Hey! Help me... I have a mama's boy husband.

You two need to stan up on your own feet and move away, if you can. You like the fact his parents help you then you have to put up with the rest of it. It doesn't sound like you can make it with out their help. You cannot have it both ways.

Well my gut reaction has to do with my Christian faith, which would refer to Genesis 2:24 which says "For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh". Without getting into a Sunday sermon, it doesn't sounds as if he's completely left his parents. That said, he did ask your advice. Is it possible that he considered the advice he has gotten from both of you, and made what he thought to be the best choice for his family? Be careful to examine yourself, that you are not judging his motives. Being jealous can tear your entire marriage apart. Instead rejoice in the fact that he does ask your advice when few husbands do. Then when he finds out you were right, he will be more apt to take it later. But whatever happens, make sure that you do not over react and make him not want to ask you advice next time for fear you'll have a melt down if he chooses something else. If there is more to this than simply choosing a different position at work, try using "I feel" statements. Say I feel hurt when you always ask your parents advice, instead of mine. Try and avoid "Why" question. "Why don't you do what I suggest?" "Why do you do what your mother wants?" Those come across accusatory, and he'll be less inclined to discuss things with you next time. If things are more complicated than that, hopefully you go to a good Bible teaching church. If so, ask if they have marriage counseling. Many churches have low-cost or no-cost counseling support for people. Don't be shy about that either. There's this crazy idea that all you need is love. Sorry, but having a good marriage is hard on the best days. It takes hard work and effort, and everyone needs help sometimes. Best of luck :)

I think you should have an open discussion with your husband regardign this and make him understand your point. It doesn't mean that your father followed what your inlaws said. He might have thought that it is the best way. Also, we would not have rejected your opinion because you made the opinion, but there wouls have been some disadvantages over that. This issue happens with many people I know. So, this is not only your issue. Please have a healthy conversation with your husband regarding this. Don't keep it in mind and make the situation worse.

My husband is an only child. He grow up with his mom. Though we really have the option to live with his mom, my husband opted to get our own place when we got married. We are just an average earner but we really live within our means. Though we have our own place, her mom have so much opinion that at times if you believe everything she says, you will feel very insulted. lol. As a mature person, I just accepted the fact that she still deserve my respects and my husband loves me more for doing that. Just go with the flow, it is not healthy to compete with his parents. If he decides to follow his parent's advise, I think he was considering you and your child for coming up with the decision. As a wife, you support his decision. Showing your unhappiness and disappointment for his decision can only makes him stressful.

I feel you are a kind wife.This is a problem I think.In my country there are also this kind of problems. So more and more young couples don't want to live near their parents. In my opinion,you should talk with your husband and tell him your thought.It is normal that you have the feeling.If I were you,I also have the sense.I think it is your life.Really parents can give us good advice because they have more experciences.But it is you and your husband to live life and to solve variety problems.As an adult ,we should deal with matters by ourselves.It is not proper to consult his parents for everything.

Wouldnt you want your son to trust you for advice even when he grows up. I mean how can you expect him to not ask his parents for advice. But then how can you be two faced about the problem. I mean they are good as long as they help you in your need. But then they are bad if their son who in turn is your husband gives them respect enough to go ask them once when deciding of the finacial problem. His parents are that much older. They know their son much better than you do. I mean how can you just have take take in a relationship and then not want to give anything in return. Let go. Dont resist this. Once you do this, trust me your husband will come to you for advice too. Try taking part in the conversation. Go talk to his parents just like that. Just opinions about this and that. Soon you will develop this family thing about certain things. Dont let this disappointed and unhappiness creep into your relationship. It is not worth breaking up a family.

ugh...that sux...i'm so grateful my hubby doesn't give a hoot about his parents... but i do think it's wrong of him to have to consult his parents especially after speaking to u about things....he is no longer dependent on them and he is in a relationship with u...so now it's about u n him no longer about them.

That's the problem when you live near your in-laws. You should learn to cope with it or better stay far from them. You will get a lot of wrinkles if you dwell so much on that problem. Learn to deal with it by not expecting so much that your husband will listen to you.

Let me guess, Filipino? I am not going to wait for your answer. In my opinion, only Filipinos have that tight and close relationship with their families, to the point of living in one compound so that they can be near each other, or in worse cases, living under one roof! In America, adolescents reaching eighteen are given their independence to do what they want with their life. About your problem, talk with your husband and tell him everything. Now, ask him if he would be willing to compromise and let you be the queen of your house, and not his mother. If he insists that he still need to consult his parents for big decisions, then you have to respect his view. I am sure your husband would not do anything that would harm you or your child and that everything that he does is for the best. All right?

See Ktine, when we are accepting the good side of something than we have to take a few not so good things as well. It happens all the time. When you are happy with the advantages you are getting by your in-laws living near you then you have to compromise on a few little things as well. As for your husband, i guess he should do something to make you feel better about it by trying to discuss with you or by letting you know why he is choosing their decision. But if he don't care enough to explain it to you then i guess you shouldn't feel bad as now they are your parents as well and they have more experience about life as we do. You haven't mentioned anything bad about them here and that shows they are treating you and your children nicely so show your big heart and don't be depressed over these small things. :) Though i wish your husband make you feel better about this. Regards.

First, try to talk with him about it. There's nothing than having an open communication in a relationship. Next is that you should not forget the importance of "understanding". You're two different people with two different worlds before you were actually together. There is this space in him that you can't just take away nor he can take away yours. It's somehow a matter of respect for the one you love I guess.