Would you tell an underage pregnant girl to lie?

@BethTN81 (564)
United States
May 6, 2009 6:21pm CST
I was just watching the news about a Memphis, TN pregnancy clinic where a woman who was claiming to be only 14 and pregnant by her 31 year old boyfriend went ther "seeking and abortion". The woman went in there with a hidden camera and caught the employee from the prgnancy clinic telling her to LIE about her boyfriends age. "Just say you have a boyfriend, 17 or whatever" is what the employee says. How would you feel if your underage daughter went into a clinic such as this when she would be in a very vulnerable state that could possibly change her life forever and the employees are telling her to lie?
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
7 May 09
I'm a bit confused by the slight outrage I detect in this discussion. Why does abortion exist? It exists so that men and women can avoid taking responsibility for actions they take. The original women's movement included banning abortion because, abortion allowed men to run around knocking up women, and then after using them, dumping them at an abortion doctor. Well guess what... times haven't changed much. Men still run around with women they have no business being with, and dumping them at abortion clinics. I'm a bit confused as to why things are happening the same way they always have, and people are all shocked.
@BethTN81 (564)
• United States
8 May 09
Why are you blaming men? Last I checked it takes two to make a baby.
• Finland
8 May 09
And is somebody missunderstand me...I personally who´d do anything in my power to keep "my kid" alive...If It have any Input in the matter...i would rase the kid myself (not sure about the laws on that)... But legally I have no say...I don´t even need to be asked...I don´t even would know about it. But "I´m "pro" for the choise of abortionn, yes
• Finland
8 May 09
So I suppose i´m staying away for the girl that i belive would not even ask my input
• Finland
7 May 09
As there is no need for the information and no in reality prove this age of the father. They would not have to ask. (I don´t if they do) And as she is underaged she would have to have some for of consent from her legal gardian... As I don´t know your laws on this Us or state... But I don´t see how this would not apply to your country to...
• Finland
7 May 09
as she would be covered by national health care here i belive. So if would be the fee of the arbortion itself but she could pay cash. I don´t see where she would in practice need to put down the age/name of the father that would not fall under "father unknown" thing. it´s the "legal of age" that is the problem here
• United States
7 May 09
If you are seeking state assistance for help with pregnancy, I know they generally want to know the father's age,name that sort of thing. I'm not sure if it is like that in all states or not. I'm not sure though about the clinics, if they are required to ask and document or not. I would think that they would only to be able to report any cases of abuse. Again i'm not positive.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
9 May 09
Wow!! Told to lie about your Age, or your boyfriend's age. That is unreal, but in reality what is a 14 yr. old doing sleeping with someone who is 31 unless it is against their will. Personally that just does not sound right at all, but for an agency to lie to someone like that, or tell them to lie, it makes you wonder where their sense of decency is for sure. Personally I am hoping that when caught this person was fired and repremanded for this as well.
@maximax8 (31055)
• United Kingdom
8 May 09
I would not be able to work in an abortion clinic because I am pro-life. I think it is terrible the abortion clinic told the 14 year old girl to lie about her boyfriend's age. It would be shocking if he was 31 years old having such activities with a minor. A 17 year old boyfriend sounded much better to the head of the abortion clinic perhaps. I feel so sorry for aborted babies. The parent's ages weren't the worst thing about the event. The truth is the best policy.
@kezabelle (2974)
7 May 09
I dont see what they would gain out of her lieing over the age of her boyfriend to be honest even at 17 with a 14 year thats against the law!! Anyway no they should be there to offer safe resonable advice especially to a 14 year old I hope they sacked the employee.
• Australia
7 May 09
That is true, she shouldn't have a boyfriend that oll. However, they both may be in serious love and I have seen people with this big age difference before. I am totally against abortion but maybe if she keeps the baby she could let someone look after it until she is mature enough to care for the child. And it is outrageous for an employee at a professional clinic to tell her to lie about that sort of thing. She got Busted badly and yes, we all hope the employee is sacked by now.
@mhethess (379)
• Philippines
7 May 09
No and never. I will encourage the child to tell the truth for truth will set her free. Seeking abortion is not the best sollution for teenage pregnancy. The best sollution is the prevention tips. There should be workshop for teenagers so that they can avoid being hook with that problem. We adult must be the one responsible of telling them the consequences of having teenage pregnancy. I hope that we adult can be of help for the future of the teenager. Encourage them so that they will not have the chance or force to tell lie. Thanks god Bless, Can we be friends?
@arkansos (545)
• India
7 May 09
Yes prevention is better than cure. But what if the girl is pregnant. Is there anything other than abortion she can do. i mean at 14 her uterus is hardly strong enough to carry a baby. So what would you suggest?
@lisado (1227)
• United States
7 May 09
I have a problem with children under the age of 18 being able to get an abortion without parental consent period, much less having places encourage them to lie. If this situation was real, the man should have been sent to jail for statitory rape. No way a 14 year old should be with a man that old, period. They probably thought they were doing the girl a favor by keeping her boyfriend from getting in trouble, but I see all kinds of issues with this story that are wrong.
• Philippines
7 May 09
this kind of person is what i call devil in the form of human in action..they have no conscience, no dignity left...they should burn in hell because their making the life of innocent people at stake.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 May 09
first of all if i had a daughter i would not like to think she would go to a place like that to start with. i don't think the employee had any buisness telling her to lie. what ever kind of lie you tell for whatever reason is going to catch up w/you sooner or later.
• United States
6 May 09
Thats like protecting the criminal. I realize this wasn't real, but if a 14 year old is pregnant to a 31 year old, that is a crime. And why would she have to lie about his age. Am I missing something?
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
6 May 09
That's the abortion industry in action, doing more of its dirty deeds just to make a buck. This is par for the course for Planned Parenthood, or whoever else runs that facility. I'm with you, I hope that employee was fired.
• Finland
7 May 09
As I have not been apart of an abortion prosess nor have a actually talked to a girl about the actual process... But if she is legal of age here. they would ask something like "is the father know"? first type thing. So here this would fall under "Father unknown" type thing. I don´t know what they would do if she is under 18. or legal of age that would be 16 here thoo...
• Philippines
7 May 09
Wow,that is sorta rude!I mean in times like that, the girl is not in an easy situation wherein you can just say those. She made a wrong decision, and it creates a problem for her. Escaping the problem isn't the best thing to do here,worst is killing your own child. She's 14,very young and immature for such life she would have after giving birth of that child, but then what is more terrible then killing a complete innocent person inside your womb? That's like a great mortal sin you're probably doing. And for that woman who ask her to lie? can't she relate to the girl's situation? Oh yes,she maybe used to it then she better get a life than supporting and making the scenario gets more worse. The best way for her is to face the problem she's into and that decision alone is worth it.
@PRACYCE (49)
• United States
7 May 09
No I would take care of my responsibilities and hhope that her parents werent asswholes because people make mistakes and dont evan take care of their responsibilities and thats stupid like men today need to man up and take responsibilities for there actions
• United States
6 May 09
That is absolutely absurd! I hope that person is no longer an employee of that clinic! It is bad enough that a girl is in that situation. At 14, I am sure she was already scared about what would happen. Lying about her boyfriend's age would just be adding to her problems! I dont have children yet, but I hope that when I do they will be able to tell me anything they need to. Of course I would be shocked and upset at the situation, but I would help my child to find the best result possible. I wonder if this girl's parents already knew about the situation. It saddens me how many people will avoid telling their parents things like this because of fear.