mother in laws
May 6, 2009 2:06pm CST
I have been with my husband for 8 years, and I have a problem with my mother in law. I have tried to get along with her from the start, There is nothing that I do that makes her happy. I have unfortunately had to remove myself from having any contact with her. My husband understands, however I know that he would like us to get along. When she is confronted by anything the only thing that she knows how to do is lie. She has tried to get my husband on "her" side as she puts it. I try to think back on what I could have done for her to treat me this way and I can only think of one thing that I married her son. Anyone else have problems with their in laws? Is this normal?
7 May 09
Hi there. I have also some problems with my mother-in-law, but I think not that too harsh as yours. I have been married with her son for almost two years and we live on their place, because they are only four in the family, his mom, dad and elder sister. And they have a big house so I have no choice but to moved in there also. We lived in the second floor area of their house. His mother was I think in the age of 65 years old already and a Chinese, but his father was a Filipino. At first, we are okay, his mom, always wants me to go with her on the market and any place. But later on, I kept thinking that he was too worried to his son about anything and I think she is not use to see his son who has wife and I am the one that his son always wants to be with, go with and eat with together. I think being the only son of her, she is getting jealous on the attention that his son was giving me. But I guess it is natural to the parents. Sometimes, she would not just greet me or anything, but I just keep my patience and my husband said to be more patient to her mom and she is getting old. So I try to bring her food or bread most of the times and we begin close but not that close. But I think she has understand that her son has wife now. Maybe if we will gave her grandchildren maybe she will be more happy. That is the next plan we will try this year, to have kids.
• United States
6 May 09
I did have that problem and finally I was so fed up it helped cause my divorce. As long as your husband is by your side, unlike my ex, I wouldn't worry about the in law to much. Mothers are funny when it comes to their kids they are demanding of their attention and don't like the fact that their child has grown up and moved on. You probably didn't do anything to deserve this treatment. Don't stress yourself about trying to figure it out either the only one that knows is her and she obviously isn't going to tell you or him what is going through her head. Just suck it up and try not to freak out worry or become stressed out by her immature nature. I hope everything works out for you.