how do you deal with aggresive people?
By 4u2enjoy
@4u2enjoy (300)
Malaysia
April 29, 2009 2:49am CST
how do you deal with aggresive people?
give me your view ;)
for me, i would stand up to them but not in a way of fighting. Overly aggresive people expect others to either run away from them or react with rage. My goal is to simply assertively express my views, not to try win a battle of right and wrong.
first i'll wait for the person to run of steam. Then call the person by name and assert my opinions with confidence ;)
3 responses
@LaSenyoraSilis (313)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Oh, that is easy, I "kill" aggressive people with kindness. :-) I am the type of person who avoids confrontations at all costs. :-) I do not do this because I have fear, no I do it to show people that respect must always be present. :-) The way I feel about it is like this: if some people cannot be "adult enough" to treat me kindly that is fine. Why? Because I am showing that I can be the bigger person by allowing that person to make a fool of him/herself. :-) What great joy I feel when an agressive person becomes "lost" because of the kindness I have given to them in place of their rudeness! :-) LOL.
@4u2enjoy (300)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 09
wow thanks for the response.
throughout my life i've been doing the same thing but i've reached a certain age where my kindness won't work. but i'm still 20 years old and all of my friends are still talking about crap so sumtimes i prefer to stand up for my view.
@LaSenyoraSilis (313)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Wow, and hello to you again, 4u2enjoy. :-) Yes, I agree thst some people will try to "test" your patience, and that is to be expected, but the best thing you can do is try to not let it affect you so much. :-) Some people are rude because it is "in their nature." For those types of individuals, it is better to avoid them as much as you can. :-) As you may already know, "some people never change." :-) Take care and thanks for your reply. I appreciate it. :-)
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
29 Apr 09
This is a fact proved by pdychologists that in most cases the aggressive people are the timid ones. They show their tiger outwardly but are not so inwardly. To handle these people either be yourself aggressive too or reading the mind adopt a different method.
These people are in most cases love deprived ones. If you show love and affection they would easily get tamed.
Surely there are some exception and exceptions are not rules.
