Two timer

@yonkie (440)
Philippines
May 7, 2009 9:14am CST
Three of my friends now are not happy with their relationship. Two are suffering from being cheated because their partners are having an affair with another. The last one is doubting that her partner is having an affair with another woman. All of them said that when they confront their partner, each will always answer "I love you". And I love you more than the other woman or man. Do you think it is still love that they feel? Can you forgive a two timer?
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@pree70 (525)
• India
7 May 09
actually it depends on the situation. but personally i don't think i can tolerate it if my lover two times me. it just means the end of the relationship becaouse basically trust has been violated and what is love without trust?
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@yonkie (440)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Exactly, what is love without trust. I could say it is stupidity if you would still believe a person love you after he cheated on you.
@rsa101 (23578)
• Philippines
8 May 09
Forgiveness is really up to the person affected. I could say that it is unforgivable to be with a cheating partner. But, experience dictate differently to different situation. For me once I have proven that my partner had cheated on me I think i cold not easily forgive her and I would definitely not accept any apology or "i Love you" in there because of their insincerity in many things.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
8 May 09
They say one is a partner and two is a crowd. I believe so and there can never be an ongoing relationship plus an affair. Sooner or later, the cat will be out of the bag and all parties are going to get hurt. I used to be cheated on and it was considered a two-timing situation. I was devastated to the point of no return but one day I sat down and thought that my happiness was way important and I'm going to engage on the silent game. And that I did and the other party was worried, without the knowledge that I already knew what was going on. I started to withdraw from the relationship, but did not even blurt out one bit about my knowledge. It was killing the other party mentally and in the end, confessing to the affair. I did not work out my brain at all, all along the other party was the one to wreck the brain on the what to do next and all that. I just played along, just as I was 'played' along by the whole situation. That's what I would normally do; I don't take the direct approach to things. I can be a very straightforward person but at the same time, I want to retain some privacy in this matter and let the person figure out and in the end confessing to their own deeds. And some might ask what if your partner whom you suspects still do not confess? Then it's time you have a life of your own, meet new people and show the other party that you already know in that indirect sense. They will fess up, trust me.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
8 May 09
Hi Yonkie, I will say "Good Bye" to my boyfriend or my husband if i ever find out his is cheating on me. I am kind of person that i will trust you from the begining to the end. But i ever find out you are cheating on me by myself, i will break up without hesitation. I told this to my boyfriend on our first date. And he does understand. I think cheating is different then the white lies, he don't want to tell me his past even sometimes i am very curious, he told me he will rather be a blank paper to me. I think that is the love.
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
7 May 09
In a relationship, trust is very important to each other.You can't feel the true happiness If you're always doubting your partner because, you don't have trust. not like us my partner, we're both stick to one and trust to each other and we're happy together.
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@iwrite (5040)
• Singapore
7 May 09
isn't relationship a funny thing, what do you think your friends should in if you are in their position? And yet do they actually do it. To me, two timer is nothing new, in the animal kingdom it is still how life is. Males are build the way we are and female are build they way you are. The issue is the is your mental strength would have to be strong then one would be able to resist temptation.
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@luvandpower (2049)
• United States
7 May 09
In a relationship there has to be trust in between both parties. When people cheat on each other, I look at it not from the view of them being the worst person in the world, but from the view of why? Why does a person cheat? How do you go about bringing up emotions such as this? What do you do in a situation where cheating may happen or has already occurred? Unlike common thought the male is truly afraid of the female sometimes, and he may not know how to tell the girlfriend/wife. What do you honestly do in a situation like that? You can already expect hatred, pain, crying, and etc. I think when two people say they love each other, then it is the full truth. There is no " false love. " What I find amazing still is that love can vary in so many levels. Forgiving would only be the first step of trust in a situation such as this.
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