Good Mother Gone Bad.....
By sxrxnrr45601
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
United States
May 5, 2009 7:26pm CST
The hole time I was growing up My mother was my best friend. As time went by we grew apart. I mean really apart. To the point that she tells people that I do not deserve my kids. And anyone that knows me knows my kids are number one in my life they are in no way mistreated or harm nor neglected in any way what so ever. I consider myself to be an pretty good parent and so do a lot of others. At one point and time my mother tried to take my kids from me being unsuccessful. She has call child protective services on me so much that they call me to let me know that my mom is up to no good again. I have never stole or disrespected my mother I have alway's tried to do for when I could. Now here mother's day approaches and I have not spoken to my mother for over a year now. To me it is just unwanted drama in my life that she cause's and well I do not like drama and have a very drama free life. Though I know my mother has done this I yet still miss her and would love to just talk to her and see how she is. But the last words she spoke to me is " I could go the rest of my life with out hearing from you and I would be happy" So that is what I have done made her happy! What I do not understand is why does she feel this way toward me and not none of my other siblings. My brother has been in and out of the prison does not take care of his kids in now way shape or from and she is just all buddy with him I do not get it. The only thing I can think of is I remind her of my father and well she don't like him. Is it because I am my fathers daughter? She has always said I hold my father in high regards. I just told her that I hold her in high regards as well but it wasn't good enough for her. And My father has never said mean things to me and I have always been his daughter regardless of the mistakes I have made in my life. I just do not understand how she went from being my best friend to my Worsts enemy ? Any Help here!
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7 responses
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
6 May 09
Hi sxrxnrr...I sympathize with you. But it's obvious from your discussion here, although probably only a fraction of the problem, that whatever you do it will never be right. I know that it hurts you that your mother has behaved this way towards you and continues to do so, but it doesn't seem that you will ever change her attitude or response. Please just do your best with your children and maybe one day she'll change her mind on her own.
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
6 May 09
I have lived my life like this for the past few year hoping she may come around before its too late it does not look hopeful though. Not at all... But I will continue to live my life and be a good parent regardless.
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@Hedwig (283)
• China
6 May 09
I am also wandering why your mother treats you like this. That's so unusual.Only because of your father? Not very convincing.
Since your other siblings get along with your mom, I think maybe you can turn to them for help. Ask them to talk to your mother about you and try to figure out the real reason for her hostility towards you.
Anyway she is your mother. You love her and she loves you, even now she don't know it at present. There must be some way to patch things up between you.
Good luck!
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@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
6 May 09
I do not really speak to my siblings I do not have a very close knit family at all. I do not fit in well with my mothers side of the family at all they are all so called "wealthy rednecks" this is the name they call their self. and I am not wealthy nor am I a redneck so....... I do love my mother very much and miss her being in my life.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
6 May 09
It is sad when things like that happen. I have no solutions for you. I hope that one day the two of you can at least be civil to each other before it is too late.
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@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
6 May 09
I always treat my mother with the utmost respect always have.Even when she has not treated me the same. I am just not sure if she is trust worthy enough to let back in my life. As bad as that may sound. But I am speaking truthfully. Thanks for the response.
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
6 May 09
I know it's going to be hard to do after a year of youall not speaking to each other but trying calling her and explaining to her how you feel. Tell her that what you don't understand is why she feels this way toward you and not your other siblings. I'm sure it really hurt you when she told you that she could go for the rest of her life without hearing from you and that she would be happy. I'm sure she knows that you are a good mother and that you have never disrespected her or stole from anybody. Since you are your father's daughter and she doesn't like him, it sounds like there must be some jealousy on her part toward your father. I don't know. I'm just assuming this. Why she would be such big buddies with your brother and him being in and out of prison so much and not taking care of his kids is beyond me. I just hope youall can work things out some way between now and mother's day. Good luck! Please know I'll be praying for you. Kathy.
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@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
6 May 09
well I do not think it will happen that fast! It is crazy how she is with him. I have had so many people tell me that he is her favorite and they do not understand why my mother is with me the way she is. I have always tried to be a good daughter I mean her own family has even said this. My father seems to think that it is because I am a female which may be true because I have a step sister my mother is not fond of but she likes my step brothers. She must have something against us being females or we just measure up to what a female should be in her eyes not sure.
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@iamcapricorn (338)
• Philippines
6 May 09
[b][/b]Sorry to hear that, could it be that somebody is telling her bad things about you? and she just listen to them without asking the truth from you, this is just my opinion. I will pray that she will be enlighten that you love her very much and that someday you will be together and become good friends.
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
8 May 09
I doubt if anyone at all is telling here anything she is usually the one speaking ill of me to others But thank you very much and Happy Mylotting!
@rocketsky (1013)
• China
6 May 09
even though sometimes I dont quite agree what my mum has done ,later I will always blame what she did to me ,because I know ,most mothers are great in the world .
nothing will become obstacles between the relationship between your mum and you .
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
6 May 09
I love my mother very much although it seems to be very hard to be her daughter and I find her often in my thoughts! I do miss her But I just do know if it wroth the drama she brings in my life.
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@abhichat1980 (250)
• India
6 May 09
This is really sad and heartbreaking. To lose you mother and best friend and worse now she is against you. Really bad time you are going through. It is hard for me to imagine that a mother can really turn this way against her child. Nothing really occurs to me as to what prompted her to behave the way she is doing. Maybe you can try one last time to speak with her with an open mind and ask her plain and simple why she is so annoyed with you or don't like you. Or maybe somebody is poisoning her mind against you for some reason which you as well might not know right now. I think best is to talk to your mother directly. If things go well fine else take the pain of this one last time.
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