What would you do if u didn't like where you were living at ?

@Citychic (4071)
United States
April 30, 2009 5:00pm CST
Hello Mylot friends, this is a question to anyone out there. I hope you will give me ur most honest feedback. Let's say that when you were still new in ur marriage you and ur spouse decided to move to a place which was far away from both of ur home states. After being there for some years you decided that you didn't like the place very much. But ur spouse and children did. What would you do?
6 responses
• United States
1 May 09
I was in a similar situation quite a few years back where my husband and I had moved to a different state then we were from. We only had our son then but I was pregnant with our daughter and I was really homesick. This was the first time I had been away from "home" so I somewhat scared. In the long run we ended up moving back to our home state but there are plenty of times when I wish we could back but others where I am glad to be back. Have you talked to our husband and/or children about how you feel? I think that would be your best option, trying being open with them on how you are feeling and see if you can there is a compromise that maybe all of you can come to like maybe moving to a state or city that is closer or in between your state now and your hometown.
@Citychic (4071)
• United States
1 May 09
What do you do when you do not like where ur living at? Hello there, yes I have talked to them both hubby and children but they all say that they like it and they think that I should move on if I don't like it...... So maybe i will do just that once they are all grown........ Thanks for ur reply.
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I like the place I live but there are other factors that makes me not like where I am living, there is nothing much that I can do right now... so I don't know what I can do really...
@Citychic (4071)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Thanks for ur reply, if you'd like to talk about it some more I am here and we can share. I believe that there is a solution to every problem. We simply have to be willing to look inside of ourselves for the answers...... thanks for contributing. Happy mylotting.
@ronslove (481)
• Philippines
2 May 09
If my kids and spouse love living at it, I think, i have to have an open forum for the whole family. They should know the problem and the root cause. Maybe they would understand me and share their ideas. In a way they would also help me find a better solutions that somehow could change or upgrade the thing that I hate their,renovetions or whatever. then myabe having heard of all their comments and suggestions I can clear up my mind.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
2 May 09
I despise the little town I live in. It's economy overall is just terrible. The only business in town that is currently hiring is a nursing home. We're 45 miles from the nearest anything besides Walmart... even a movie theater. So, for the most part, I've had to dig deep to find things to make myself content with about this place... If I could afford to move, and they weren't content either... I'd have to outweigh the pros and cons and then make a choice of action.
• United States
1 May 09
This happened to me the whole first part of my married life. My husband was in the Navy, so every 3 years we had to move far away somewhere else. He always had a built-in support system because he had his work and sometimes he even knew others who had transferred there as well. Every time we moved, though, I had to get a new job, meet new people, figure out new things (like how to get to the grocery store or post office or find the new doctor's offices, etc.) There were other wives in my situation as well, but I was always too busy to do too much with the military wives clubs, since they seemed to want a lot of volunteer hours. Nice people, but I just didn't have the time. There were many places I didn't really like that the rest of my family did. When my husband got out of the military he got a job that would also transfer him around every couple of years. Finally, we landed in a place I loved and I just refused to move anymore, especially after my doctor diagnosed some health problems and told me the stress of another move would not be good for me. I told my family I was too old to be like a "leaf in the wind," picking up and moving every time the company said to do so. My husband had to commute then for a couple of years, but eventually he made more of an effort to get back home and stay home. Before he knew I'd always pack up and go with him, but when I finally refused to do so anymore eventually he had to make the effort to live where I wanted to live. But back to your question, what I did when I was in a place I didn't like that much is I tried to find things I did enjoy. If I had a hobby I liked I tried to find others who were interested in that same hobby, even if I had to put together a club myself. I like reading and writing, so I'd start a book club or a local writer's club. Things like that, when I had a little time for myself, helped me a lot. Plus, I liked checking out the history of places. When I was out shopping, if I saw a small store anywhere I'd go in and try to strike up a conversation with the owner and I learned a lot about my new town that way. Mainly, I just tried to "bloom where I was planted." Try to always do something that is interesting to you, so you will feel a part of the place to a large extent as well. That helped me more than anything. But I was still very happy to finally get to live in a place I love. Good luck to you with this. I know how you feel.
@curry33 (67)
• China
1 May 09
i think i'll just get used to,you see,when i've been living there for a long time,i'll just get something to do there,such as making money,or a good job, i'm learning in a univercity here,i donot like here,but i had to stay,