Why do Women sometimes settle for any man that comes along?

I think the number one reason is low self-esteem. I mean sometimes women don't want to admit they made a mistake, but I believe low self-esteem is the main reason, like you said. It's awful to see a wonderful, giving woman with a guy who treats her like dirt. Or maybe he is just totally indifferent to her. It is just sad. And I hope we are all aware enough to know when we are that woman.

Thats a good question, reminds me of someone I know. She was the nicest person I had ever met, yet her own father and brothers treated her and her mother very lowely.. Went to their home and she had holes in her walls and floors that her father and older brothers SHOULD have fixed for their family YEARS beforehand, yet they didn't.. Years go by and she keeps falling in and out of relationships with people who treated her the same, never lifted a finger to help her out..only themselves.. She gets into another relationship with a man who she thought she could help .(she having grown in a strict christian family, so bad that they wouldn't fix breaks in their own vehicles because they knew they would be taken here and there safely with God's mercy..)Time goes by and he has the face of being saved..she feels good about herself thinking she has helped him out of his evil ways, and then he gets fired from his job.She now is the sole supporter of the two.. She still no matter what hands over her check, and he blows her 500 for two weeks on coke.. I guess the thought that I have on this subject.. She was put down so morally her life putting her trust into everyone else she never had a chance to even think and care about herself, she was so involved in trying to save this person from his old ways, she didn't see them coming through his lies of how the money was gone and had nothing to show for it.. She had an easier time hoping for a better tomorrow that she forgot what was happening today.. same way with the holes in her floor, it was easier to ignore them and keep herself from the conflict of her father and brothers who COULD have fixed it but never did because they were always so self involved with their *Play* vehicles than to take the role of the man's position in the house and be supportive. Same in her life, easier to substitute with what she knows already and hopes can change than to ask for more than what she *deserved*

I think that a lot of it is just as you have said. Thinking it over and thinking..well..if I hadn't done this or if I had of done that. I have often pondered this question too. It is in a woman's instinct to care for her family in an unconditional manner. Although it is a good trait to have for her children, this can become distorted when it comes to dealing with her mate. That's not to say all mates but the ones who use this and her low self esteem for their self gain. I know of a lot of people who have purposely lowered ones self esteem so that they could become stronger within the relationship. Sad.

I agree with the responses so far - low self-esteem is the main reason. Your question asked 'why do women sometimes settle for any man that comes along', and that is something I really can't understand, but think it is because some women don't feel comfortable being single, almost as if they are worried that they aren't a proper woman if they haven't got a man.

I think people stay with people that dont make them happy or they settle for people who are not right for them cause they cannot be alone and thay feel like they could not handle the outside world on their own. These people have self esteem issues

I think, that's one of the biggest mistake I had in my life. I love my boyfriend but he was the one that time even though I know for a fact that I can have someone better than him in a long run but I settled with him. I just don't know the reason. Maybe impulse. Being impulsive and wrong mentality pushes a woman to settle for any man that comes along.

I think that this is because of low self esteem, and perhaps a lack of education. People may not know that they are worth more than the crap they're getting, and they may not know that men out there actually can treat them better than the idiots they have been with so far.

I think it is not always with just women. I think in many societies at a certain age, when people are not married, they settle for whatever comes in the way. it is irrespective of gender.

I has a lot to do with low self-esteem some women have conditioned themselves into thinking that it's ok to be treated unfarely. They take the first thing that comes along with hopes of changing him we know that doesn't work and will never. Then they get brain washed by the no goo fella who preys on her emotions and talks about any weakness he can detect rather it be her weight, hieght, family or friends and then he really sinks his hooks in. Then she finally realizes she being a fool and wants to get out but he leaves first and finds a woman that he will respect and do anything in the world for and here's the killing part she Will treat him like crap and he will like it that is the best thing about these types of relationships what goes around comes around! I hope us women who are caught up in that crap seek some strength and guidance we all make mistakes but let's break this cycle and that goes for the few men that have been in the same or simular situations. Move forward paray and you shall recieve a great spouse I have been blessed with one and I have been through some thing as well but I made it..

Sometimes its not all about low self esteem. Some women are just plain lazy and dont want to be bothered with getting what they really want. They feel that If I let this loser go then nobody else will come to me. I think some women just dont have the talent of spotting time wasters, abusers or liars.

hi ya coz women are soft hearted people they have tendency to lean on some man whoever protects her..no matter even if he acts like a good person just to have crush...but women dont hang on for long period of time...coz reality is that if u seek for genuine and truthful person it will take months even years...like i am hanged up till now...i am 34 not married yet... still not found a soulmate for me... bye luv shek india

There could be many reasons.. May be the women is worried about what the society would say or how her relatives or parents would react... so and so... But she can always strive to change the guy or it would be better to move out and lead a peaceful life as how she wishes for instead of compromising the life for him. Because, compromising is just a temporary solution and will not work out during a long run.

I'm not sure, maybe they're desperate. One of the reason I can come up with is maybe, she lives in an amazon island and one male pilot happened to come along, so that leaves him to be the only guy in the planet. It maybe absurd, but that's what those women think, the thing is, he's not the only guy in the planet, there are lots of them and he's not the only one who's going to stray in our lives. The reason I said this, coz of the work "any" in your question. Its like, "whatever comes along, i'll take it" Its a sound of desperation...

I would have to agree with others on this...Low Self Esteem! I see it all the time. And another thing to think about... The most common sarcastic remark I hear when this topic comes up is..."They must like it". I don't agree with that 100%, but I can understand why people will say that. It seems like the mistreated person will either stay in that bad relationship or find another bad relationship. But like I said before, I think its the low self esteem and the feeling that there is nothing else better out there. As for your other wave of thinking...when it comes down to trying to change your guy/girl...DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME! Your suppose to love them for who they are...right? Well, when they are bad...they are bad! You either love them that way or realize your wasting your time and you deserve better. Sometimes, meeting the right person can bring out the best in you. But that happens on its own. You can't make a person change, they do it on their own.

When time is passing and they don't have choice to pick at that time women compromise and settle for any man that comes along.

I think it's women's or anyone's desire to have love again. Feeling 'love' even if it's only scraps of it are enough to lure a person into a relationship. I can't judge others for I have gone that path too. Having no one beside you and being alone is very difficult that's why we tend to go for any man that comes along. I know it's sad, but you just can't help it.

I have to agree with alot of the responses I myself have done the same thing over and over a few times. I think alot has to do with low self esteem and lack of self confidence. I always since my first relationship ever which was not good for some reason went on to the next in time then the next and none ended up with great wonderful things, each one would start off with very nice things said and done and alot of appreciation but its almost like guys can pinpoint how to pull which woman in then when they have them they act as who they really are. There was times to where I just wanted to not date again in life because I figured I am better off by myself instead of being put down or blamed or hurt and lied to and cheated on because in the end its going to be me who has always been there for me anyway so I have not dated for a while now and dont plan to date anytime soon because for the fourth time I again just recently went through it all again and this time I was stronger and happier with everything in life but yet it still happened which doesnt mean I did anything wrong I am just not finding the right one yet to truely accept me and appreciate me for who I am. There is a right one out there for everyone these days its just seems much harder to find.

You need to clan up that subject...it's NOT ALL WOMEN just SOME WOMEN do that crap!

I come from chinese. I read you article. I think it very good. But I don't know what you want to decrible. en, maybe my English is not good.