How do you handle people trying to selling things to you?

@qiao522 (449)
China
April 28, 2009 7:11am CST
Today, I paid a lot to get myself another set of art photos again. The false eyelashes, the thick powder, the heavy make-up... I didn't feel well when she got all those on my face and now feeling like I'm paying for getting myself painful. Opps... However, every time when people tried to sell things to me, they used the words that can exactly arouse my interest. I felt being fooled every time but the next time I just fell for them again. I don't know how to handle this. Am I not strong enough? Thanks for sharing your experience!
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@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
i was like that too before. but now, you know what i do, i just honestly tell them friends or not that i dont want to buy what they are selling. use your money wisely, these are hard times, you'll never know what the future holds, so spend it wisely. if you dont like it, then dont buy, if you think you dont need it, then dont buy. tell them honestly. and if they keep on insisting, just dont listen, just smile and smile and smile... but DONT BUY. uhm.... by the way... i have this really beautiful thing here that i wanted to sell for just uhm... i know you can afford this... hehehehehe... =P
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
You are cute. I do want to save my money for something else and I'm hunting for jobs which is not so easy for me. Spending parents' money makes me feel so awful and shamed of myself. The market is not moving but I am graduating from the university. Opps,,, hope next time I can just smile and be a little bit not so nice.
@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
thank you... yes, try... just smile at them. and dont be afraid to say NO. let me give you an example... here in our places especially at the wetmarkets (where we by sea foods), i noticed the techniques of some sellers, once you stand in front of their stall and ask for a price of such and such, they will put it right away in a plastic bag and give it to you... and you know what i do, i just smile and walk away and tell them NO i am just asking. i know some people who always get to be carried away by such act... but not me. you know these people, they really want their goods to be sold, so they can earn from it. now we dont want to be rude to them right, but heeeeeyyy.... we dont want what they are selling much more need it. so i say to you, the next time something like that happens to you, just smile and say NO. you are not being rude to them, keep that in mind.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
yes, thanks for your advice. It's helpful.
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
1 May 09
The similar thing happened to me once.lol I had some art photos shot.When its the time I selected my photos I was adviced to pay more for some extra photos and also a better frame.I was taken in then cuz I was alone in the shop and I could understand later why the girl was not happy when I called my friend to come and help me decide.She wanted me to listen to her instantly.To tell you the truth,Im not satisfied with the art photos.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
1 May 09
I've been through totally like what you've been. Exactly it was what you are talking about, she made me listen to her and not to call my friends. I haven't seen the photos but I am not really excited about them.
• United States
29 Apr 09
I hate it when people try to sell me stuff especially when I'm shopping in the mall. I find it bothersome. I don't make eye contact at all and sometimes I try to look like an angry and rude person and it works pretty well. I get approached less times when I do this. When they start talking to me I just ignore them and walk by. I've learned to not feel bad about it because it's a waste of time and money. You can be strong enough, I know you might feel guilty doing this at first but you gotta be tough!
@qiao522 (449)
• China
30 Apr 09
I find it bothersome too. But I think I just haven't learnt enough to feel good about being rude. As you say, it's a waste of time and money, I think I can move forward fast.
• Ireland
29 Apr 09
Oh, how I identify with you! I am terrible at saying ' no', this includes double glazing salesmen ( one who sat in my kitchen for 2 hrs and I was ready to sign a paper when thankfully my husband walked in and out a stop to it), and young Eastern European people who walk for miles , knocking on doors trying to sell some truly awful pictures. Or even Jehova's witnesses, trying to sell their beliefs to me ! I think it was one of my encounters with them which finally made me realize that I had to learn to say ' No'. Not ' maybe' ' possibly','Hmm', ' well', not really','but'...the list of noncommittal words is endless, but its not good enough!' A brief, assertive ' No thank you I am not interested' is the best reply to pushy sales people. At my most embarrassing moment I hid under a table while 3 Jehova's witnesses walked around the house trying to detect a sign of unbeliever life! After that incident I was fed up, with myself and all the pushy salesmen in the world. Now I am always trying to be very polite, but clear, so there is no doubt that the message is ' NO, thank you. I am not interested.' And then politely and quietly shut the door before you see tears welling up in the double glazing salesmen who is on commission and will not be able to feed his family that night because of you!
