Do you mind if he is not taller than you?

China
April 29, 2009 4:56am CST
Hi Mylottors, My friend need some suggestions. I have a girlfriend who is living with me, we are in the same dorm. She is single, so i want to introduce one of my mate friends to her. Everything is find with this guy, it just the height of the guy. He is not taller than her, they are quite even when they are standing together. My girlfriend is concern about his height. Now, mylottors, my question is, is it really matter if he is not taller than you?
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@jellymonty (2352)
29 Apr 09
Well if he's taller than me then at least I can feel like he's the man.. if he's shorter than me, I feel like a giant standing next to my little brother so no, I prefer my men taller than me...
@srganesh (6340)
• India
29 Apr 09
Then,should we feel like standing near a little sister?LOL!
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• China
29 Apr 09
Hi Jellymonty, Thanks for responding my discussion. I understand your feeling. I always like the man who is taller than me. i don't mind if he is shorter than me if i am indeed love him, though.
@chaolai (162)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
it doesnt matter how tall or how short you are interms of love or friendship. it is within the preception of the person how would she/he would accept the person as she/he is. aslong as they like each other that is already enough. limitation is beyond expectations. so better be yourself and not the one you are not. happy mylotting!
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@coldmoon (1088)
• France
29 Apr 09
You're so innoncent and I hope you can keep it forever. I've known many girls announcing the same words but later they can't stand the rumors saying that their boy looks like their younger brother.
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• China
29 Apr 09
Hi Chaolai. Thanks for responding my discussion. I see your point. Yes, the personality and the inner of the person is more importance than their outlook.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Height doesnt matter as long as they understand each other, maybe the other people will give a bad impression but if they are not affected of the peoples impression then i guess theirs nothing to worry about, when they find that they have in commons, things will gonna be all right.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Patzel, Thanks for responding my discussion. Yes, as long as they are together and happy. As long as they don't care other's opinions. They are gonna to be OK.
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
If a guy is taller than me that's okay but if I am taller than to a guy, I don't like it for me height is really a big thing for me. This is only for myself. If I saw a cute guy and when I saw him standing I get turn- off I dunno but I don't like guys smaller than me. I stand in 5 feet and 6 inches.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Angeltrhix, Thanks for responding my discussion. I understand you. As a girl, especially for those tall girls, they always tried to find someone who can be taller than them. But i've seen some tall girls end up married to a guy who is shorter or the same height as they are. I think the one they married must have a very charm personality.
@panmin (90)
• China
30 Apr 09
i think my boyfriend's height is of course a big deal with me. i don't mean that he should be much taller than me but at least he looks higher than me. general speaking,boys should be higher than girls which makes a couple perfect when it looks.it is only my own opinion,i know some people in this world don't really care about the height and spark will come into them in the end.hope your guys going well!
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Panmin, Thanks for responding my discussion. Yes, i agree with you. I think guys need to be taller than girls. That will make a couple perfect match!
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Hi to all Mylottors out there.. On my own opinion,it's not really matter fo me if that guy is not taller than me the important with that is the personality of the guy. How she cares for you. How she loves you. And mostly how good he is to you.. In other words,his attitude towards you not by yourself but also to other people who deals with him. As long as you love him you will accept everything what he is..
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Cutee_Ash, Thanks for responding my discussion. I undertand you point. When you are in love this guy, his height will not be a problem. But if you are not yet in love with him, you are still considering if you want to date him or not, the height will be a consider element for you. Is that correct?
@orderfox (231)
• China
30 Apr 09
I think the basis of their feelings is better than height restrictions, of course, is totally not a big difference. However, if two different values height may not be able to solve the problem.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Orderfoox, Thanks for responding my discussion. Scientists have stated that the height distance between a couple could be 10cm-36cm. Beyond that, problems will happen.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Apr 09
oh good lord...NO!!! Don't even consider hooking this guy up with your friend. If she is that petty that height is a problem with her of all things....it is he you should be protecting. Playing match game is not a good idea....if i were you i'd step way back from this one. don't get involved.
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• China
30 Apr 09
HI Sid, Thanks for responding my discussion. I understnad your point.
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
I think, it does matter for me. That is for my first impression. I like taller guys than me. But there are some exceptions for me, If the guy is good looking and has a good heart, then he is sincere and true of his love? I should say, in the end.... height doesn't matter.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Celestia, Thanks for responding my discussion. Yes, the frist impression always judge by the appearance. The further relation ship will depends on the personality.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Height is not important to me. My husband and I stand eye to eye and we are quite happy. There are some men and women who feel that one or the other should be taller, but I think that the vast majority of us look well beyond height.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Lynnemg, Thanks for responding my discussion. As long as you are happy with your partner, and you don't mind the height. It's okay to be the same height. After all, there are things more important than height.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
I prefer a man taller than me, however God gave me a husband who's just as tall as me. It doesn't matter anyway. What's important you do get well along with each other. He posess the qualities of being a good husband and we're very much compatible. Height doesn't matter, as long as there's love and respect between partners. Right attitude counts more.
• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Bing28, Thanks for responding my discussion. You are absolutely right! As long as you guys are compatible, heights won't be a problem.
@eltobh (231)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 09
Hi vivianchen! I am quite tall, and to be honest, I am not comfortable to have a boyfriend shorter than me. Lucky me, I got a taller husband. I prefer a taller man, or at least at the same height :) Anyway, if your friend is not comfortable with this height difference, then she shouldn't be with him, coz it might affect one's self esteem..but if there are other things she will consider more than that, like personality, or maybe love? (now i'm being sentimental :p) ..then just go for it!
• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Eltobh, Thanks for responding my discussion. I will tell my friend your advice. If she still thing after all the aspects that she've seen about my mate friend, and she still not happy with the height. Then, forget about it, and wish her good luck then.
@111flylcx (267)
• China
30 Apr 09
If your friend love your mate friends,the hight is not the problem.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi 111flycx, Thanks for responding my discussion. Yes, i think she is not like him that much that she can acecept the height of my mate friend. Or they need further understanding.
@betsyhu (207)
• China
30 Apr 09
Hi,Everyone dealing with same things all subject to his/her character. It's difficult to confirm whether good or bad. It's no problem If they love each other deeply, or,even if the most beautiful male or female cann't attract both side.Of course the taller man is better than shorty according to conventional opinion.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Betsyhu, Thanks for responding my discussion. Yes, from the convertional opinion, taller is better. I always like tall guys, all of my boyfriends(ex and current) are tall, but i did have one that was not tall enough from my opimion, but he was the best one!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
i think i would mind. i am pretty short to begin with! if i was tall, i wouldnt mind seriously because it is what is inside that counts! i would just wear flats all the time. who really cares about height?
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Cher913, Thanks for responding my discussion. I do care.
• United States
29 Apr 09
To be honest with you I have a the short man complex. I think my problem is because I am over weight and I don't want a man who is shorter and smaller than me. when I was dating my husband I had a bit of a complex at first but I got over it. he is only a smigette taller than me at 5'7 I hated it. I would buy him boots to make him taller or shoes with a slight heel. I was just use to dating guys who were 6 feet tall and maybe 250 in pounds. if he is a nice looking guy she will probably over look the hieght issue
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi AcousticSoul, Thanks for responding my discussion.I understand your concern. Girl always looking for a man who is stronger than them, feel more sercurity and be protect. If the man is shorter, just like our other mylottors saying, girl looks like the stronger one. Unless you want to be a tough business woman, or you will like to be protect by your man.
@youless (112532)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Apr 09
Frankly, as a girl, I will also care about his height. At least I want he is taller than me. If he is as tall as me, then at least he should have many reasons for me to love him and accept him as my partner in my rest life. I think it depends on your friend whether she really minds his height. Different people have different opinions. Some girls even don't mind the boys who are shorter than them. But it's not so common anyway. I love China
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Youless, Thanks for responding my discussion. Yes, i agree. If the guy i like makes me don't mind his height. He must be good in some other aspects, like personality, talent,etc.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I want to say height does not matter cause I don't see any problem as long as 2 people are not standing anymore. LOL Seriously, I DO mind. It's a lot better to cling to a taller guy's arm while walking cause if you do it with a guy shorter than you it's like clinging to a child. It would probably be ok if the girl gives up her high heels but that's one more thing. Girls like wearing high heeled shoes! If a guys is just an inch or two shorter i think it's ok but shorter than that there is no way I would overlook it no matter how smart, cute and rich the guy is. My husband has a friend who is very short. He's like 3'9". He is very successful but still single at 48. He looks like Danny Devito. I asked my cousin if she was interested. At first she was but when I told her his height she was like....uh...no, thank you. lol I think guys don't mind the girl's height though as much as girls do with guys.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Gicolet, Thanks for responding my discussion. I like your answer! I think your comments are so ture. Girls love high heels because it make them feel elegant, and high heels look sexy! I have a friend that her boyfriend is as tall as she is. She has to give up her heigh heels when she is with him. lol....But this guy is really a nice guy, he is not rich, but he treat her like a queen. That's why she wants to be with him. Who won't be willing to be with a man who treat them as a queen?
29 Apr 09
It depends whether you judge yourself the way other people judge you or whether you are independent:D. Hieght does not really matter it is the passion, friendship and or love you have for each other. Kind Regards.
• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Wdashdasha, Thanks for responding my discussion. As for friend, i will never mind about their height, their weight, their appearance. As long as we are alike, we have lots things in common. I would love to be friends with them. But, as for lover, i would like to have a taller one.
@jugsjugs (12967)
29 Apr 09
No it dont matter at all how tall or how much smaller the person is,at the end of the day nothing should matter.Iknow a few friends who have partners that are either alot taller or a lot shorter than the other.Its the person inside that matters nothing else.
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• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Jugsjugs, Thanks for responding my discussion. I understand your point. But general speaking, if guys are taller than the girls, everything will be fine. If girl is taller than the guy, somehow we will feel a little bit uncomfortable. But you are right, as long as the couple themselves don't care about this, why should we care. We only care about ourselves .