Who were you in high school?
By sisterjinx
@sisterjinx (1135)
United States
May 2, 2009 3:11pm CST
And are you still that person today?
In high school I was not the "popular" kid, nor was I a geek or nerd or any of that. Really I don't know if I had a "label". I guess you could say I was the manicly depressed chic desperately trying to fit in. I cared way too much about what everyone else said or thought about me. I was sure that they all talked about me behind my back, which I guess meant I thought I was more important than I was. And I was very suicidal but too afraid of pain to do it, thankfully.
I'm not that person anymore. I have much more self confidence with who I am. I have tried to develop more of a "if you don't like me too bad" attitude but I think I still care more than I should what others think or say. I am no longer suicidal. I don't really care if I fit in.
In high school I was the person that everyone knew they could count on to help them or be a shoulder if they needed one. I AM still that. I give my heart and soul to everyone. It can be draining but it can be rewarding as well. I love to help others and be there for others. I'm glad that hasn't changed about me.
So who were you in high school? The Jock, the bully, the bullied, the head cheerleader, the geek, who? Are you still that person today?
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20 responses
@Buzzman007 (357)
• Finland
2 May 09
Well I quess trying to translate my highschools(countrys) politics to american. I guess I would be a geek. But in my highschool the "geeks" ruled the schoolyard numbers wise. Guess there like 2 girls 2 guys that where the "popupar". and the Jocks was basicly just Jocks. and 2-3 unclassified a "bit socially awkward" kids. basicly all loners.
I also think there where smaler groups than what I known from you avarage am. highshool. Also jumping between groups happend all the time.
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
2 May 09
Thanks for the look at other than "american school" life. It's interesting because it seems to me that, at least in your school, social groups didn't really matter too much. You were who you were and are who you are and that is that. Too bad that in high schools in America it can't be that way.
@Buzzman007 (357)
• Finland
3 May 09
Yeah...but I´m not saying this don´t play a role, wherever it may be, and how the schoolsystemem even is constucted. And for what I can understand (taking the individual out of it) This plays a bigger role in a big school...but a smaller school it would play more of a role for a person "way out there"
@NuttyMomma (901)
• United States
2 May 09
interesting discussion!!! i guess i am still the same in that i am still rebellious even though i am an adult and i know now that you have to conform somewhat. I too desperately tried to fit in and was insecure. i no longer feel the need to fit in and i am really comfortable in who i am so in that way i have changed. i was moody too, still am but i am amused when i run into people i went to high school with and they turned out to be no more special then me even though some of them walked around thinking they were "all that". I tell my 13 year old who is in middle school that most kids in middle school are insecure and everyone is trying to fit in. basically that is true and it helps her because she feels alone. growing up is hard.
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
2 May 09
Oh such a wonderful response. thank you so much.
I agree growing up is hard and I think what you tell your 13 year old is wonderful.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
3 May 09
Hi Sisterjinx, very interesting topic - makes me think me of those years! I was one of those who seemed invisible - you would hardly notice me. I was too shy to make a sound; quiet, obedient and obliging. In one of the yearbooks, someone described me as 'can't say boo to a goose'.
Nope, thankfully I'm no longer like that. Through my years of working and exposure to different people and industries, I've changed - more assertive, vocal and independent!
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@yonkie (440)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Back in high school, I am the serious type of student. I am in the first section from first year to fourth year high school. I am also in the list of honor student. But I was never the number one. To got both high grades in academics and non academic field, I also join extra curricular activities like girl scouting and intramural. I am also an officer of our battalion. I have not experience having boyfriend in my entire high school life. My daily routine was house, school (classroom or library), house.
@lululin (9)
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3 May 09
I was a really normal in my high school, not many people know me, only had one best friend and no boyfriends. I thought I can be anyone coz' I can not feel what's the difference about compare with others. But one thing changed me, which is getting an offer from top university. I was really hard studying and finally I went to that top university, those people who were very popular in my school, actually their universities are not that good. So I am not regret about my high school life, coz' I think just because of this 'normal' that I can go to my favorite university and change my life.
