Just wanna know your reaction or opinion
May 6, 2009 1:04am CST
I just wanna ask your opinion, Monday night me, my husband and our son was invited by a friend to their house because my friend's sister came home from abroad so we have a bbq party there in their place. We left the place at around 10 pm, when we reach our home we saw outside the house his cousin with her boyfriend. What i noticed when i saw them that night was the young lady who is my husband's cousin was sitting on his boyfriend's lap, i was shocked and my reaction that time was "hey why are you sitting on your boyfriend's lap" though though i did not voice it out. Then last night, I remember it and I ask my husband what is his reaction to what we saw the other night regarding his cousin? My husband told me that his cousin is old enough to handle herself (i think she is 19 yrs old) and that we should not mind them because the parents didn't mind it. Now, my question is, is it ok for you if you saw your relative sitting on a lap of a guy? For all the mothers, it is ok for you with that kind of situation? Do i sound OA if i make it a big deal because for me it is not right and proper? What is your opinion?
6 May 09
[b][/b]Being a mother I think it's inappropriate for a girl or a young woman to sit in the lap of her boyfriend specially in public, it gave some bad connotations to others who will see them. Even if we say we are in a modern world, I think morality still holds if you want to be respected. It's ok if they are already married, but being in a relationship only that's not proper, in my opinion being a mother.
6 May 09
it isn't right and proper and it is terribly frustrating because we can never do anything about it. that is why it is important to dwell as much time as possible in being with our kids while they are growing up so that we can instill in them what we believe is acceptable or not.
6 May 09
I haven't gotten the chance to experience such thing, as I am not old enough to have a baby or any cousin who is enough old to have a boyfriend. But I guess I would have the same feeling with you if I met that situation. That would make me feel uncomfortable and I might can't stand to say some words, maybe, I don't know. I can see you are a good mom from your article. Hope your family happy! ^)^
7 May 09
Hi, it's so difficult to measure whether good or not. If happened in early 1980's in my country, there would more people to blame . but now, maybe ,it turn to be common among young people. To me, i can't accept the phenomena as you said. Flightiness isn't benefit for girl to do anything.in my viewpoint
7 May 09
Hi Ronina, I agree with you, maybe its the old fashion in us but we belive in respect and that is not one, I would have told them off, 19 or not. I have not got any children but if my friend's son done that with his girlfirnd I would say something but he know us too well to do that in front of us. Tamara
12 Sep 09
If the two people are involved in a relationship with eachother, then I see no problem with this. My sister got married at the age of 19. If one or both of the people involved are with someone else, and cheating on that relationship, then it would not be something that I'd want going on in my presence.