Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?

Hi, There two broad categories that abuse or call you by name besides talking ills. One is what you have mentioned the low self esteemed people and the second one is those who are too jealous. You just can not imagine the height they could go to pull you down. The best thing to deal with such people is to laugh at them and ignore. As you ignore they feel angry for they loved to make you angry and now when the ball is hitting them they would stop doing it any more.

I feel the same Blueangel, it doesn't matter what others say. You have to trust yourself. People who has low self esteem and who can't see anyone happy, Does such things. Person who is wise and true will always motivate you, encourage you and will never tease you. In my case there is a slight difference. I was the college topper so some of my class mates went jealous of me and started calling me topper. They used to laugh at me and call me topper every time i pass near them, or i enter the class. I felt very bad. But i made my weakness my greatest strength. I participated in a Debate competition. When i went to stage, these guys started shouting, "topper, Topper". And i really felt very bad. but the crowd took it as a hooting and started clapping even before i speak. The host asked me are you a topper. I said Yes, I am the topper of this college and soon i am going to top whole university. the judges were impressed at the self confidence. and it boosted me a lot and i won that Debate. then the other day at the class i went to these boys and said thanks guys. they were ashamed at what they did and said sorry. since then we became good friends. So i have made my own saying-" Tease me if you can, and i promise to change your hearts"

very true. I used to think the other way around but as I grow older I realize that words can be forgotten and ignored where as body pain can't. Unless the words come from friends or family, I usually ignore them.

I agree that you should TRY not to let others names hurt you, and the people that say it are the ones that are low self esteemed and/or are jealous of you for whatever reason BUT sometimes that is easier said then done! Say for example someone you love tells you that they think your stupid because they have spent over an hour with you on homework! If your called something enough you just naturally tend to believe it! BUT also as you get older you start to realize more that your not all those things other people may have said, or you challenge them! Then your self esteem goes up, and you tend to let things bounce off of you like a rubber ball! It is a long process though to get to the "rubber ball" stage!

They want to keep their head up towards the sky and still wants to spit on our face but they don't know that if they will spit from such situaion, they spit would fall on their own face. So, for me, I have learnt from my experience that not only it is worthless listening to them but also one should not get influenced by the quotes!