Would You Tell on YOur Relative's Mate?
By crasks
@crasks (49)
May 2, 2009 4:01pm CST
You have this close, close relative and you love them. If you found out that their mate was cheating on them, would you tell them?
It's interesting how married people react sometimes.One of our relatives' husband has been having an affair and it was discovered. Of course we were so hurt that one of us decided to let our relative know about it. We all concluded that if she found out from someone else, and discovered a whole lot of us knew, she would be offended. So one of us took courage and told her. Interestingly, she was so offended and angry that she stopped talking to the one who told her. Now the person regrets it.
Now does that make sense? No one understands her reaction.
What would you do, would you keep quiete or tell your relative? Is telling classified as meddling?
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2 responses
@marguicha (215405)
• Chile
2 May 09
I would call this meddling. A marriage is a complex relationship between TWO people. By telling , you were not protecting the relative but protecting yourselves. The relative´s reaction makes complete sense to me.
@crasks (49)
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3 May 09
Interesting view! Though really, in this day and age of HIV and AIDS, when our relative gets sick, chances are that the unfaithful husband will not be there to nurse the wife because he will either be sick himself or simply run off to his other woman. In the end, the relatives bear the brunt.
Thanks though for your response.
@Carolysom (62)
• Canada
2 May 09
If it was me, I would want to be told. I guess some people just have that kind of a relationship were things like that are ok. Personally, I would kick my other half to the curb before I stopped talking to my family over that. I would be more upset if they had known for months and no one told me. Personally, if it was my relative I would have gone to them so fast, they have a right to know what's going on, you never know what the other person is doing to protect/not protect them self, so you can never be sure they are not bringing something into the bedroom.
