My EX Boyfriend wants to double date with me and my husband....

United States
May 4, 2009 1:51pm CST
I know that sounds a little weird but its true. My Ex high school sweetheart wants to double date with me and my husband. A part of me says ok... and then another part of me say no... My Ex and I are still good friends but my husband doesn't accept him so I don't mention him or talk to my ex anymore. I tried to explain to my husband that he and I developed a friendship and I would like for him to get to know him because he is a really good guy. but because I love my husband more I decided not to push the subject no longer... what would you do... I would really like for him to get to know him and maybe become good friends should I talk him into it or loose a really good friend.. PS I have no feelings for my EX if you are wondering.... He and I dated 8 years ago when I was 18...
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larish
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
5 May 09
If I am on your place, I would respect your husband's decision. Though, your ex is a good person, it doesn't mean that they both will go along well. I don't think it's a good idea to have a double date with this kind of scenario.
AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
5 May 09
Yeah your right it may cause trouble and I don't want any conflicts within my marriage and my marriage means more to me than myfriendship I just feel bad when my friend misses me and wants to tell me about his kids and get advice but we have to do it on a sneak tip...
srganesh
@srganesh (6340)
• India
5 May 09
Don't spoil your life by yourself.Possessiveness is unavoidable in a relationship and your husband will feel hurt if you fail to respect his feelings.As you have told,you have nothing to feel about your ex,just erase him from your life.Cheers!
AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
5 May 09
I don't have past relationship feelings as far as being a couple I have a friendship bond with this guy. he was like my best friend besides us dating in high school which was over rated. My husband wouldn't understand even if he was just a friend and we never dated. I try to look at it both ways My husband has a female friend he went to school with that he chats with online every now and then... but it doesn't bother me because i am secure in my relationship
Notlilie
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
5 May 09
I would prefer not to do that. I figure guys, no matter how understanding they are, sometimes they can stand this kind of things. They may pretend to be understanding and look like they don't care, but inside, they do care. Even if he's a good friend, it's not a best idea to do that.
AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
5 May 09
Yeah I can see my husband now jealous as all out doors. he is a sweet guy but very territorial. and I would never disrespect him but I also feel as though I am loosing a good friend
born1989
@born1989 (177)
• India
4 May 09
i feel you should leave your past to your past and not bring it to your life again. past is past forget it. from your husband's point of view, he will feel more insecure if you guys come closer once again. just leave your past.
AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
5 May 09
I know your right bring up my EX may cause confusion but just because we had a breif past I can't be his friend. its not like I am excluding my husband I want him to be apart of it also I think they would get along very well