@qiao522 (449)
• China
30 Apr 09
Exactly. Everytime I think about his trouble and his expression, I feel terrible. But I'm not a person who has a fancy job and not worried about anything. I'm in between. can't reject and can't afford.
@reckon21 (3484)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
It will be hard when a person sell something to you. Refusing the seller is even more difficult if they are your friends. But honestly,why buy things that you don't like? Tell them in a polite way that you don't like the product they sell to you.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
30 Apr 09
I haven't got this kind of business from my friends, but I think if that day comes, I must be honest with them.
@ppersaud (65)
• United States
28 Apr 09
just be willing to walk away, even if the deal is good. You can them know you want to think for a few days which is always the right thing to do before any purchase.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
22 Jun 09
Yeah, you're right. Keep a clear mind.
@jellymonty (2354)
28 Apr 09
I am very ruthless to people who want to sell me stuff. I usually say "before you even start talking I'm not interested. If I want to buy something I go the stores to do so.. right now I dont want to buy anything so save yourself the sales pitch and go to someone else, period." then I walk off. I really hate sales people as i think its so annoying that they just want to take all your money away. I used to be a sales person so I know how they feel as they have to sell stuff if they are to get paid.. its the worst job in the world and i will never do it again.. So my advice.. dont be nice to sales people as they use your vulnerablity to sell their junk to you.. be ruthless and dont even listen to them when they start to talk!! just run far away from them...
@qiao522 (449)
• China
30 Apr 09
I feel awful when I act rude to people. It seems that I have to get use to it to protect myself now.
@Archie0 (4667)
28 Apr 09
It is really very tough job to sell things and even to handle people who sell things.. I cannot bear to talk harshly to people who come to sell things, its just not the part to be yourself. I think we all have to go through some roads where even we will have to do something difficult like this.It is rather hard, but i first listen to them and quitely say right now i am not looking for it but i would surely like to in future so you give me your contact or address. and end up calmly..
@qiao522 (449)
• China
30 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing. I think I could be tougher next time.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I'm a sales person at heart! I'll never do it for a living again because then its no fun. lol. I telemarketed for 2 or 3 years and rocked at it. Of COURSE the sales person is going to use the right words to arouse your interest... its their job. You need to find willpower is all it is. Just remember - a NON pushy salesman, is not a good one. They make a living on making you say YES! Most of the time I just say no and walk away. Don't even give them a second look. Always keep in mind - regardless of the words they use - its YOUR MONEY being spent. If you don't think its a good idea, thank them and tell them no. If they continue to bother you, just walk away. There's really not much more to do then that. Whether is a car salesmen or someone in the middle of the mall or a hot dog vender. They all get rejected by people, you're NOT going to hurt their feelings if thats what you're worried about. Its in the job description.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
30 Apr 09
That's really helpful! It's my money. No second look! Thank you.
@rtslvtwy (1088)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
It's basically part of psychology and how they want you to feel special with the products the sell and associate you with the products and then eventually you buy-in to it. In fact I am a sales-person as well and usually what I will do is the same thing - create the interest or push the right button of the person you are selling to. It's not to say that you are not strong or anything like that. Probably you just need to discipline yourself by telling yourself that if I go next to this counter here, I must make sure that I will not buy the things there even though they say how good it is as I already have them and it is not necessary to buy them. This way will probably be able to remind you that not to fall for any sales pitch.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
22 Jun 09
First thank you so much for being so kind to tell me the stuff and share your experience. I'm sorry that I didnot respound in time, I've been tied up with my work and college stuff.
@wanfen (10)
• China
28 Apr 09
I also ecounter those embarrassing moments. Everytime when someone was trying to sell me something I felt sorry to say no. But after many times I decided to persuade myself and make a clear mind if I really dislike the things which the salsman recommanded. So you have to make a list before shopping and you can also write down something that can remind you the past experience of being fooled.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
22 Jun 09
I really found the way to go shopping is great. Less and less sorry cases happen to me. I kind of feel successful. Thanks indeed.