@Handayani (27)
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28 Jul 10
Really I am very proud to be my self when I was high school. Maybe all of student would call me a fortune girl, I was beautiful enough, easily to get the best mark for almost all lessons. Have a good confidence and many things else that I can't talk one by one here. But my life is rather different now, just like other ordinary people, nothing special. I have married for 8 years, have two children, son and daughter. Maybe I am not too proud to my self but now I am very proud with my children, they are so special for me, really they are so wonderful children. I love them so much.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
3 May 09
im not the same person i was in high school, i used to get into trouble all the time, i didnt fit in with too many people. i used to hang out with the misfetch group. think i spelled it right.
now i am more a peacful kind of guy,
@astakiller (32)
• Malaysia
3 May 09
well, im not the most popular guy in the school ... but people know that im exist and im cool , hangout with "popular" ones ..it's ok , but my life is sucks..
@ayameyokomi (638)
• Philippines
3 May 09
In High School.. I think I was the "brainy kid" but not the "popular kid". I'm also loner when i was in high school.
@cjmaltby (34)
•
3 May 09
i have never cared what people thought about me, i don't think it matters because i am who i am, if someone likes me its because they like me not the front that that's put on, i like myself, im happy with myself, i never hurt anybody intentionally, and i would help anybody if they ask or need my help, be happy with yourself, when all said and done it's you you have to live with lolololo....
@hotman19902009 (93)
• India
3 May 09
no i have changed a lot from the behaviour when i was in school.at high i was having lot cheers.to be first in the school,to be a good monitor or leader of the class.
in my high school i was like a small kid.even though i was aged to some extent i use to behave like a 5th or 6th class student.i think that only i should be the fav student in the sight of all my teaching staff.at my high school age i dont have slf confidence in me.i use to be afraid by others, i mean friends or other students.i can say a lot about my high school age.but this is enough!!!!!!!!!!!
@Tcboss (69)
• Netherlands
3 May 09
I have never tried to fit in. In fact, I still try to 'fit out'. I don't want to be part of that whole "OH LOOK WHAT HE'S/SHE'S WEARING! I WANT THAT TOO" group. I just do what I want, and I can't even care less about what other people say. Although I do like it if other people who are clearly people who copy everyone and everything that's the "fashion" laugh at me. It gives me a "MISSION ACCOMPLISHED" feeling.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
2 May 09
In highschool I definitely went out with friends more and did things with friends. However, I wasn't as confident in myself and wasn't as outgoing as I am now. Granted, I'm not that outgoing now, but I'm more willing to do some things and try new things now. I think college has taken me out of my shell a bit.
I still get down on my self some times but I realize that I am capable and confident and I'm really not such a bad person. I'm not as willing to trust people now though. I had a lot of bad experiences in highschool that made it rather difficult for me to allow a person in and allow a person to see the real me. I'm working on that but it is hard.
@cecillecarmela (3818)
• Philippines
3 May 09
I guess I'm the bullied..
I really don't like my high school co'z I don't fit in the crowd
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 May 09
I was a shy, reserved girl who did not speak much. I used to be surprised that people seemed to stick to me as if appointing themselves as my friend. I was not popular 9at all) but I got along with most people.
Teachers either knew me from early because I was quite or they would one day just ask , Who is ....... ....... And then my classmates would say there she is Miss/Sir, She is quite that is why you do not know her.
I do wish I was far more assertive and had tried to enjoy those years more but I have no huge regrets. Today I am far more outspoken which would surprise many.
@captainmorgan (773)
• Canada
2 May 09
Well in grade 7/8 I was the bullied I guess, but only within my "popular" group of friends, and only by 2 of the people, but it might as well have been all of them since no one did anything about it. After that things changed, that was just a phase for me and those 2 people who were bullying me. I hang out with the "popular" crowd, although I feel bad calling myself and my group of friends popular. I guess maybe the "party group" is a slightly better term to use. I am still in highschool now so I still am this person.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
3 May 09
sorry you had to put up with all of that in school .schools can be so mean some times.school was good some times for me .i was a well liked person.but did learn you can not please every one. the hardest thing for me was i grew up in the south and blacks and whites were still haveing riots over color. that was pretty heart breaking for me so i was afraid at times which made it hard to learn at times .but i did try to get along with every one.
@Buzzman007 (357)
• Finland
2 May 09
Ah you as i understand american highschool politics ( My main scoure of this would be american movies and tvshow, So I know my score of information way to stereotipcal)
But would make you the emokid right ;)
