I don't like his friend
By SuzyLong
@SuzyLong (775)
May 6, 2009 10:33am CST
My boyfriend has a friend that I just don't get on with. It's not like me to really hate someone but he doesn't even have to say anything and I want to beat the life out of him. He was meant to be staying with us a few weeks while he found somewhere else to stay but that was 7 months ago. His room (our spare bedroom) is a rubbish pit, our dogs even run away form the smell when he opens the door. We ask him to clear it up but he never does. We've cleared it out once as we got so sick of it but it just went back to being dirty within days. He doesn't clean up after himself when he makes dinner, doesn't do any washing up and hasn't showered in about 4 weeks. The man is a chef!!!! He keeps having days off sick when he's not ill so he can't always pay the rent and won't put to any of the other bills as he can't afford it.
I keep trying to say something to him but my boyfriend tells me to be nice as he's got nowhere else to go. I'm really starting to not care, I want to throw him out and get my house back.
Am I being too nasty? Or would you be feeling the same?
2 responses
@Brandiewynne (71)
• United States
6 May 09
It is never easy when a friend or relative moves in with you. Talk with your boyfriend and try and set a deadline for him to move out. Then stick to it!! Otherwise he may be a permenant fixture.
Our freinds had to do this with relatives. They still have a very good relationship with them because they gave them the responsiblity for their actions. Just like you would be doing to the friend.
Good luck!!
@SuzyLong (775)
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6 May 09
I've just phoned my boyfriend and we've decided to sit down tomorrow and go over everything with his friend. We're going to tell him straight and also give him jobs to do around the house. Then we'll sort of review the situation in a few weeks and if nothings changed, we're going to tell him to leave
@Brandiewynne (71)
• United States
6 May 09
I would still give him a deadline as to when he needs to be out of the house. You don't want him living with you forever!!
Deadlines are the best way to go, because there can be no excuses.
My sisiter moved in with us and before she moved in we told her that she could only stay for 9 months. This worked out great, she was able to get a great job and save money to get into her own place. She knew that if after those 9 months were she would have to look at alternatives. This may be the best thing for this friend to.
@koharukusumi (1539)
• Malaysia
6 May 09
It is perfectly understandable if you thought of throwing him out. these type of people are parasites which not only do not appreciate what people gave him but also have no awareness that he is a burden to his friends. I think a discussion will help. I can imagine the situation you are in and I hope you'll find a good solution.
