you won't loan them your stuff any longer.

If the stuff is not important thing for me,i will send it to my friend.If it is very important to me,i would choose to let my friend give it back.Either friends don't want to give it back or she has forgotten,i wiil remind her euphemistically.

if my friends forget to give my things, i forget about things and after did not give anythings in our life.

You stated that you have several "friends" that borrow your stuff and don't return that stuff. If these people are truly friends, then there should be no problem explaining to them how you feel about it. Tell them that you don't mind letting them borrow from you as a friend as long as they can be a good friend by returning your belongings. This might also build a stronger friendship. Trust is a key ingredient in friendships.