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
Be firm on your response when you say "no" to the person. These sales persons will take no for an answer most specially if you attempt to entertain them.I was fooled to during my college days because i badly needed items that only can be bought in a Mall which is a few miles away. When I start buying these stuff from sales men/women, I would realized that these are completely expensive than the one being bought on the Mall. be careful, the least thing you can say is that your Busy and no time..
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
I feel myself rude to those people when I say no and ignore them, but when I buy the things, I feel being fooled and they are no longer pitiful, I am.
@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
well as far as i know, nobody tried to sell anything to me before. if you don't want what they are selling to you maybe you should try to be stronger to ignore them. but if you like what they sell then why not? by the way, just my opinion!
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
things they are trying to sell to me are just better than what I am about to buy, but what I am about to buy is just good enough for me. So sometimes I don't think it's wise enough to buy those things.
@stanlee81 (381)
• China
28 Apr 09
Well,you have realise what the prolem is,you are going to be out of this circle.Remember that do not accept too much what you do not need currently.In this imformation age you could get what you want if the products existing on the earth,and the cash kept in your pocket well.:"),Good luck next time!
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
Right. I remember that. You guys are so kind and nice to me. Thanks so much.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
Well, these people who are selling things are just doing their jobs, to earn for a living. So it would be good to treat them with respect. However, if you are not really in need of the products that they sell, you really don't have to listen to them. No one is obliged to pay attention. I often encounter people who sell products that aren't of necessity to me. Sometimes, I would stop and listen to what they are telling me, and evaluate the need for what they are selling. If it is not a necessity, then I politely tell them I really don't need it right now. If they are persistent, I would tell them to just give me their number and I would call them if I need their product in the future.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
Wow,,,the number thing is like one stone two birds. you may need their products in the future and made them not bother you any more. Cool!
@landi927 (657)
• China
28 Apr 09
All girls are not strong enough when they are in the same situation!I used to pay a lot to these stuffs cause I cannot resist the attractive words of the seller.That's why my desks are always full of bottles and boxes now.Now I decide to get rid of sellers' tricks.When I go shopping,I make a shopping list before.I won't buy things out of my list.And I only bring enough money for my shopping list.No credit cards!That's my way to get rid of the sellers.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
That is a very brilliant idea. Thanks so much.
• United States
28 Apr 09
You need to be a strong enough person to just say no thank you. The other day people in the middle of the mall are trying to sell hand lotion or something to do with nails and you just have to ignore people like that because they probably are paid on commission and trying to get everyone's attention and the stuff probably doesn't work anyways and i just see those type of people annoying. Just walk by then and ignore them and if you do talk to them just say no thank you.
@qiao522 (449)
• China
28 Apr 09
Yeah, I see what you mean. Just never get myself involved with those kinds of people.
@redsponge (557)
• Malaysia
7 May 09
I would suggest you have your financial plan. If you can spend without much planning, I bet you are rich and that is why you can easily fork out some money for unnecessary items. However, if you think deeper, those you spent is your hard earn money, why not spend them in better way, right? In order to do so, try to give yourself a certain amount to spend in a month, an amount for saving, an amount for utility bills, an amount for loans and etc. With a proper plan on your expenses, you will be able to spend accordingly, and the next time when you encounter with sales person, you will know that how to turn him down as you do not have money to spend on those things. After a certain period, you would find that you have a big sum of money in you saving account which might allow you to go on holiday or so on. That's the way to reward yourself.
@lnkzi62 (60)
• Indonesia
1 May 09
I used to have the same problem when dealing with sales. Moreover, when the salesman was one of my friends or someone I knew. I couldn't resist his/her offer that quite often I bought things that I didn't really need, just because I couldn't say no to his/her offer. Then, usually I felt sorry to waste my money for useless things. However, now I have learned to be more wise. I just trying to say no thank you very much as nicely as posible when someone offered me any thing I on't need. And to my surprise, the salesman didn't feel irritate or annoy at my refusal. He/she will still be my friend and I can use my money more wisely by not buying useless things.
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
1 May 09
I don't think you are not strong enough. It is the salespeople who are too proficient and they know how to identify your weak point and attack on it. Salespeople, especially in the beauty world are trained to target on the weakness of their prospects. For me, as long as my pocket is empty, they cannot do much to me no matter how much interest I express. LOL.