Loved ones behind bars

i have no loved ones behind bars but i took up psychology as a degree in college. it is just so heartbreaking for the loved ones of people who continue to do harm to themselves in one way or another. you could deal with this by thinking that since your brother had had the guts to do what he did (no offense here) then he is fully equipped to cope with anything that would follow it. let us just try to get on as normally as possible with our lives. let us not let our loved ones behind bars feel that their time there is a burden to us emotionally. they need our support. they need our love. and they could do away with the guilty feeling one can bring to them if one isn't aware of the fact that they'd get through this.

My daughters father has spent more time in than out in his lifetime in the time I have known him which has been over 13 years more than 10 of that has been in I wanted to believe in him changing but sadly whether these guys are just inclined to become life long criminals or if prison changes a person so they get so use to being in they always end up going back which seems to be your brothers case it is a pretty dumb thing he did sending those letters from the inside anybody knows for one never put anything in writing and definately not from jail so down deep he had to know and want to go back even if he did not want to if that makes sense There is nothing you can do he has made his bed he has to do it the only thing you can do is still love him but have tough love also show no pity he knew what he was doing and most of these guys know someone will feel sorry for them while inside prison is suppose to be about suffering about reform and that is what i have had to do in my case i have tried to be supportive never worked well now it is time for him to care enough to change things do I believe he will at this point no but it is on him now and that is all one can do