Should Elizabeth Edwards forgive her husband?
@scarletwitch12 (562)
Philippines
May 6, 2009 4:48am CST
I just saw excerpts of Elizabeth Edwards' new book "Resilience" where she talked not only about her battle with cancer but also about her husband's infidelity.She talked about how she begged for fidelity when they first got married and how the whole mess left her crushed and publicly humiliated.
Honestly, I feel for this woman! She is so strong to have stood by her husband through such as difficult time what with her illness and what not. It seems she had almost everything thrown at her and there she stood strong.
It is such a shame that there are people who would intentionally start a relationship with someone they know is already married!
But I guess apart from the cheating, it is also important to evaluate if it is healthy to forgive someone who could cheat under such circumstances! Sure many people cheat, but how could anyone cheat when their partner is seriously ill?
I am unmarried and I could never imagine the pain a person would feel after they realized their partners cheeated on them, but I know it is never easy to swallow. Should people like Elizabeth Edwards forgive their husbands or wives for cheating?
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2 responses
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
6 May 09
Hi scarlet...I am married and I don't think I could ever forgive my husband if he committed adultery. Moreover in her case, it was a public affair since he was a presidential candidate and he had a baby with the mistress - allegedly. I don't think I could have written a book and gone on national television to be interviewed about it. And if what she said at the beginning of your discussion is true - that she begged for fidelity then maybe she knew it was going to be a problem.
@scarletwitch12 (562)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Yup that is really messed up! I would have kept it hush hush if it was me too. I guess she felt that discussing it would finally settle things, they are public figures after all. She must have thought it is better if the dirt came straight from her.
Thanks for the response!
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
6 May 09
I just think if she's strong enough to battle cancer, she should be strong enough to end up her marriage. Her husband had an affair when she's dying and she okay for that? I don't think I will. Relationship will work if two party cooperate, not ditch the partner once she/he's dying. I don't want to be with someone who stand with just in health not sickness. What's the point of making the vow then?
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@scarletwitch12 (562)
• Philippines
7 May 09
I agree, it is a lousy thing to do to one's partner when they are healthy, it's worse if you do it at a time when they are battling a really serious medical condition.
But then again maybe she thought there is still something worth saving in the marriage.
Thanks for the response!
