Will you mind inviting your friends into your house?

@srganesh (6340)
India
April 29, 2009 7:48am CST
Some people have some limits to their relationship with friends.They just speak with them outside their house,even at the foot steps,but not let them in.How about you?Do you think friends shall be restricted from not entering your house?What makes you to decide like that?
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16 responses
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
i won't mind. our home is very open to our friends and colleagues. not only could they enter and stay a bit, they could have a vacation at our home. hehehe i remember during university days, our home is almost always a full house. my brothers' and sisters' friends from school often stay for a few days at our home. we've done sleepovers and cookovers a lot before too. friends still continue to come and stay a bit, everyone of them is welcome. :)
• Philippines
23 May 09
thanks for the BR! very much appreciated. :)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
i come from a very large family. even a simple lunch together is like a celebration... almost like a reunion of sorts. my parents, 7 other siblings, a dozen nephews and nieces, my brothers-in-law as well as my sisters-in-law... well it is literally a full house whenever we are together... with several relatives visiting as well friends of the family. the whole family is quite used to having people around. and we don't mind at all. we have a few forms of entertainment at the house for all ages. we got board games, outdoor games, videos, video games and kiddie pool for kids; all television sets are hooked in cable tv; access to internet is available along with several computers; two units of videokes for sing along; and some adults like to play poker and mahjong so we have playing cards and mahjong set. i have stayed with some friends who are also quite open to guests in their houses.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
It is nice for your friends to have a host like you.But,how did your family members take this?Don't they have any hard feelings about your friends?Have you ever stayed like this in any of your friend's house?
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
30 Apr 09
Nah, I don't I mind asking my friend to my house. I also go to their so, no big deal but only if he is an old friend of mine. If it is a case of my office co-workers then I would never like them to invite to my house without any big occasions like marriage or something. In my school time, I always felt bad inviting them to my house, I don't know why I felt ashamed but now it is not the case!
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
15 Aug 09
Oh, yea. right now I am living in a new city which is away from my hometown and I am living with my family, hence, now I don't have any problem with anyone visiting my house!
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
16 Aug 09
Oh!You are shifted to a new city with your family now.It is glad to hear you are well settled now and we can see you more again in mylot.And can I know why you are not comfortable to welcome friends earlier?Is it related something that you can't accomodate them well in your last living place?
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
We should know how to differentiate between official friends and real friends and treat them different.Good old friends are always welcome any time as they bring sweet memories.Cheers!
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
i am not allowed to bring friends home and stay at my room. like for a night to have sleep over.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes!Some families are reserved in nature and they don't like guests or friends to get into their house at ease.I have a friend like that.He use to come into all houses but will not even invite us into his house.He will turn us at the foot steps.His father and mother were too strict.In fact,he only speak little when we are at his footsteps and he wants to dispose us quickly.
• Indonesia
1 May 09
only 1 condition I will ban you from my house, and that's if you keep bugging me without thinking about the timing and condition. it's okay if only once or two..., but if you keep repeatedly doing that, I will surely ban you from my house .
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
That is right.A friend is supposed to be sharing and understanding.If he wants just to utilize you,then he shall be kicked off without second thought.Because he cannot serve as a friend.A good friend can assess the situation immediately.Cheers!
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
we have different views and opinions in this given matter. some do that to protect their privacy. some well, we don't know what are set on their minds. they have their own reasons and well, maybe its for the best for them. then we have just to respect them. because we are individuals with different personalities. respecting one another will be best for everything. jhelai
@srganesh (6340)
• India
24 Jun 09
You are right.We have to respect every body even if it look indifferent from our point of view.They may have their own reasoning behind their actions and we can't expect them to give explanations.If they are good friends,there is no need worry about inside the house or outside the house.Only friendship matters.You provide a new dimension to this post.Cheers!
@anday0108 (628)
• Philippines
5 May 09
No, I don't think my friends should be restricted to enter my house. Once I have made friends with them, I have committed to myself that they be a part of me and besides, my house is open to almost everyone, new or old friends. One time we even have 4 strangers come and stay in our house for 3 weeks. Later on we became very close friends and frequently communicate with each other. You cannot call people your friends if you do not allow them to enter your home and into your life, they are just acquaintances, no more than the strangers you meet on the street.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
It is shocking to know you allowed four strangers into your house for 3 weeks?Can you tell me why you let them in?How did you develop friendship with them?We are talking about allowing friends to home and you are speaking about allowing strangers to home and making friends,That is unpredictable for me.Cheers!
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I love having friends come over to my house. Once a year we have a huge party and we invite everyone we know from neighbors to friends to coworkers. It is so much fun! Everyone brings a dish to pass. We have a hot tub, so there are always people in the hot tub. I love opening my home to my friends .
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
It is great fun to arrange a get together like it once in a year.That is different.But allowing anybody at any time....will it suit you?Are you prepared for that?
@mayrose (323)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Yeah but I'm not a good host, I have a hard time pleasing and entertaining people..
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
Then they will feel offended and shall not turn back to your house.Once you let them in,you have to mingle with them.Otherwise it will end as an unpleasant meeting.What do you feel?
@kunizzul (1066)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 09
i will invite all my friends into my house if my house is not mess at that time. haha
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
It is not an arranged meeting of friends.Just in your routine day,if there is a sudden visit of a friend who you don't expect and you don't mind either,what will you do?Will you still allow them?They may even stole your valuable time.
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
29 Apr 09
There's a difference between a friend and someone you just have exhanged a few causual hi's with. I enjoy company with my friends and welcome it anytime, but I will not let anyone in that I don't know. I am a stay at home mom. I stay at home for hours on end by myself so for that I have to chose wisely on who I allow in the home and who i don't.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
That is different.Enjoying well with the friends circle should not mean we should allow all of them into our house.We have to maintain our privacy and we have to filter people to have it.Cheers!
• India
1 May 09
i always like my friends to come at my home.there is no restriction in my home for this,afterall we know who to enter our house,and i think there are very few people who do not want their friends to come their home.i would love it.my mom makes good eating stuff for my friends if they come to my home. for me friends are not the one with whom we walk.for me frienship is much more than that.my friends always help me and i help them too,so why can't they enter into my home.even I invite my friends on all small & big functions/celebrations at my home.i like their company at home too. thanks sakshi
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
Oh!Girls can't behave otherwise,I know.You have to allow them inside and that would be the nice way to respect them.Otherwise,they will not turn back again and you will lose your friendship with her.I am talking about the boys,in general.Cheers!
@prinzcy (32326)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 09
I welcome all my friends to enter my house, especially if I know them well. They usually barge in without I say "Come in" anyway. But if the person is just acquaintance or stranger, they'll just stand in front of the door and talk. I will not let someone that I didn't know enter my house. Nobody know what will happen if I let them in.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
We have to have some limits in a relationship.Only good friends can be allowed in our hose and not all.They may get us into trouble.Also,it will be hard to feed them with snacks and ignoring our regular duties.Cheers!
@CHORES (229)
• China
30 Apr 09
I would warmly invite them in.I can't understand people who keep their friends outside.Will they call friends?
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
If somebody is stopped at the foot steps,then they are not understood to be good friends.They are just known people alone and they need not get access into the house.But there are people who chat for a long time outside the house,but not let them in.i think they are worried about the other members in the family.Cheers!
• United States
30 Apr 09
I believe people gravitate to what they need in their life so when someone winds up at my door I feel it's the right thing to do to let them in. Friends are always welcome and I hope they find what they need when they are here.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
It seems you are a great friend to rely on hard times.As you said,I can understand you are a good entertainer for your friends and a good host too.keep it up.Cheers!
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
29 Apr 09
OMG I could never be like that! I'm the type of person who welcomes pretty much anyone into my home EXCEPT ppl like sales ppl or bible thumpers LOL...but pretty much everyone else is welcome....
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
So,how many friends you have?Will you allow all of them into your house?Or you welcome back in their houses?Will they treat the same way you treat them?I am asking this because,there are some friends who get into every friend's house,but will not even welcome to their houses.Cheers!
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I don't have a problem with friends coming to visit... especially those from out of town/state... but my roommates friends have a habit of coming for extended periods of time and I end up waking up to them asleep on the sofa... several times a week. I find this to be quite annoying because I can't get my cleaning done properly (vacuum/washing laundry); making all that noise makes me feel rude.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jun 09
Some friends takes more freedom that affects our privacy.It is good to avoid them one more time.I will find some excuses to keep them out,if they behave like that.Cheers!